Are you "using" him? He is the one working his way in a foreign culture here. You're on your home base. Maybe you should give the poor guy some slack and try to understand his position?
For all I know, he may be desperately sending signals and waiting for you to do some obscure little thing before he knows you accept him. Or he is just happy with whatever you're doing together right now and see no reason to go any further. Is that using you? Are you using him?
That being said, in my cultural setting, you'd be considered an item allready they way you're going on.0 0 0 0There's nothing wrong with wanting company and affection, so I wouldn't phrase it that he's 'using' you. He needs company and affection; he's far from home and famil and just broke up with a girl friend.
He's probably in a high rebound emotional state, so he wants your company. But he's being honest about it; he is leaving soon, so isn't pressing you to have sex and isn't making any false claims about being together long term.
Enjoy his company while you can.0 0 0 0You're right, but what I meant was, does he just want company or my company in particular?
Oh, I think he genuinely likes you, but all the same, you may have been the first unattached girl he met...
Well, all our friends are single and so are the girls he has met (I've been invited to their house parties by him). However he's not that close to them. He did say that I'm the only one out of the girls who "gets" him and we have tons of common interests. But then again he could just see me as a friend who's willing to fill his void. He mentioned he misses home a lot
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I honestly think it doesn't matter. You will part soon and your relationship, even if seriously begun, has a set expiration date.
Just let him go now if you want to spare yourself more heartache.
But be sure to tell him all this honestly. All what you told us just now.
Do this so you can get an acknowledgement on his side. Even if he doesn't speak, it will mean he agrees. Get closure before you say goodbye.0 0 0 0Have you ever asked him how he feels about u? if not then I would take it as he enjoys your company and affection if he does nothing more. But then again if you probably come off a way to where you don't seem like that type of girl (that's easy) then he probably just has enough respect for you thinking your not that type of girl and that's why he doesn't go any further than cuddling with you.
0 0 0 0have you ever thought maybe he is just super shy and doesn't want to make the first official move? don't laugh its possible he could go on this long without taking the initiation. Have you ever tried to kiss him first? id try that and see how he reacts with that.
0 0 0 0I'm not sure you read my description...?
oh I see, sorry I didn't read that part . OK, so maybe he is waiting for you to initiate sex? :)
I think you should straight up ask him. Ask him if he just wants companionship or a relationship. And if you guys become serious you both will make the extra effort to make it work. But just be honest with him.
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2 4Long distance relationships are hard but they can work. It just depends on how willing each of you are to work for it.
0 0 0 0Since he is gonna leave I think you should try to shy away from this relationship from even starting. He may like you romantically and also be using you for company. So I think its better you don't start a relationship with him before you become his next long distance relationship girlfriend
0 0 0 0Jump on him. Stop diddling around.
0 0 0 0i think your two poll choices can be one in the same. he could like you romantically but also be using you for company and affection.
I think that is the case here. there is no sense in him digging down into a relationship that has a termination date (in that he is leaving the country soon) but it does seem clear that he does like you or at least like your company.
i think you just have to decide are you cool with having this fling for however long it lasts or are you going to be too hurt in the end when he leaves. it could be fun just to have this fling and enjoy it while it lasts knowing that it will end.0 0 0 0"o I met this guy a month ago through mutual friends." - You can't tell. Don't bother.
0 0 0 0Not sure I get what you mean. Care to elaborate?
Not really, no. In essence: You would not know anyone's intentions within 30 days esp. considering most of the normal circumstances ( meaning that you spend less than a collaborative week with him over these 30 days, etc. etc. )
Depends where he's from, he might be shy or he's just playing around cos he's only here for studying and that's it, he's going back home later.
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