Do you expect a Black guy to have BBC?

[Anonymous]

I'm a bit self-conscious. I'm a Black guy with an average sized penis. 6.75 to 7 inches give or take on how horny I am, not thick but not slim. When I watch amateur p*rn videos every Black guy is fucking slanging, and every girl I've ever dated talked about a Black guy they banged who had a huge **** (I don't even understand how this comes up in conversation, don't even ask). Obviously I'm not small, but I feel like there's this expectation, and when they see it girls are disappointed because they were expecting some fucking steak Chipotle burrito or something. :( For the girls who dated Black guys, or if you haven't and were dating one, do you automatically assume he's going to be packing? How would you feel if he was just average?

[WhiteSteve]

I can't speak for girls, obviously, but I suppose there IS maybe an expectation from some girls, IF they seek out black guys in particular because of the stereotype. Those girls are just size queens. I definitely knew some girls who were all about black guys, but I think some just legitimately found them more physically attractive. But I'm sure there's definitely some that think every one of them is packing a fire hydrant. I actually have the opposite issue, I'm white but I'm about 8, and a lot girls acted like they just saw a unicorn, haha. When I see dudes in p*rn though I feel like I get dwarfed, even by the standard ones. Obviously girls will lie or play it up in some scenarios, but I felt like it was genuine in most cases. Then one girl I dated who I'm pretty sure had a black guy or two on her resume was happy with it, but didn't go crazy either, she was just like "oh cool, you're pretty big" but I got the impression she'd seen bigger. Most girls I've had to be careful with, because it could hurt them, so it kind of sucks actually, having to be conscious of it and not just getting lost in the moment and doing what feels best. So I don't think you're in bad shape with what you're working with. From GaG I'm learning that most of these girls aren't looking for more than 6 inches. Your dilemma is the girls that you attract, like you said. I have the advantage of low expectations, haha. I wouldn't let it give me a complex if I were you. There are girls out there who are into XLs, I'd almost say for the sake of saying they're into it. One of my old football teammates, well, I caught a glimpse once in the locker room. And when I say caught a glimpse I mean one of my other teammates yells out "HOLY FUCK, look at Shermaine's dick! What the fuck, Maine?", haha. Some guys get real comfortable in the locker room. But anyway, I kid you not, there's no way it wasn't 12 inches FLACCID. I never looked at his girlfriend the same after that, haha, what a warrior. But anyway, I don't think you have anything to worry about. If you meet a chick and she's disappointed with that, you know what she was after. Just say whatever, beat it up anyway, get rocks, and move on, haha. I really wouldn't stress it, its not like you have a small one.

[ProTraceurDGDJ]

12'' Flaccid lol Was he a fellow Italian Stallion?

[WhiteSteve]

@ProTraceurDGDJ, nah, black dude. You had to see this thing to believe it. It was like my forearm, haha. @QueenSerenity, haha, no, not trying to brag. I don't really use the anonymous function much. There's no shame in my game and I stand behind anything I say on here. I'd do the same if I was two inches. Besides, I'm a grower. Not much to look at when it's off duty, haha.

[WhiteSteve]

@QueenSerenity also, when you see an answer that gives War and Peace a run for its money, I think we all know who wrote it, anonymous or not, haha. I'm not exactly succinct. :)

[Asker]

"I'm about 8, and a lot girls acted like they just saw a unicorn, haha." See! That's what I'm saying. Even QueenSerenity is now waiting for her friends request to be approved (Lol). What I mean is on GAG they say they want 6 inches, but their actions say a different thing. What made things boil over for me is earlier I was watching this nerdy Asian chick give this Black dude a blowjob, and he was slanging big time. I wouldn't even have though she'd mess with Black dudes it isn't like she was

[Asker]

a hood chick. So I'm like, damn, even the nerdy chicks had BBC. The expectations are everywhere, smh. Your comment hit home with me though

[MrOracle]

80% of men worldwide have a penis from 5.3-6.2" long. 7" is considerably larger than average.

You need to realize that the guys in p*rn with 8-9" penises are like one guy in a million. They're super rare, which is one of the reasons why they're in p*rn in the first place, and not some other guy. Just like average guys don't become starting QBs in the NFL (only the most exceptional QBs do), average guys aren't in p*rn either. Dozens, even hundreds of guys try out every year, and maybe 2 or 3 new guys actually get paying work in that year, and of those, most of them only do a movie or two. It's rare for more than 2 new guys a year to have sustained p*rn careers.

Using p*rn as a comparison isn't doing yourself any favors, anymore than if you got substituted as a starting QB in an NFL game, or took over for Dave Navarro or Slash or Eddie Van Halen on guitar at a big rock concert, or got dropped into an Indy car on Indy 500 day. The average person is going to compare very poorly to the few people who do those things professionally every day.

[Asker]

I really agree with you, although I wasn't referring to p*rn stars, but more-so amateur p*rn. Not people who do webcams to make money, just your low quality, run-of-the-mill video lol

[MrOracle]

Right, but even then, don't you think the guys with big penises are more likely the ones to be making videos of themselves, while the smaller guys are much less likely to do so? That kind of self-selection is common, and that's why such data is non-scientific. To get real, usable data, you need good-sized, RANDOM samples. Anyone in marketing could tell you that.

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend is black, and I have been with other black guys before him. my friends always ask me if the stereotype is true that all black guys have huge dicks. From my experience, not every black guy has a big dick like the ones you see in videos and stuff, but they do tend to be bigger than most white ones. One guy that i dated was literally 12 inches, and honestly the sex was okay, but it was better with a guy who was 6 inches. It really isn't about the size. I think having sex with a black guy is different in general, not just related to dick size. and when i say different i mean it in a good way :p

[Anonymous]

Porn is not representative of reality, and many people embellish their own sexual experiences. The truth is, the vast majority of men are average sized and that's completely normal and desirable. Don't worry about it.

[Asker]

I know what you mean. I haven't had any complaints (Who's going to verbally say it anyways?) but I just feel like girls assume I'm hung, then it falls short of that expectation.

[kheserthorpe]

Average in any non-internet survey is sub 6".

The best reputable information I've seen which I can't be bothered to dig up is that the median white and median black are pretty similar sized. But really small black guys are rarer, and really big black guys are more common.

Well, you're not freakishly large, just comfortable above average.

Any girl who has never been with a black guy and is hoping you'll be like a massive guy from p*rn may be disappointed, but any girl who just likes a good size penis won't be. I did a survey on here once asking for details about what women liked in terms of size, and was a little surprised ... most women who liked bigger were reasonably happy with anything over 6", and most of the rest didn't care at all. I guess maybe women view penis size more like men view being thin or breasts, we care a lot to a point, but as long as its 'good', we're excited.

So probably don't worry about it so much.

[Asker]

"I guess maybe women view penis size more like men view being thin or breasts, we care a lot to a point, but as long as its 'good', we're excited." That's a great point. Thanks for posting that helps.

[ProTraceurDGDJ]

6'' is average for all races so don't worry it's just that the media in the western part of the world likes to put Black Men & White Women on pedestals in order to be Politically Correct. The girls who brag are usually posers who haven't been with any or very few Black Men & the Black dude that was the biggest they might have ever had was probably only 8'' which isn't that big tbh. Porno's usually film in certain angles to make it look bigger, & the girls in p*rno's are told to fake it in order to make it seem real & they also use ''airbrushing'' as well. So despite what you hear 6'' is average for Black Men like it is for White Men. Also the girls who usually say these things to you could also be what we call ''Coal Burners'' & are usually the outcasts of us Whites & therefore are jaded, bitter, angry & very hateful towards White Men so don't take it personal you're average. Hope this helps! (:

[ProTraceurDGDJ]

Also yes they will assume that you're packing because of how The Media Portrays Black Men & they will be disappointed & you will see it on their face it's just The True Non-Disney Version Nature of Women accept it & move on...

[ProTraceurDGDJ]

QA/Update, Also per your update yes if women answer they will sugar coat it & it will be like adding salt to the ol'wound. But they don't care they just want to make it look like they aren't total bitchezzz which they aren't just for telling the truth but they are for lying to you when you can actually handle the truth. Also yes women say they like guys who are average aka 6'' but me & you both know that women will go crazy for a man packing a 11-12'' like Matt Hughes & the like...

[Asker]

Bunch of great points. I'm actually not attracted to girls who only date Black guys (Or even mostly). I feel like its some fetish or their way of rebelling. But a lot of Black guys take those girls so I don't blame the assumption. I could be the woman's first Black guy in her life, and I feel like since she's never seen it in person, she's curious if the rumors are true. Hence, both of our disappointment.

[ProTraceurDGDJ]

QA/Update#2, As per your ''amateur p*rn'' question think of it like this. WOULD YOU Personally make a Amateur P*rn video & put it online for all to see? Do you get it know! Society has trained you to know that doing such a thing is wrong & shameful 'cause you weren't born with a bbc therefore you aren't Black Enough ''IN THE POLITICALLY CORRECT TYPE OF WAY'' To showcase yourself in a sexual manner. But unlike Blacks who aren't allowed to do this Whites, Asians, Natives, etc. etc. ARE!

[ProTraceurDGDJ]

So like I was saying Average Black Men are shamed & discouraged into not doing this while the average & even below average Men of other Races are encouraged or just more socially excepted into doing this. Do you get what I'm trying to say?

[Koldhearted]

It seems the average goes up every few months. Last I was aware 7 is more than avg. If 7 is avg well I'm guess I'm tiny.

And I don't think I'm tiny.

[Asker]

I think the average is 6.5, right? Sometimes I measure at 6.75, which isn't very far off.

[Koldhearted]

The avg is closer to 5 than it is to 7 I'm almost sure of it. Its like right around 6

[Asker]

I see, I'll look into that. I'm not bummed about my size or anything, I mean like any other guy I'd like to be bigger, but it's more-so the woman's disappointment that I wasn't what she was expecting. Since the stereotype exists, I feel like I'm held to a different, unrealistic standard.

[Koldhearted]

I totally get what you mean. I'm half asian, popped out looking almost full blooded (can tell I'm mixed but not with what), and I always feel like people assume I'm tiny ;/. It's like we're expected to be a certain way. I just deal with the opposite end of the spectrum than you do

[Asker]

That's true, I have empathy for the struggle on both sides of the fence. My best friend is Korean, I remember one time these girls at a party assumed we didn't know each other, they weren't afraid to refrain saying some things regarding the stereotype. The irony is later that night he popped one of them off, and one of her friends walked in while he was finishing on her ha. Talk about a last laugh.

[Dandeus]

I think you can safely assume that many of those girls that talk about banging black guys with dicks the size of a rhinoceros horn are full of crap. They're part of why the myth is so persistent. They want to seem outrageous and experienced to their friends, so they tell each other about this one guy who had a monster cock, when in reality they're probably embellishing by a few inches just so they don't seem like the inexperienced one in the group. And then they internalize the story and believe their own crap.

Of course that applies to pretty much anything sexual with both men and women. You can safely assume that a number here is being padded, a number there is being played down and explained away, etc. So many people are insecure about their sexual experience that pretty much anyone's story should be taken with a grain of salt.