I fell in love with my friends with benefits and he said he has feelings for me but he has a girlfriend is the

[Anonymous]

We've been bffs for 6 years and both had a crush on each other but were to shy to say anything. He's been with this girl for a few years and even lives with her but they fight all the time. A couple months ago he told me how he felt about me but only wanted to b fwbs. I was in a relationship at the time but broke up with him shortly after my friends confession I told myself it wasn't Because of that but I know it was. I decided to try the friends with benefits thing and fell hopelessly in love. I told him how I felt but at the same time he wanted to end it (not Because I fell in love). I asked him if he had feelings for me and he said yes that's why this is bad. I don't know what to do or if there's even anything I can do but I can't not b with him please help!

[lghulm]

You got yourself into this mess! - it was very cruel of you and him to do this to his current girlfriend especially for the sake of just having sex.

IMO you have 3 ways you can go: encourage him to leave his girl and come to you, wait for him or forget the relationship for now and direct yourself towards other men.

Give it a month or two of separation and who knows, maybe he will realize he misses you and desires you more than his current girl and will come over to you. Then I think everyone can be happy as his girlfriend would be better off without a cheating partner.

If he doesn't come to you then he may have reasons to prefer being with the other girl and you may have been saved from some trouble as there is no reason he wouldn't cheat on you in the future if you were together.

If you continued with the FWB's thing forever (whilst in love) then eventually it would have become very upsetting for you as I am sure you would have wanted more.

I would say you really are better off that this has happened, you now have the option of a real relationship with him in the future or of redirecting yourself to a more promising relationship with someone else.

(Your last option would be to meet with his girlfriend and spill the beans as she deserves to know the truth although this could have crazy consequences. Maybe you could all settle on having an open relationship?)

[xyhic]

You dumped a guy for another who is cheating on his girlfriend with you. Fix yourself and find decent guy and don't tell him about this. Its kind of trashy to be honest

[toulouse]

you want to be with a guy who has a girlfriend but claims to be in love with u? hd do the same thing to u.

its unethical for him to be cheating on her. he should've broken up with her before having sex with u, or just NOT having sex with u.

anywasy if you guys are in lovweyoure no longer in a fwb. which is ostensibly just sex no feelings.

anyways you either get together or just stay friends. but the sex has to stop, he's got a girlfriend. its pure cheating. doesn't matter if you call it bff or fwb. its cheating.

[tiredofwaiting]

I think you need to cut him out of your life he is only going to hurt you.

[Anonymous]

He will have his cake (or p****) and eat it too. He will bore of the both of you or just you and get more women to phuck around with. Don't be a fool