My boyfriend made me come for the first time. Do all guys react the way he did?

[Anonymous]

So, I've never had an orgasm during sex, ever. Last night I had one for the first time. My boyfriend didn't even realize it at first. He just thought I was squeezing the hell out of his hands and squirming around for the hell of it lol But afterward when we were laying in bed and he made a comment on how hard I was squeezing his hands. and I was like, "That's because you made me cum." He went quiet for a second and then said "What?" So I repeated what I said and he then said "I didn't hear what you said. I did what?" I laughed and was like "You heard what I said" and started laughing. But then he said "I just wanna make sure I heard you correctly." So I repeated myself again and he said "YESSSS. Mission accomplished!" and he threw his arms up in the air. He hugged me and said that he was so happy. Then in the morning when we woke up, he was still happy about it. He said it made his night. And even later on in the day he was talking about how awesome it made him feel lol Do all guys do this? He was so happy. We've been together for almost a year now and this was the first time I've had an orgasm during sex. (Had nothing to do with him though. It was all me, being afraid to fully relax and whatnot.)

[meowcow]

I think for both guys and girls, it sucks if one person can have an orgasm and the other cannot.

Simultaneous orgasms definitely make couples feel more close. I think this has only happened to be 4 times, between 2 girls. Most of the time, one orgasms first, then the other.

I had two girlfriends that could not orgasm. One could by herself, but not during sex.

The other was a friend who told me she had never orgasmed in her entire life. She had 6 boyfriends before me and she also could not get off by herself. I joked that one day, I'll be the one to do it. A few years later, we ended up hooking up and despite a lot of trying, I could never get her off. It took a rapid toll on the relationship and ended up not working out.

One thing I noted about her was that I had a really REALLY tough time finding her clit. It was almost non-existent. So I accepted the fact that it wasn't me.

However, hers was just not there at all. That was probably why, since that probably meant she had no nerve endings to orgasm.

[MrOracle]

Unfortunately, there are plenty of selfish guys in the world who couldn't care less if the woman has an orgasm, as long as he gets to. It sounds like your boyfriend is one of the good guys, who does actually care if you get yours. Sure, it's also a bit of a brownie point for him, because he was able to get you there after all this time (part by what he did in bed, and part by building your trust). Trust me, you should be very happy that he cares enough to be happy about it.

[Turtleluv]

I think most guys make it a mission to get her to come or they probably won't get to sleep with her again LOL. My guy gets excited and cheers when I have multiple orgasms, very rare. Like you said it doesn't have a lot to do with him it has more to do with me relaxing.

[lalalolita]

Yes guys love having the power to make that happen loll good for you both

[ManThatKnewTooMuch]

Not all guys do that. Dickweed, aka Mr Oracle, thinks we're assholes when we don't jump for joy when a woman cums.

When a guy cums does that make you extremely happy and joyful... like you did something fantabulous? No? According to Dickweed that makes you a selfish bitch.

We're all different. Not everybody reacts the same way but don't jump to conclusions about it. Kudos to you for being able to relax.

[Apope16]

She didn't make a conclusion silly. She was asking a question!

[kentpaul]

It's hard for a lot of women to orgasm during sex and usually guys blame themselves. Oh, if only they'd been better and what not. So it feels like an accomplishment when it finally happens. If you start orgasming regularly during sex, he'll calm down a bit.