A serious Relationship or just a hook up? very curious to know what divides the line between the two?

[Anonymous]

I know that every guy is different and has a different perspective. Usually I could tell right away when someone is trying to have something serious with me and when its just a hook up. lately I've been seeing this special guy for a month and everything is butterflies and rainbows, we get a long well we have so much fun together and can smile at each other for no reason. I can safely say I have fallen for him but because of my previous unfaithful boyfriend its been hard to trust people, I try not to be this way and judge right away that's why I'm giving this guy a chance. To the point I have made out with this guy and hold hands we see each other as much as we can and we are pretty much a couple, we Haven't really talked about it but I feel like it will be a matter of time, I was searching through here on similar questions and some of the answers were that he just wants to be fuck buddies , or friends with benefits. I'm stuck in the middle because what makes me think this may be true is that lately he holds a big grasp of my butt while we make out and sometimes when we hug I can feel his boner, I understand its natural I get turned on as well but I feel like its so soon. What has thrown me off is that there have been many occations when he tries to have serious conversations with me he never touches me inappropriately in front of people, he even tried to take me to a family party that I didn't assist to because its just too soon for me. i really like this guy and I can say he is very different from a lot of guys, but my questions is what are your opinions based on the actions I described? can he be boyfriend material? what might his intentions be?

[Olya363]

A man can't help but to be turned on if you're hot, so there is nothing wrong with him having a boner. Its a good thing lol he thinks you're attractive. There is little information from your post anddd its too soon to tell. There is no possible way to know his intensions from what you have us.

Do you hookup or do you only have relationships? usually if a guy knows you hook up, he won't want longterm relationship, so its up to you where you stand in your reputation. If he seems like the long term kind of guy to you, than he probably is. If he takes you to family things and treats you nice than he probably likes you and is thinking long term.

I wouldn't think so much about it and just see where it goes

i hope I helped:)

[Asker]

im sorry .. sometimes I think that if my post are too long less people will bother to read it but since you took the time, we have never hooked up and no I don't have a bad reputation but he has asked me to go home with him, but I don't know in what sense is he trying to take me home for, he lives with his parents and I never think its a good idea to go because one he might try to hook up and 2 he might want to introduce me to his parents none seem like a good idea lol. if it wasn't because of my

[Asker]

past I wouldn't be here asking this question but I learned that I can't be naive about men and it has affected me a lot its been more than 8 months since I dated someone, so its new to me I want to start fresh and like you said we may not know his intentions and I should wait . thank you for your time

[JamielovesKU]

In my opinion a hook up is just meeting up to have sex but a serious relationship is when the two people stay together for a while

[Asker]

thank you :)

[AshBrown]

You are either married or not married. There is no other difference and nothing else is a "relationship". Stop fooling yourselves.

[kheserthorpe]

This is not hookup behavior.

Relationships don't have less sex, they just have more intimacy/companionship/commitment.