Do you wish society was more sexually liberal?

Question

Do you wish (Western) society was more sexually liberal? I do. I wish people had fewer hang-ups about sex and were more willing to discuss and pursue their sexual desires instead of playing games and lying. For example most of us have fantasized about a threesome. Are you willing to go through life without ever experiencing one? I’m not. Sex should of course be taken seriously because of the risk of emotional upset, unwanted pregnancy and STDs. But why are people so afraid to enjoy sexual liberation? Even people who consider themselves ‘polyamorous’ seem to have their hang-ups. They basically seem to have adopted the ‘monoamorous’ model but with multiple partners. I wish we lived in a society where orgies, group sex, threesomes, sexual experimentation etc were considered normal, healthy activities to be enjoyed instead of disgusting, immoral, shameful acts. Even masturbation is considered something to hide and lie about, lol. Some of the major results of the change I hope for I think would be: more people would be practicing bisexuals (especially women); people would feel more sexually confident and less sexually repressed; people wouldn’t confuse lust with love as often as they currently do. Things haven’t always been the way they are now.  The concepts of sexual orientation and sexual identity are Victorian at the earliest. And Greece and Rome, the cradles of Western civilization, were much more open to (true) polyamory than we are (though obviously I disapprove of the rape, slavery and other coercion).

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes and no

I wish people were less judgmental about other people's sexual preferences and behaviors. What people do in their own bedroom is beautiful to them and no one else should care about or judge it.

That said, I think the general promiscuousness of society has been harmful in a lot of ways. I think a lot of girls think it's their pathway to happiness and equality but are too young and immature when they do it to recognize how it will affect them later in life. It becomes a part of who they are that they wish they could go back and change, but it's too late. In life, the real and the ideal rarely merge.

Women who value commitment and save themselves for a committed relationship rather than f***ing any guy they find attractive almost invariably end up respecting themselves more and being more satisfied in their relationships in the long run. Today we like to blame that on traditional attitudes and double standards but I believe it goes much deeper than that.

For women, the "benefits" associated with a FWB relationship are usually short-lived. It's a politically incorrect statement to be sure, but true nonetheless.

I'm heartened to see more young women today than 10 - 20 years ago who recognize that and respect themselves enough to wait for marriage, or at least a committed, loving relationship. In general, in the long run they will happier respect themselves more for it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

No. The reason? No matter who is traditional or liberal about their sexuality, I still don't care what people do in their sex lives. I'm worried about mine, so they should be worried about theirs.

Now what I would like to see happen is for people to quit being so uptight about people having sex, and to also quit being so damn concerned about everyone else. I'm not a girl but slut shamers irritate the hell out of me. Whenever those types of people say something about a girl that has a lot of sex, there is an obvious air of superiority in their tone like they're looking down on that person. And when you call them out, they either don't know why they say those things or they try to turn it around on you because you say something different from the norm. It's really silly and I tell them that it's odd for them to be so concerned about someone else's sex life.

But yeah, our society is really weird- we see sex everywhere we look, yet it's a taboo topic in some form. I don't understand the dual attitude on it in our society.

heavenonearth · Accepted Answer

I'd be happy if people just didn't project their insecurities and hang-ups on everyone else. A person who enjoys exploring their sexuality shouldn't be shamed for it, and I also don't think people who aren't very sexually adventurous should be looked down on for that. The problem comes when one group of people thinks they know what's normal and right for everyone, and consequently degrade those who have views different from their own. We need to all just do our own thing and accept that what we want might be different from what other people want, and there's nothing wrong with that.

abundantlyrich · Accepted Answer

I think we have been currently more sexually liberal than, say, in the last few centuries. Back then, It was okay

to do it with several partners but not just don't open our mouths about it.

The priests and nuns did it private too. :-P Incest relationships was much more common those days too... Female didn't have rights either. More power to them now...

calialltheway1993 · Accepted Answer

No... That is not part of the norm. I portray sexual things and sex itself as a private act.

valkillerbaby · Answer

Sex is something personal and people should talk about it with their partners (no matter if it's one or multiple).

backagainagain · Answer

Did you know that more sexual liberal societies have less cases of STD's and unwanted pregnancies?

Alessus · Answer

I for one have little difficulty talking about sexual stuff and I have noticed that the same does not hold true to all. But do I wish society was more sexually liberal? I don't know. I mean people do what they want and act how they want, in the end, it always comes back to what you want and don't want to do. So if this society is what majority of the people want to keep up, then so be it.

normalice · Answer

Of course. Most guys wish this sort of thing. I think on some level girls wish it too, but there is a social nonacceptance to it that they can't get past - a general assumption that girls who have fewer sexual partners are "better" in some way. It doesn't make a lot of sense but it does provide criteria for judging each other, which is essential to self-esteem. The problem I have is that it doesn't really matter what that criteria is - so why pick on sex? There is an abundance of other criteria available to allow people to feel better than one another: I do wish society would drop this one, but that's unrealistic as people have already based their self-esteem on it and those people would fight tooth-and-nail to prevent this criteria from becoming considered invalid or obsolete.

dwiller943 · Answer

I agree with you.

MikeK · Answer

I agree whole-heartedly!

Anonymous · Answer

I agree with you. Everyone is so hush hush and taboo about sex and sexual acts. I believe we should be more open and experimental in a safe environment.

Anonymous · Answer

dude you seem to have no idea of what you are asking by saying western society, Europe is light years ahead of the united states in terms of being sexually liberated, and I am sure they are both western cultures. There are naked and seminaked people in TV in Europe and its no big deal, and the list goes on

Anonymous · Answer

Anything liberal always starts out good and ends bad. People get too carried away and then everything goes to crap as a result. I am not saying that we should all be fun-haters and not have sex, but I think we all need to be more responsible about everything.