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I love my boyfriend very much but he always always jerk off. It's really bother me! What should I do? Break up

I love him so much full of my heart! I been holding it for couple months now. It's about his jerking life. We used to have sex twice per day then less than less so I found out he was watching different type pussy pictures in the bathroom to jerk off twice per day. We both 22 it's really normal to have a lot of sex in our age that's what I think. Now we only have sex twice per week and I have to ask him to have sex with me, I feel like I need to begging for sex. It's really bother me, I can't sleep Because I'm worry about when I sleep he go jerk off.. I hate he doing that! He promise me he said he love me he will stop it let me help him watch on him. I tired tired tired.. Won't work. He can't control himself. I found out he was jerking today and he keeping lie I didn't I didn't.. Even his dick was hard and his zip was off. I don't know what should I do now! I'm so tired of let my boyfriend treat me like that! Every time when we were arguing is all about his jerking life. I love him very much I don't know how long I can hold this. I wish he can stop it ;-( how can he stop it? How he just hopeless? I should break up with him? I don't wanna lost him. How can we move on? How many times I should give to him? We are together for half year now and we live together, his really good boyfriend just his jerking like I can't accept it. What should I do?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It is not abnormal for a guy to masturbate. I am in an excellent relationship but I still do it once in a while. Also, because of work and children, we set aside a day and time for sex and I will sometimes get up early and view erotic images, including female masturbation, dildo play and close up images of pussies to raise my libido for the sex that is coming. My lover does not know I do this.

    However.

    It is abnormal that he would masturbate in lieu of having sex with you UNLESS your sexual protocol is strained. But if you are welcoming, compliant and uninhibited, his masturbation suggests something within him is wrong. Add that he is indiscreet about it and lets you know it is happening.

    I would suggest you stop having sex with him at least for a while. Maybe a week or two. Don't use some lie. Just say that you are not in the mood. After a while, he will confront you about it, and that is the time to tell him (again?) your grievance and what you expect from him. You can't stop his masturbating altogether, but you can insist he regulate it.

    That you expect him to not do it when you are in the house, awake or asleep.

    That you expect not to be able to detect he is doing it by leaving any kind of evidence around.

    That you do not want to have to initiate sex and want him to initiate at least once a day.

    I'm not saying you will succeed, but I agree these conditions are unacceptable and hint at serious mental dysfunction. In the end, it would be better to end this relationship than to suffer as you are.

    You need to Behappy in your relationship.

  • masturbation is normal but twice a day and choosing it over actual sex is a big red flag

    I think that you need to tell him that it bothers you. you don't understand why he would choose masturbation over sex. to me it sounds like he has a bit of a problem masturbating...like verging on some sort of unhealthy obsession. My dad always told me that masturbating is fine up until it starts negatively impacting your life and relationships.

    How can he stop?

    he just has to make an effort. care that it is bothering you and make an effort

    Is he hopeless?

    i think if you have told him multiple times how it bothers you and he hasn't changed anything then it might be beyond hope

    Shoudl you break up with him?

    If a partner doesn't acknowledge how their behavior negatively impacts your feelings then you have to wonder how the relationship can really be successful long term

    How can we move on?

    tell him that you don't think you can deal with sex twice a week while he's masturbating twice a day. IT's just not healthy. Tell him you love him and want to work to fix this issue btu that you aren't going to be a sucker and just stay with him even though he doesn't do things to right the situation

Most Helpful Girls

  • My ex did this so much, but with pictures of girls that he knew. He had 8,000+ pictures of girls that he had dated, went to school with, things like that. He updated it daily. This is what upset me. Most were strippers and here I was, losing my confidence with every picture I found. I ended up developing an eating disorder and falling deeply into drugs to numb the pain. But! I find it foolish that I let it get to me that much. Turns out he likes boys better now so his loss! :)

    Guys are normal with this. It's just a fantasy, not real. If he wanted something else, he would have left and got it, but he's sticking with you and that's all that matters. Hold in there, and maybe talk to him about this? Maybe you could try going to a sex store and try spicing things up.

    • I'm sorry for your ex. Thank you for your advice

    • Good advice. You also don't have the right to control what he does with his body.

  • I think he is an addict he's acting like one. It may be normal for guys to jerk off but not how he is doing it. He is choosing that over u. Why don't you research on addiction to masturbation or p*rn and see if he fits that criteria. If he does talk to him about it.

    Good luck :)

  • All men jerk off and most women masturbate. This is normal.

    I would think masturbating in the bathroom is uncomfortable. Most men like to stretch their legs out.

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  • Relax, watashi no tomodachi (I'm learning). Goshusshin desu ka? (I'm making a huge assumption, forgive me for being an ass.)

    All guys jerk off. I've heard of guys that actually prefer jerking off than having sex with women. Every person is different. Don't feel bad that he does it.

    Also, you shouldn't feel bad about asking him for sex. I'm sure he's asked you for it too so what's the difference? It has nothing to do with how sexy or beautiful you are. Sometimes men just grow apart a little bit but it's natural. Next time you are with him don't ask, just start jerking it for him... I'm sure he'll be surprised.

  • Best advice? I would say to spice things up. How is your sex? Do you change it up and do kinky things? If you do then he is just... well kind of disgusting and an idiot to have such a beautiful girl and just jerk off. You should never have to beg from your partner.

  • It sounds like he is bored. That's men... were visual...

    Allot of women are okay having the same sex day in and day out. Few men would be okay with that. Initiate more sex. Do it daily. Change positions and change how you act during sex.

    Give him things he's never experienced with you.

    What good and regular sex?

    Use variety and create an obsession.

  • Give him more, fulfil his p*rn desires, show him that real thing is A LOT better than virtual garbage. Or what you can do, you can unload him dry, get 3-4 sex sessions when you are with him, he won't master than, because he'll be completely empty.

    • I don't get it what do you mean can you use easy words? English is not my first language :-(

  • This is what u should do. Tell him u don't mind if he jerks off. The trick is u tell him. That u will jerk him off. Instead of him doing it. U tell him every time he wants 2 sneak off 2 get off. Just tell him no more sneaking off. If he wants 2 get off. Then he can either do it in front of u. Better yet u will do it for him. Remember if he lets u jerk him off. Then u will be in complete control. Reason I say that when u r jerking him off. U will have his dick in ur hand. Meaning u literally have him by the balls and dick. That's when u stop and squeeze his balls tight as hell. Along with clamping down on the head of his dick. Then tell him he has a choice. He can keep jerking off. Which I don't mind. Cause u are fixing 2 squeeze his balls so hard. That they will become useless. Along with pinching the head of his dick so hard. Thus making it sore as hell. That way he can't Jackie. Cause it will be 2 sore. See how he likes that. The old saying goes. Fight fire with fire. By him thinking that u are giving in. But u really aren't. He will start 2 feel guilty about doing it. Thus over time he may stop.

  • It's not normal to deny you sex so he can jerk off instead.I could understand it if he'd already given you more sex than you could handle,and he was still horny.

  • i read stuff about this exact same thing on this site all the time and I think to myself... WTF! a guy has a beautiful girl who wants sex and he's jerking off to p*rn elseware... you need to talk to him about it girl

    • I talked to him so many times, every time he said he will stop it but he can't ;-(

    • i think your boyfriend has mental issues

  • Fight for his dick! Anytime he's gonna jerk off blow him instead!

  • When you "put the moves on him" to have sex, how does he react? Does he turn down sex with you yet still masturbates?

  • Try seeing if he will jerk off looking at you or ask him if you can jerk him off on your titties he’s young men at that age are very horny and fantasize about what turns them on may be curious about other girls if you both haven’t had many other partners

  • Masturbating twice a day isn't that strange for a guy that age.

    Having to ask or beg him to have sex with you is quite strange. It looks like he has a lot of fantasies from which you're absent. There might be a reason, there probably is one (or not) but it's nearly impossible for me to guess which reason it is.

    Maybe , maybe, maybe..., you know the guy, his history, I don't know him.

    You might try to talk it out. Maybe he'll tell you and you both can adjust your behavior then.

    • I know his pass, I found out he had so many girls on his Skype they chat day by day camchat showing pusses to him like that, that's why I think he do that too much before so he can't get away from pussy online, but how can he stop? Can him stop it one day?

    • Sorry, but I don't know what's in his brains, I don't know why he acts this way. I DK if he'll change or not.

    • Ok thank you for helping me

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  • Buy a toy. Use it in front of him. Then roll over and go to sleep.

  • He needs to get rid of his porn addiction.

  • just change your sex life and spice up with some kinkiness and pay attention to what he is into maybe he has some fetishes

  • You should try your hardest to catch him and join him. It's a simple fix. Tell him as you take his hard cock in your mouth that you want him to tell you what to do. Tell him that if he sees something on the screen that he wants to try on you, that you want it. Lock eyes with him as you lick the tip of his cock and say, "You know I'm your pretty little slut, don't you? I want your cum, daddy." See if he responds. If that doesn't do the trick, you have a guy that's not interested. If it does... post some pics... lol

  • I jerk off in front of my wife

  • I would find that kinda hot.

    I am a woman and understand that he is just jacking off.

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