Why did my friend with benefits blow me off?

[Anonymous]

This guy I've been hooking up with for a few months texted me asking me to come to this bar. I told him OK and he texted me a few more times asking where I was and that he was there. When I got there, he was pretty short with me and talked to another girl for most of the night. He kept looking in my direction, maybe to make sure I didn't see him talking to her. He's never done this before. Why would he invite me if he was just going to blow me off? I don't want to date him, but I don't like looking dumb. Should I just ignore him now?

[Anonymous]

I'm going to take a shot and say it's one of two things:

1. He called you but he wanted the company of his female friend. Not so much a "date" but hanging out with a girl is different than hanging out with the boys. It feels nicer. Plus, it looks good that I guy can be friends with a girl he can go out to eat or hangout with.

2. Maybe he likes you. Maybe. You would know better than all of us. Regardless of whether he does or doesn't, maybe he didn't want to give that impression. Maybe he though he was sounding a little anxious, or Looked a little too desperate for your company. So when you showed up, he realized the impression he had have given, and decided to talk to another girl to play it cool. Maybe to play it cool, or maybe to let you know he didn't want to see you "like that."

But all in all, it all stemmed from you taking a little longer than planned. Really it's no one fault. It's like you showed up late intentionally. So although I'm leaning towards him thinking "I'm going to show her that I'm her friends with benefits by choice, and not because other girls don't find me interesting," I can't say with certainty from which place it came from. You know him best. But these two options should help put it in perspective.

[stubbsy]

I would take this as a very disrespectful way to be treated, and I refuse to be surrounded by disrespectful people, so my opinion would be, accept that you made a mistake with this guy by even allowing him to share your talents let alone disrespect them and move on to a guy who has the time and respect you deserve,x

[Stacyzee]

That was definitely disrespectful.

I would ignore him.

There are two reasons why he could have done this.

1. To get a reaction out of you.

He probably really likes you, and wanted you to get jealous.

This would be his way of confirming that you like him also.

2. He simply has no manners!

Whatever the reason is, it wasn't the right thing to do.

You should bring this up with him if he calls you...(do not call or text him),

And see what he has to say.

If he simply has no real reason...I would stop talking to him.

[MaskedSanity]

Aww, that's so cute. Looks like your hook-up developed feelings for you and was trying to see, if you would be jealous of him talking to another girl.

At least that what it seems to me.

I'd ask him what the fuck that was all about. If he really does have feelings for you, but you don't, then you need to break it off asap.

[Stacyzee]

Yes, I think this also.

[tiredofwaiting]

He is either not that into you or is trying to make you jealous

[yopyopyop]

You should always move on sooner rather than later from sex-only relationships. Nothing fulfilling there.

[gonyr]

Don't ignore him. Just tell him your done with the arrangement. No more benefits.

[Cromartie]

You should just move on. Disrespect from someone who is only worth sex is intolerable.

[ladsin]

Well it really depends, you said he texted several times so he could've been mad that you took so long and htought that would be like vengeance

He also could be thinking that you are acting too much like a girlfriend and was trying to show you that he is still allowed o be with other girls idk

[yaddayaddayadda02]

No idea. I think it's fine to ignore him.

[daniiel112]

I'm guessing he was trying to get a rise out of you. How long did it take you to arrive? If you told him you'd be right there and it took you two hours to show up then I could understand him trying to piss you off for being late. If you showed up sooner then that then he might just be trying to make you jealous and test the waters to see if you care about him. Drop him if he was just trying to make you look like a fool.

[Muratek]

move on.

[Anonymous]

he is no longer interested...