Why does he want to please me more than himself?

i'm just kind of friends with benefits with this guy that I kind of dated two years ago (we just didn't really click but we're friends now). whenever we hook up he always tries so hard to please me but it just doesn't really work and I feel bad but I don't really understand why its so important if we're not like in a relationship or anything,we're just casual


Most Helpful Guy

  • There is always the possibility that he likes you more than you think, but it may also be the kind of person he is. I feel like that, if I don't really satisfy my partner, I'm not really "doing my job". There's a lot of pressure on guys to be good in bed and to think about their partners needs before their own. Especially if he fancies himself as even a little bit 'gentleman'. Is Chivalry at all a part of who he is? If so, it may just be part of his 'code of honor', or whatever you want to call it.


What Guys Said 4

  • Could be a combination of reasons:

    - he's a generous guy

    - he wants to feel like a stud by making you cum

    - it turns him on to see you get off

    - he figures since its just sex, and women can get casual sex easy, he better deliver or you'll get someone else

    I would not assume it means he has feelings for you outside of sex.

  • He can please himself by himself, if he's gonna be with you he'll want to be damn sure you're getting your share of pleasure both for his own ego boost and to keep you coming back for more.

  • Perhaps he likes to think he pleases you

    Talk to him about it, perhaps he needs to feel as if you are pleased by him

    If you want to feel pleased , try oral ;)

    Source: being a male


What Girls Said 3

  • It could just be how he is. Some guys prefer to please the girl more and get more aroused by doing so.

  • I don't think it is so much that he is trying to impress you I think it's more of a self accomplishment. I think for some guys it is a turn on knowing that they did a good job Kind of like a self-esteem thing. If you are friends and that makes him feel better then maybe you should try Faking a few orgasms every now and then And that will help him to feel like he did a good job. I don't think it's because he wants a relationship or anything he just wants the self-esteem Boost And sometimes watching a girl orgasm is a big turn on for a guy.

  • Maybe he thinks if he pleasures you like that...you might like him more? some guys are just like that tho... its werid. He Probably likes you way more then you think.