I lost weight and now he wants me back?

[Anonymous]

This guy and I were good friends turned friends with benefits. We hooked up off and on for about a year and prior to hooking up we were roommates and good friends for like 6+ months. He ended up being a d*** and I called him out on it and he blocked me from all social media (yeah, real mature. I know). Anyway, I am still really good friends with his sister and the rest of his family because we were also all roommates. Over the last few months I've lost a bunch of weight and just generally feel a lot better. I sang in his sister's wedding for the first dance and the father daughter dance and now after seeing me, he has been trying to make amends. Is this normal? I am not going to take him back but I am kind of surprised. Like he was so mad or whatever that he blocked me and this is all it took for him to change his mind? Wtf? What do you think? Has this ever happened to you?

[fancykat1]

This is normal but it's also ridiculous and pathetic. I did have something somewhat similar happen to me. I lost a little bit of weight and started dressing fancier again and the toxic person wanted back in. I'm not sure why but when you get a toxic person out of your life and you do better for your self, they act so thirsty and want to be around you when you've changed in appearance or attitude. Talk to him again IF you want to, but don't consider him anything more than an acquaintance.

[QueenTiffanyB87]

Not surprising. Its kind of pathetic actually.

Good for you though for calling him out.

Also I applaud you for exercising and being happy with your life :)

[clashcity22]

He's not worth your time. He's shallow. If anyone comes back for someone after they lose weight, then they only care about appearance. I'd just reject him flat out if he asks you our or even for sex. Why would you want to be with someone who only cares about how you look? Let him go and move on. There's way better guys out there for you, especially ones that want to be with you for your personality, just like it should be.

[Asker]

I already did reject him. I was just surprised by this behavior

[MrAtticusLebowski]

If you truly believe that's the case I'd say no. Dude sounds shallow as sh*t.

[Asker]

if I truly believe what is the case?

[MrAtticusLebowski]

That he's decision to make amends is solely based on your weight loss. Idk, seems wrong to me.

[Asker]

well I haven't spoken to him in two months. when he blocked me and didn't even talk to me about it, I just let it go. I know he was always attracted to me since we hooked up for so long but seeing as to how the only thing that has changed in the last two months, aside from not seeing each other, is my appearance...so what else could it be?

[MrAtticusLebowski]

Us men can be pretty shallow, especially when we're younger. Sorry but your conclusion is probably correct.

[Asker]

yeah he's not that young. he's 27, so I don't know what his excuse is ha ha he's just an a**. but I haven't responded to him at all. I guess I was just curious to see what other people would have to say about it.

[kereru]

didn't want you then, can't have you now, enjoy it. consider it karma pay back.