Her attitude towards me changed over night?

Me and this girl were friends with benefits. The sex was great and getting better every time. We were always flirting. Then all of a sudden her attitude changed. she's bitchy and negative towards everything I do. Its almost like she's not the same person. I have tried talking to her about it, she says nothings wrong. Our sex went from amazing to horrible. She'll 'get off' then stops and won't let me finish, this has happened the last three times. We ended up getting into a fight over something stupid and I just ended up telling her I was sorry. It seemed like things started going well again over text and we planned on hanging out that night. She said she would call after work, I said "ok, I miss you." Its been 4 days, she didn't call to hangout or reply to that text, I haven't heard from her since. -I tell her I miss her in a text and then she stops talking to me? - WTF is going on? - Did I do something wrong, I don't get it. - Do girls just randomly change their attitude and personality with someone after being with them for a month?
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Thanks for all the comments. I spent some time thinking this through. - Camilus your right, I should stop acting like a jealous boyfriend. - TheChristian your situation that you describe could very much be true It's been 5 days since contacted each other. I ended up sending her a text. She seemed more than happy that I started texting her. We got talking, I asked her if she wanted to hangout. She said yes and suggested a day.
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She eventually informed me that she was on her period so she just wants to hangout. Would that suggest more towards the relationship? I was going to take Toulouse advice and just strait up ask her but she beat me to the punch line and said she had a confession she's not completely over her ex who dumped her and then moved. Not exactly sure where this is going. Relationship , FWB or just friends maybe? Lol guess ill keep you all informed what the end result is.
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  • fwb is not a relationship, you shouldn't read to much into it.

    Find a new fwb.

    You guys seem to communicate like its a relationship though and that is what is making everything confusing.

    A woman can only be a friends with benefits for so long. Especially one who really wants to be in a relationship. looks like your friends with benefits can only go a month as a woman with no soul.

    I know that I want to have a meaningful relationship and want a man to want me for more than my body so my friends with benefits is only gonna be temporary

    If you are just gonna be my d*** then just be my d***.

    personally, I have rules and you should have rules too.

    -if we are friends with benefits then you should already know that this has got to end at some point anyway. I will get tired of a guy just using me for my body and not even caring about me the way that I really want so I stop talking to him after a couple of weeks. 3 f***s is my limit. And if I still haven't met the guy that I am looking for after awhile then I might hit you back up for 3 more f***s

    -got your name in my phone as "Side Dick1" or "Side Dick2" gotta have more then one side d*** just in case.

    -I don't want to be seen with you like we are a couple or even friends because that might make potential relationship material guys think I am not available.

    -Don't catch feelings for me because I don't want you to become my baggage, I can't have you stalking me, or if you see me out with my friends or new boyfriend I can't have you getting jealous and causing a scene, calling me names and stuff like that.

    • "You guys seem to communicate like its a relationship though and that is what is making everything confusing." Ya it really does

    • Haha your answer was amusing. And I've never heard of rules that specific. F***ing in threes, huh? Lol. Maybe I need to develop some stricter friends with benefits rules. It sounds so much healthier!

  • Lol your friends with benefits just turned into a relationship lol. I continue to repeat myself to men and women that most women are not meant for this kind of relationship and everyone just wants to call me oldfashioned but the truth is that its just the truth. Men already know how different men and women think however you want to believe that women can just turn off who they are and be like you when it comes to sex. She's been wowing you and giving you her all and You still haven't realized how great she is to want to make her your girlfriend so now she's ticked and detaching herself from you. You wanting to talk and chasing her is her subconscious way of seeing if she means anything to you. She however is not considering that you only care because you want sex from her and interprets you chasing her for sex as you caring. Sorry but your friends with benefits is over now one way or another.

    • Well if she changing her attitude and I am asking her what's wrong wouldn't that kinda suggest that I care? I would of been happy to be in a relationship with her but I kinda figured that's what she didn't want.

    • Unless she said that I'm not sure what occurred that would make you figure that. Its very possible you only asked what's wrong when the sex changed. Other things have probably been changing that you didn't even notice. Unfortunately, it sounds like she's preparing herself to move on by detaching herself from you.

    • hmmm Any ideas how I would go about finding that out? or is it completely over?

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  • speaking from my personal experience

    -if she is actually in this for just benefits she doesn't want anything serious. which means she is using you. you are dispensensable and replaceable (well your penis is) so she can be a less considerate towards you because she is not committed. which leads to the next posible reason

    -she's getting bored with you, you're starting to annoy her for what ever reason and she is ready to end the whole thing.



    -she sounds like she may also have trouble communicating something to you. for what ever reason she may need something from you or want to tell you something your doing that she doesn't like -whatever it may be- but she can't so she's is just going to be mean.

    save yourself the drama and give what you get...she doesn't text then you dont. if she needs you you'll know I guess lol

    • Ya I agree. Just gonna save myself the drama and go with the flow. What ever happens from here happens. No point losing sleep over it

    • Good answer assley. I think all the info you provided killed 2 birds with one stone because it helped a problem of mine too lol.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Speaking from experience, I believe that when a FWB ignores you or suddenly acts different it means they found another FWB or they are trying to get back together with their current boyfriend/husband (if they were cheating on them with you).

    Also, if you start talking to her like a rejected boyfriend you will never hear from her again. You have to text her only about once or twice a week using flirty words and remind her how much fun she had when you screwed her brains out - and it will take a little bit for her to come back around. You have to keep it 100% sexual and don't even mention love or feelings. The reason you are her FWB and not her boyfriend is because she is horny and not looking to settle down ...so stop acting like a jealous boyfriend when you talk to her.

    • Makes sense.

    • Agreed.

    • This really sunk on me. Definitely took time to think how I been acting and I realize I shouldn't if this is just FWB. Not sure if the situation is just that but I definitely was playing my part wrong. Thanks for the reality check.

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  • Plain and simple.. She just wants to be fwb. You said you missed her and she never called back... You say she finishes and doesn't let you and gets bitchy.. Obviously its all about sex, you need to decide to not act like your in a relationship.. Because that's what friends with benefits is

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  • Maybe you did something you don't know about that she found disrespectful. Maybe she was rejected by another guy and is discontent, taking it out on you. Maybe she wants more with you - you get all of the benefits of a relationship without calling her your girlfriend, after all, and you don't even seem to want more. Maybe she wants more from HERSELF.

    It could be anything.

  • @ the update..seems she is an emotional wreck and doesn't know what she wants. give her space and be there for her, or just forget her

  • I'm thinking she wants to be in a relationship and is mad you don't feel the same way as she does

  • I think she is acting this way because maybe she wants you but is mad at the fact that you both are just friends with benefits. This is starting to sound like a relationship if she doesn't want to talk to you now then just give her a little time and after a day or two ask her what's wrong like what happened.

  • Maybe its her time of month, and I'm being so serious about that. She's hormonal and moody, and cannot think consistently. Give her a few days to clear her head.

  • IMO, she's getting attached, but doesn't WANT to be...so she's pushing you away.

    I've had a similar situation happen to me.

  • Pms?

  • Maybe she was getting attached to you.

  • She obviously likes you and wants an actual relationship. She's probably upset at you for only wanting her for sex, and doesn't understand why she's worth more to you. But she consented to this so, so she's probably mad at herself too because she has no right to be mad at you because you agreed on this type of relationship. But she's no longer satisfied with just sex and flirting...or so it would seem.

  • It sounds like she decided to change her mind about being just friends with benefits. She probably got mad and felt like she was being used?!

  • thats life

  • i guessing she started to have feelings towards you

  • I have no idea. The same thing happened with my friends with benefits (a guy). Maybe she has feelings for you like other people suggested. But if so, its a funny way of showing them. How weird.