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Guys do you really get tired after you come?

my boyfriend doesn't last long in bed at all he usually cums after 4-5 strokes and during a bj he lasts up to 2 minutes. despite not lasting very long I always want to give him bjs and have sex so maybe he will get used to the "feeling" and be able to last longer. the other problem is I never finish during sex yes he fingers me and eats me out but he doesn't do it right and doesn't try hard enough. he goes down on me for afew seconds then stops I'm very clean waxed and don't smell I don't know what his problem is. since I don't finish I like to give him some time to rest and go for round 2 but he says he's so tired. I don't expect him to be on top again, I want to ride him so maybe I could finish. I never get to ride him because he's always too tired so I want to know should I give him a break do you really get tired from cumming once tired enough that you won't let your girlfriend ride you
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  • sounds strange ...

    yes of course, right after we come we can simply turn around and be sleeping like a rock within seconds, but ... every time?

    did you show him what you like when he goes down on you? as awkward it may seem, show him what you do when you masturbate, show him how to find your g-spot, etc ... if he's just inexperienced, that can be helped ... think of boys as practical and technical beings ... some of us need a users manual for things like that ;)

    in any case, I'd suggest talking to him ... maybe avoid walking straigt up to him saying "you suck in bed" and take a more diplomatic approach but once you established the topic, be direct and tell him what you want from him ...

    if you have problems finding the right time & place for that, get him into bed a little earlier than usual, and start giving him a handjob while you talk ... as you might have noticed it's hard for him to turn away from you in that situation ;)

  • Usually intercourse follows a session of foreplay, whether oral or hand. All three are part of "lasting". If you want longer intercourse, limit oral or hand to the minimum needed to get him fully hard and then mount up.

    Most of us don't get multiple orgasms in a session of lovemaking. The best I have ever done is to reload in about 6 hours. I focus on getting her almost exhausted by a continuous 10-minute orgasm from hand and oral so I can mount up and finish in a few minutes. When I do it right, I can catch the end of her orgasm during intercourse and finish together. It takes practice and knowing your lover.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Your boyfriend sounds like a d***, also he has NO stamina.

    Being tired is normal after sex/after coming... if you actually did something. Which by the sound of it, he hasn't.

  • Well I just think he is kind of a wimp, no offense really

    • lol I'm not offended at all thanks for your opinion :)

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  • From a guys standpoint, I agree with Hyped_up_on_coffee, to a tee.

    He sounds lazy as f***. Or, weirdly, not interested in sex. This is a shame because a girl deserved to be licked down until she can not come anymore. ;-). Lol, I love every aspect of sucking p**** especially. And the kicker is your likely hott as hell too. I have heard this story from a lot of married women I have known over the years, and it is a shame cause they were hott as hell.

  • well yes we get tired. orgasms release endorphins in the brain (same chemical released during working out or smoking marijuana) it gives a feeling of euphoria; so it also relaxes the body so a person may feel lethargic or tired.

    that all said it sounds to me like your guy is a selfish lover. If a guy finishes fast he should either take care of the woman first or afterward. He can't simply get his and then lay back and say he's tired and let that be it.

    I would communicate with him that the status quo of the sexual relationship is not satisfying you. maybe give him tips on how to please you either with his finger or orally also you can get him to start slowing down during sex because it sounds like he is just plowing away to get to an orgasm.

    if he is unwilling to address your sexual needs you need to decide whether or not you want to be with a guy who doesn't consider you during physical intimacy

  • Yes, but men should feel obliged to satisfy their woman. If I was busting my load quick because my girl was so fine, I'd prepare for the next time by busting beforehand. If that doesn't work, I'm using my fingers and tongue until she finishes first.

  • no I don't get tired I get more hungry.

  • For this answer at least, I think the guys have a better understanding that the girls below.

    After climaxing, a guy feels sleepy -- not tired.

    I can understand your needs, and it's only fair that both make an attempt to help each other to climax. Try to get him to engage in more foreplay. Maybe manual stimulation with massage or something of the sort.

    You should move to giving him oral (or sex) after you come.

    The problem is that one or the other will lose interest in climaxing. Younger women sometimes take more time to climax. Google for "sensate focus", where both partners try to alternatively pleasure each other, one at a time. It works.

  • yes, some guys do get tired

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  • Wow...4-5 strokes? I'm sure that is a record of some kind. You should contact Guinness.

  • If you're cool with just riding him for round 2, I'm not sure what the hell his problem is. Does he get it up after cumming the first time?

    • yes. he's still hard when we stop but he lets it get soft so I have to give him a bj to get him hard again

    • If he just came it's going to get soft, so that's understandable. But if you suck him back to another erection, then by all means--climb aboard and ride him!

  • He's lazy

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