My boyfriend wants nudes, but I refuse to send any?

Question

my boyfriend & I have been dating for 2years. he keeps asking me for nude photos, bur I don't want to send him nudes at all. its not that I don't trust him, I'm just trying to be cautious. once I made an expection & snap chat him a photo few days later I saw that he took a screenshot of the photo, that made me mad. I really don't want him having my nude photos on his phone. why can't he just be happy with seeing my body "face to face"?. & worst of all he wants to film us having sex, I am totaly against that. he took my virginity & is my 1st actual relationship. I love him & I don't want to keep arguing about such nonsense. how do I convince him to drop the sex video idea & nude photos? if it doesn't stop I will break up with him honestly.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

You need to TELL HIM how you feel, and what the consequences will be if he keeps pushing for this.

Tell him he can enjoy your body in person all he wants, but that you won't be allowing a digital record of that to be made, and if he can't accept that concept, then you're going to have to break up with him. Tell him if you ever change your mind, that YOU'LL bring it up, but not to hold his breath waiting, and not to mention it again until you do.

You have to stand up for yourself, because no one else can (or will) do it for you.

sovetskii13 · Accepted Answer

Sit down with him on a calm, relaxing day. Say that you wanna talk about his ideas on nude photos and videos of you. And tell him that you are just not comfortable with being nude on camera. Tell him that you know he won't share any nude photos or videos of you, but that doesn't mean you can automatically feel comfortable with being nude on camera. If he doesn't understand that, or is mad about that, then you two can't be together because both of you have to respect each others feelings if you want to be happy together.

Try that.

CityCutey · Accepted Answer

If you said no, that means NO! Explain briefly that you don't like cameras and if he still won't understand, punish him. Close your legs until he realize that No means NO.

JamielovesKU · Accepted Answer

Thats a good thing that you don't because if something happens and you break up, he can show that to anyone, and who knows it could end up on the internet somewhere.

523206720 · Accepted Answer

He abused your trust so you aren't obligated to comply.

Red_Arrow · Answer

Easy.  Tell him one more time, "No nudes, no videos".  And tell him that is the last word on it.  If he brings it up again, then do what you ended your question with.  " if it doesn't stop I will break up with him honestly."

Justsomeguy2 · Answer

Have you ever seen any of the revenge p*rn websites?  Do a websearch for "Ex girl friends."  Check them out and then make your decision.

sean1234 · Answer

Let me finish it...  My boyfriend wants nude photos because he wants to post them all over the internet. MY GOD, there are websites that are dedicated to shit like that.   That's just my 2 cents.