How long should it take a woman to come in your opinion?

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Is it a turn off if a girl cums too easily. I am one of the lucky ones that come from penetration, in fact I gush. Most of the time it's just a matter of minutes before I reach my first orgasm of many. He says he loves the fact that he can make me gush . Sometimes my man will ask me to hold off cumming. I'm not sure if he is doing this because he thinks my orgasm will be more intense if I hold off, or if it's annoying him that I come so easily or so much. How long should it take a woman to cum? and is it a turn on or a turn off if a woman really cums.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

As long as she doesn't have to stop immediately after her orgasm (i.e., she can keep going), then it really doesn't matter how fast she gets the first one. For me, my girl will usually have 1-3 orgasms from just foreplay, and then several more during intercourse. Some a little more or little less, but that's a pretty accurate average.

I was with a girl once who told me she was going to come after about 5 minutes of intercourse. That's not unusual to me, so I said "go ahead!". What I didn't realize is that she was trying to tell ME to go ahead, because as soon as she came, she was DONE for at least an hour. Since she didn't explain that part to me, of course I didn't cum, and as soon as she was done, she pushed me off and started getting dressed. Needless to say, I wasn't happy about that.

Most girls have no trouble having many orgasms in a session (or at least a few), so for me, it's fine no matter how fast or slow they take to cum. I can last quite a while when I want/need to, and I've only ever had one girl who I had real trouble getting there, and she had been sexually abused as a girl and normally struggled with sexual function anyway.

My current girlfriend often cums during initial penetration (again, she's usually had a couple already from foreplay), so you don't get any sooner than that. It's never been a problem for me; I think it's hot!

Dandeus · Accepted Answer

It's not a turn off if a girl cums quickly. It's only really a turn off if a girl struggles to come at all. It's OK if she takes a long time, but is reliable about. But if she's the kind that doesn't know if she can come and gets frustrated about it, that's what turns me off.

As for holding off, yes, that will probably make it more intense for you. Try it sometime. Get yourself right to the edge of orgasm, then stop and let yourself cool off for a bit, then keep doing it repeatedly. If you can get to orgasm quickly, you should be able to do this 10 or 15 times quite easily. It's called edging. You may want to try it through masturbation first since you have better control over starting at stopping.

giselle1969 · Accepted Answer

Yes ladies and gentlemen, I do believe I have my first woman crush!  I am SO envious of you!  That said, I have heard orgasm is exponentially increased by suppressing or holding back prior to experiencing your initial orgasm several times.  As for the reason for his request, you would have to ask him directly.  The feeling I get based on what you have mentioned about him and his feelings toward you are...That he wishes only to increase your pleasure as much as possible, since you give him so much pleasure in return. :-)

pickledxtofu · Accepted Answer

Well, it takes about 2-3 minutes for me to have an orgasm, but it took some practice on both of our parts. There is no set amount of time it *should* take. Every woman is different

linds34 · Accepted Answer

I don't see why a guy would mind cumming early unless it's a situation where you can't keep going - most guys find it hot.

Adelphos · Answer

You can orgasm repeatedly so he should not worry about it.  He should just take pleasure in the fact that he can get you to orgasm that quickly.  It would turn me on and I am wondering where have you been all my life?

RideMyNorthFace · Answer

Nothing wrong with gushing orgasms. As a matter of fact, I love it! It's a MAJOR turn on! :)

Joedog · Answer

It is an absolute turn on if she can come quickly, if she gushes and if she can have multiple orgasms.

It is a turn off if she deliberately holds off from cumming or if she simply takes too long to cum.

lkjhg69cum · Answer

It's hot! If he doesn't like it then he's an idiot. Seriously, that is so damn hot! I love the female orgasm, especially a squirter.  I love giving women multiple orgasms. So yummy! There is no set time when you should cum.  You do when you do, but the earlier and more often, the better in my book.

AidenBlue · Answer

You sound like fun to me.  No issues.  Id want to see how many I could give you.

paxtonfun · Answer

I feel like every guy would appreciate you. If you come on e pretty soon after starting , cool if you want keep going that's a way better thing than not being able to cum

steveisbored · Answer

generally guys are happy when their girl cums, if its quick then they feel like they did a good job, and gushing is something most guys liek as well! As for time, it is all different, dependson the girl and the guy

SamuelB · Answer

To me it's a turn on if she cums quickly.

RUSHFAN · Answer

She can orgasm in 5 minutes, as long as she keeps going till I come. I prefer to hold back for at least 30 minutes, because I want the lovemaking to last as long as possible.  Obviously, when I am not in love, it's just straight up sex!

COCOCHANEL · Answer

i think it's acceptable to come after a few minutes. sex only lasts a few minutes anyway.

Anonymous · Answer

my girlfriend orgasms almost every time  we have sex which has made her selfish, she will only do what she wants so she can orgasm her way. she forgets I need to enjoy sex as well.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think there is a right or wrong answer to this just like guys the time varies.

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