Are people actually "friends with benefits" or more like "acquaintances with benefits"?

[Anonymous]

I feel like some people on here ask questions like "I met this guy only once we flirt some in class I think we should be friends with benefits." It might as well be called "acquaintances with benefits." Then you have the best friends worrying that if they tell the other person they like them they'll flip out and ruin the relationship. Can people actually be legitimate friends and be friends with benefits? I am not thinning of ever having a friends with benefits relationship by the way I think it's kind of stupid but I'm still curious

[Red_Arrow]

I think originally FWB really meant friends, not acquaintances. People wanted sexual release occasionally but did not want to be tied into a demanding relationship that usually went with sexual relationships (busy with school, emotional issues, etc). So they made arrangements with a friend they could trust to be clean and not blab about the relationship. And it was just one person. Recently I have seen postings on here from girls with several FWBs (who knew about each other). Also, some girls have stated here that they would not get into FWB relations with a friend (obviously the conflict in the terms is interesting). So it does seem to have changed to be quite casual and with less than friends.

[MrOracle]

FWB is *mostly* a benefit for guys, because most guys have the ability to have and enjoy sex without needing (or in many cases WANTING) an emotional connection. Most girls can't do that; they develop feelings whether they want them or not due to their biology. Yes, there are exceptions, but as a rule, girls lose when they try to have a FWB relationship.

I wrote about that here:

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Only a few of the most mature people can handle a FWB relationship and not get attached and not let it change their relationship. The problem is that everyone thinks THEY are the exception, when they are almost always the rule, and then they wonder why they ended up getting hurt and feeling used.

[missblair]

Ur right its more acquaintances with benefits , I was dating this guy and then we both came to the conclusion we haven't had a connection and haven't clicked , he is really god looking but he makes me bored and I don't find him funny but our sex life was insanely hot and really rough so we agreed we wouldn't look for a partner we would just enjoy life but continue to sleep together ( we aren't friends because we find each other so boring and would never hang out together)

[TwistedLogic]

I think it lost its meaning. From what I understand, a FWB relationship occurs when two friends decide to start having sex with each other, with no strings attached. The example you listed is better described as "f*** buddies", which is a relationship that was initiated solely for sexual purposes, also with no strings attached.

[Asker]

The question was not limited to the examples I gave which were two extremes. Ok, lets say real FWB no strings attached. Are those people really actually friends to begin with still?

[TwistedLogic]

Yeah, why not? Friendships don't imply lack of sexual interest. It is just two people who happen to be friends and are having sex as some sort of an activity ( just like they go camping, jogging, drinking, etc...).

[ricke92m3]

Most people we call friends are just acquaintances. The way I think of it is if the person is basically my family they are my friend. So yeah, it's basically f*** buddies.

[Asker]

oh gosh so you would do a family member? D:

[ricke92m3]

No what the hell are you talking about? I said a f*** buddy is not a friend, they are just that, a f*** buddy.

[Konnour]

It's the latter

Horny teenagers or young adults with no values or self-control

What kind of friends could they be? They just USE EACH OTHER

[mattygfromtheMD32]

I believe those are more or less "f*** buddies"

[Asker]

you mean the first people I described? If not then why do so many people still call it fwb?