Any change of this Taurus man to take me back?

[akabebe]

He is 38 and I'm 40. We started as friends with benefits about a year an a half ago, but then 4 months ago we became exclusive. He always told me I was the one and were a lot of silver linings between us that made him ever closer to me . he was so romantic and seem so much into me. We like to do same things and think alike. However we leave 120 miles apart, so I always went to c him and stayed at his house. But I guess, I always expected to do this every wknd and we weren't together , I will fuzz at him and act possessive.All his friends like me and we had fun times, but I always complain to his friends that I felt I was more into him that the other way round. He wouldn't call me during the week.I didn't feel important and let him know bout it.Last wknd I was in town staying at one of his friends house(female)because he was going to a wedding in which you couldn't bring a guess,and I got drunk and demanded that I wanted to go to his house ans spend the night, then because I didn't have my way, I started to curse him out by txting him nasty sh*t. I sent a short text to apologize, but he just texted me back that he was really mad and that he was gonna call me the next day, but he should just b friends. That I was a wonderful person and thought I was the one, but we weren't compatible. Well, he call me the next day and left me a message saying the same thing, I called him bck right away and he reinstated that he loves me, but wasn't in love w me like he thought, that maybe he just tried to make things work because he thought I was the one. Again, he went on and on saying that I am beautiful, we had great sex, the best looking girl he has ever dated, I have been the only girl since we started as friends with benefits that has been with, but something was missing and that mayb he just wanted to b single. he assure me that he is not looking for anyone else, and that he just was not ready for a relationship. Then he went on telling me that he wants to b friends and for me to continue to b friends w his friends because everyone liked me. That he wasn't sure if he ever will change his mind and he didn't wan to string me along and that I deserve better and meet someone who wants to b in a relationship. I didn't know what to say, told him couldn't b his friend for now. He said that he was gonna call me or text me to check up on me, I told him not to bother unless he had a change of heart. He still have pix of us on FB and his female friends are checking up on me and trying to b my friends, which I am gonna stop that sh*t, because it hurts even more, if he really is done with me.IDK what to do? I want him bck!His birthday is next week,i sent him a very powerful letter accepting the breakup, apologizing for my actions and how I made him feel. Also, ask for him to forgive me and trust me again someday and I that I would always love him as a person and how special and important he always made me feel while around him, then I closed by wishing him happy birthday and agreeing with him that we need time away from each other. I am sure he'll get that letter by tomorrow. After that letter, I am sticking with the NC until I hopefully hear from him.

[TrueLove74]

Did he ever tell you that he loved you? I mean truly say "I love you", not just "luv ya"? Anyway, doesn't really matter because the best thing you can do for yourself is to keep the No Contact rule going. You truly need to move on with your life, and if he is meant to be in it, then he will be. Don't allow yourself to get back with him for the same situation. Make sure you are both on the same page, or it will cause nothing but heartache and confusion. I truly believe that timing is the main key to any successful relationship. Not the only thing, but needs to be number one thing. Both parties need to be on the same page. If this means you move on, and meet someone else, then that is the way it should be. IF you happen to be in the same place when and if he is ready, then that is your choice to make. Hope this helps.

Oh, and to answer you question about being in love vs loving. To most men, "in love" is infatuation. That is honeymoon phase. Really truly being in love with someone is accepting them 100% for all of their faults, etc. IT is meant to build over time, not happen instantly. So, yes, do I believe that he could fall in love with you, yes. But only if you both are on the same page.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he will give you another chance.

He's just not ready for a relationship.

Keep the NC and continue on your life.

If you still haven't heard from him, find another guy already.

[TrueLove74]

The best thing to do is stick to your guns. If you want a serious relationship, and he can't give it to you,let him go. No contact at all. When you are ready, you will start dating again. Make sure you find someone that wants what you want. Trust me, if you are in 2 different places, it will never work. I know from experience. Save yourself the heartache that I went through. The only time it will work if BOTH of you want the same things, which includes an exclusive relationship with each other!

[Anonymous]

The chances of him dating you again is about 50%. It seems that you're not the girl for him at the moment.

[akabebe]

so, what should I do? I want him back and we always thought we were gonna b together forever someday. I am using the NC rule, but to tell you the truth, I really do not feel like hanging out with him right now either. If he ever calls me back again to try to work things out, I would feel like I'm under his scope and I won't b able to b myself again because I'll b afraid of loosing him again and mess things up...I'm very confused and hurt. I really want him back