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Men - Would you wear a chastity device?

I'm seriously considering making my husband wear one. I'm not talking about a chastity belt, but a discrete chastity device - a small metal cage which covers the head of the penis to prevent masturbation. It's locked on tight, and the key is held by the wife.. I'm not concerned about infidelity - I know my husband would never cheat on me, but he does masturbate without my permission sometimes, and I want to put a stop to that, because masturbation takes away his focus on me.. I want to be the sole source of his sexual pleasure. I have heard women online say that putting their husbands in chastity is the best thing they ever did, and that their husbands are so much more loving, romantic, and attentive.. Men are on their best behavior when they want sex, so I'm just extending that, by denying him release, I can keep him eager to please me all the time.. Apparently, chastity is a great way to "train" a man to be more submissive and obedient which doesn't sound bad, considering I practically wear the pants in our marriage anyways since I make more money than him. The way I see it is if I'm the one making the money and calling the shots, then his penis belongs to me. Mostly, I just find the idea of male chastity extremely sexy and arousing. I've been reading about it for months, and I'm ready to talk to my husband. This is something that I really, really, really want.
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  • I am locked in chastity. I gave the keys to my wife and she gave the key to her 10 year old niece for her to keep for 20 years and said it was for a time capsule (we have got a time capsule ready for her, when the time comes we will tell her we gave her the wrong key). She told her not to give it back until she turns 30 years old. This way if she lost the keys I can't blame my wife or her niece and I can't ask to be let out. When I see her niece I buy her anything she wants and I am not allowed to ask about the key or my wife will tell her to throw it away or she will put epoxy in the key chamber (extremely strong glue).

    I am super happy with this arrangement as it gives me pleasure to do ALL the housework chores and obey her. If my wife gets horny she pleasures herself and I have said she could sleep with someone else, but she hasn't yet (I think she is waiting until I do something to stress her out).

    It has been 13 months so far since my last ejaculation and I think may have saved our marriage. I use a handheld bidet to clean every time I urinate and every night give a good clean with soap a scrubbing.

    We tried different types of chastity cages. From plastic to steel to rubber. The best one and current one is a steel chastity but the head is only about an inch so it's a tight fit. These are surprising better and more hygienic. If you can enlarge my profile picture you will see what I mean. It also doesn't use a conventional padlock. But has a lock and keys this is better as you can't snap the lock and there is no rattle.

    • It's a beautiful cage. Unfortunately, I'm 3 inches flacid. I had trouble sleeping in a cage that small. I tried.

  • Don't think I would do it 24/7, but would be fun for kinky play.

    • thats how it begins...

    • @Blitzkrieger If she sees a benefit of keeping her man locked up 24/7, do you think she's going to unlock him more or less often?

    • @wolfgang548 less often. Its gonna ba all about her pleasure now.

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  • I keep my husband securely locked in a ms. lori tube. Like your husband he was masturbating but as much as 2 and 3 times per day as he had been unemployed for more than two years. He spent each day looking and internet p*rn and jacking off. Barely did anything around the house either. I was so frustrated because he barely touched me. I got home early one day and caught him jacking off as he watched a video in which a man was bound and gagged by a woman. I walked softly in behind him and said surprise! He just shrink in his chair and I could see he was wearing pantyhose. Since that time 3 years ago I got this chastity tube and demanded that he wear it 24/7. I told him that I would be tieing and gagging him a few times a week and that I wanted him to wear pantyhose everyday but that he had to shave his legs. So he jumped at the chance to wear pantyhose and be tied up too. As his keyholder it was my choice how things would be in the future. Within 3 days he was begging to be let out of it. I just laughed and said that he agreed to be in chastity for me and I was holding him to his word. In the first month of his chastity he started cleaning the house and doing laundry and shortly afterwards was making all our meals too. He was waiting on me hand and foot whenever we were together and was truly enjoying being so sexually dominant over him.

    • I found it a good thing what you said

    • serious question, is it just one solid tube? how does he clean it? also, morning wood must be torture, make sure your not damaging his dick, blood not having anywhere to go can't be healthy!

    • @lebcrayz your husband is one lucky guy

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  • I could see maybe during a roll playing/foreplay deal he might be willing to wear it - if he's into that thing (lots of men don't identify as being submissive though). But not all the time. Maybe if you explain that it's a fantasy of yours he'd be willing to try it out once but I wouldn't go off demanding he never masturbate. Why do YOU need to be the one giving him permission to masturbate anyway? That's like only letting a dog drool when you let it - not gonna work well for you, or the dog.

    I'm all for women playing an equal role in relationships and taking charge and all but that sounds a little like sex slave stuff and he's your husband, not a sex slave.

  • his penis isn't yours no matter what you think. your going to push him away. iif it was a very rare thing it would be kinky but he isn't your bitch. if he even agreed that would totally turn me off why would you want a guy to be a sissy? Also he should really think about getting a divorce lawyer I mean you are suppose to be equal in a marriage. " I wear the pants in the marriage because I make more money" now you want to control what he does with his penis? Good luck with that one. I hope he growns a pair and tells you to sit down and stop acting crazy.

    • Actually, the longer my wife makes me stay locked up, the crazier I am for her. I want to around her constantly and am desperate just to touch her and being touched by her drives me wild. It sounds crazy, but the build up of hormones has the opposite effect of what you would think. Keeping your man locked in chastity will drive him wild with desire for you.

    • @ChasteHubby2008 My hubs really digs this as well. Total turn on for him. We don't use it all the time but I break it out whenever I am feeling especially needy for attention.

    • @AngieVegas It works for open-minded couples. I don't like the way it is presented on most of the internet. This to me and my wife has ZERO to do with hardcore anything. Many won't try it because they made their mind up before they even thought about it.

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  • This is something that many submissive men and dominant women would enjoy. Since I'm neither, I have zero interest in it myself.

    • No way would I do crap like that, only men who is a weak man and wants to be controlled would do that. Ask those wives who do this to their husbands if they would permit their husbands to put a chastity best on themselves. i bet they won't

    • i am shocked at how many weak men there are out there. Hell would freeze over before i would allow my wife to wear the pants in the marriage. I would only go in to the cage if the wife agrees to wear a chastity best herself-see how she likes that.

    • i have found in my experience going back to when i was a little boy-6 years old -women in authority were abusers as i was abused and when you just 6 and in a catholic church no one listens to you and your screwed and a woman in authority are monsters and even today most women in authority are the worse and many take advantage of this. I say if a woman wants you to use a chastity devise then she should be willing to wear one herself. Most women would allow you to put one on her so why would they expect you to do something they themselves would not do themselves

  • My boyfriend would flick a marble at me if I suggested that heh

    That's emasculating and psychotic

  • Yes I would love 2 try it. Especially finding the right woman. Who would love 2 torture and tease me. Best part she can make her bitch. Meaning she makes me beg her 2 let me cum. I just think it would be something cool 2 try.

  • I'm not a sexually submissive guy so I wouldn't do this except maybe to try it out if my SO was really into it.

    I'm up for trying anything once.

    Sex games are one thing, but trying to control your partner for real is wrong. Not a healthy way to look at your relationship. His masturbation shouldn't bother you, and you shouldn't feel like he needs your permission anymore than you should need his.

    Masturbation is a part of a healthy sex life. Even if I got sexual attention from my SO literally every time I wanted it, I'd probably still masturbate sometimes, and realistically she isn't always in the mood or up for sex. She shouldn't have to feel like she has an obligation to satisfy me. Rather, she should have sex with me because we both want to. I can take care of my own needs otherwise, and as for her, masturbation is a healthy way to relieve stress and isn't always just a substitute for sex. She should feel comfortable masturbating if she wants to.

  • I am a girl and my husband forces me to wear a chastity belt to prevent me from touching myself without his permission.

    • He claims I was touching myself. I told him I was changing my tampon.

    • For real?

    • Yes.

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  • I sometimes show my wife some of the kinky stuff I've come across online, to get her reaction. About 10 years ago, I showed her a video where a woman locked a man's cock in a chastity device and put the key around her neck and then masturbated in front of him. I figured she'd laugh, roll her eyes, call me a pervert and that would be that. Instead, she just said, "ooh, order one of those." To this day I'm kept locked in one pretty much 24/7. The effects on our relationship have been almost 100% positive, and any downsides are easily outweighed by the benefits for both of us. It's not for everybody, but it works wonderfully for us.

  • Nope, I wouldn't.
    I *would* put one on *her* for much the same reasons. ;-)
    Talk with him about his kinks and about yours.
    You can use the human sex map as a conversation tool to get the conversation going.
    And who knows, he might like the idea. ^^

    Just remember, it has to be something you both want, and on the terms of both of you.
    If he want a safe word etc...

  • I would (and have a few times in the past), but only if I could trust her not to take advantage of her newfound power/authority over me.

  • Yes, think most men with a developed submissive side would have no problem with wearing a chastity device.

  • masturbation does not take his focus away from you. Does your masturbation take away your focus from him? Masturbation is natural and it is used to expel stress and tension from the body. Do not believe everything you read. Second, you might be able to use chastity as a form of kinky play to heighten the sexual experience.

    Also making more than him does not give you he right to call all the shots. How much more than him do you make? if you were totally supporting him then I would say that you had more "say so" than him, however, all decisions should be discussed and each other's feelings should be considered.

  • You frankly terrify me.

    A. Hell no.
    B. Are you a narcissist? Not kidding.
    C. The fact you want to control your husband is insane.

  • Why on earth do you do that? I hope this is fake(possibly looking for a reaction) but if this is true I think you should stop trying to control your man. He's a human being.

    God help him. As a woman I find this controlling nature disturbing. You need to grow up and respect him and let him do what he wants.

    • "Why on earth would you do that?" - Because it turns me on... It's a kink.. It has nothing to do with being controlling or abusive ... I think you need to grow up.. Not everyone is satisfied with a vanilla and boring sex life

    • Ya stopping someone masturbating is really fun for him. Lol Frankly I feel For him. I never said it was abusive, just disturbing and controlling. I study human behavior an psychology and have a degree in it, a first class honors so I know what I'm talking about. It's not a kink, it's a way to justify being controlling.

  • If he stays married to you, he deserves whatever you do to him. Glad I'm not him!

  • Not ongoing no, because I'm not submissive.

  • I wouldn't wear one and it certainly wouldn't make me act more loving. frankly if I'm sexually needy I'm probably gonna be in a bad mood. I think the better thing is to address the masturbation issue... if there is in fact a real issue going on

  • You need some therapy. You can't own his penis any more than you can own his brain.

  • No way. It would interfere way too much when I'm breakdancing.

  • What you want to do no, if it's a fetish then yes. What you want to do is basically silvery and abuse. You are forcing him to do something against his will to be able to live and stay in the home. However, if it's a fetish, you need to sit down with him and seriously talk about it. Make a contract with a lawyer and agree with all the terms and allow the contract to be renewed every so often (no more than a year between each renewal). If he does go through with it make sure he consents every single day, and establish a safe word in case an emergency happens. And remember a safe word is above anything else being done, signed or anything else you two have planned.

  • You're my dream woman.

    Yes, I would but I am into that sort of thing (enhanced sexual pleasure from denial, edging, etc) I say introduce it to him with the idea that it will enhance both of your sex lives. It seems tough to keep sex exciting within a marriage and this will definitely spice things up.

    • Just wondering if you had 'the talk' yet? If so, how'd it go?

  • So did you get your husband to wear a cage

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