I actually have the same issue. So far, only one serious relationship and he was okay with it all. We ended up combining FAM and condoms. Fertility Awareness Method does work if its done right. It allowed us to have sex without condoms part of the month and we'd use condoms the rest of the month.
My boyfriend was actually the one to suggest this. He doesn't like the idea of hormonal birth control in the first place because it can have so many side effects. It does take patience and understanding but well, I'm still here without any children so I would really suggest you look into it.
As for when I brought it up, I think it came up the first night we had sex and then talked about it some more, he told me where I needed to look up things and it went from there. He was 100% on board with it.
I'm sorry that everyone around you doesn't understand. I have more friends who don't use the pill than friends who do. So in my social circle, it is 100% understandable. FAM does take more effort than remembering to take a pill at the same time every day but at the same time, it also tells you when something is way off. As long as you do it properly, it does work.0 0 0 0Obviously I can't speak for guys, but I just wanted to answer and let you know I am sorry this happened to you. I can't believe you had those kinds of responses either, like saying, "I'm glad this never happened to me." :/
Anyway I really agree with a couple of the answers you've gotten. Some will care and some won't but that only means they aren't right for you. I can't imagine this would be a deal breaker, when you meet someone you're really compatible with and they are serious about you I imagine they would do anything for you. A guy who expects you to risk hurting yourself or worse, dying, is not someone you need in your life anyway. That's just beyond me someone would even think that way.0 1 0 0
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I have slept around a little bit and honestly, I could never see myself going without a condom. It's just not worth it. I know of someone who used birth control and still got pregnant.
I honestly feel it is selfish for a guy to insist on going without a condom because "it feels better." I personally feel the sex is better when I'm just enjoying the girl's company and we are just happy from having good chemistry in bed. Many girls have told me they have had partners who were so anal(no pun intended) about making her have an orgasm and it got to the point where it was turning the the girl off.
Plus, I don't think I'd sleep well at night knowing I went unprotected for both STD and pregnancy reasons. I'm already looking to get tested from sleeping around and all all my intercourse scenarios involved condoms.
If you're comfortable with the pattern you mentioned go for it. I personally would have to be married for unprotected sex to happen because that's the point I would picture having a child.1 0 0 0I would not have a problem with it. And I'd assume this conversation would take place along the time you'd move from condoms in your previous relationships...like maybe a month or so after you started having sex.
0 0 0 0Thanks for BA.
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0 9I would have no problem using condoms anytime. Especially if other forms of control would cause my partner health problems.
:-)1 0 0 0I've been in a relationship for 4 years and we use condoms. Sure! going raw feels better but it's not like condoms are bad.
She was on back for a while but didn't enjoy taking it. We had a scenario where we weren't seeing each other for a while so she got off of it and never went back on. I don't mind. It's not that big do a deal0 0 0 0Those guys are jerks, that's disrespectful. No, that should never be a problem. That's just selfish on their part to refuse to wear a condom.
1 0 0 0I've been with my girlfriend, no fiance, for more than 3 years. we always use condoms during intercourse. It's really that simple. Birth control messes with her hormones too much, and to be frank I don't need anything else screwing with her hormones.
I think any guy who would have casual sex without a condom is a guy you should run from as fast as possible.
I have no problem wearing a condom. of course it doesn't feel the same as going bareback but the safety and security are well worth the concerns of (in my case) an unwanted pregnancy.1 0 0 0I would recommend getting an implant actually. They don't affect hormones and it's pretty cheap compared to condoms and birth control over time.
Not liking condoms makes sense. I very much dislike condoms and it reduces the quality of sex at least 50% for the guy.0 0 1 0I'm the kind of guy that expects sex without a condom, but I don't think all guys are like that. There are lots of guys who probably haven't even done it WITHOUT a condom before. I can't say I know a lot about the escapades of other men... not attracted to them, so I don't focus on them much and have no reason to be interested in things like that.
Would I NOT date you because of that? Meh, I'd probably not make that big a deal about it, but again, everybody draws the line at different places. For some people, having kids is a deal breaker, and for others, not being able to have kids can be a deal breaker. It's all a matter of each individual person's outlook and sexual preferences2 0 0 0have you tried going on the pill?
0 0 3 2Do you know what birth control means?
she shouldn't expect condoms if she's on the pill. she never mentioned being on the pill and her qa
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So you're single and you make problems on condom?
0 0 0 0Did your doctor discuss other birth control options with you, such as a diaphragm or an IUD? Regardless, the choice is yours. If using condoms is what helps you sleep better at night, that's what you should do. If he doesn't see eye-to-eye with you, he's not the right guy for you, and it's probably better that you find out now.
link1 1 0 0yes...I have seen numerous doctors/specialists and have discussed all options with them. The only non hormonal IUD I'm aware of is a copper IUD, which I tried but it was rejected...
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