Why would a guy turn down a friends with benefits 's request or a casual hook up?

Assuming that: *There was no previous relationship or dating involved except one hook up before *he has already had sex so it's not like he's waiting *he is single One more thing to take into consideration, he has told me that he is attracted to me in a sexual way, we have hooked up once and it was amazing for both of us (unless he lied) & he also seemed keen initially on being friends with benefits 's but now he suddenly switched up. I asked him if he's interested, he said yes, to which I asked if he's sure because it has to come from both sides (I got the impression he wasn't interested, so I wanted to make sure) and now he's just ignoring me... how nice. SO basically things went smooth till I just made it clear that it should be a mutual thing and not one sided. I'd like some insight on this and what possibly made him change his mind.
Updates:
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As I just commented to someone this guy definitely told me he wanted to do it again via text the day after. So again, I don't get it!
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Nevermind, he ended up replying says he's into it and will let me know when he wants to hook up. Winning. Thanks for the replies. I appreciated them. Some were very creative...
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  • Wild guesses:
    > another gal has recently accepted him, he wants to give her a try & she would resist if you were found out to be in the picture - thus, he may return to you
    > a pal got jealous of his good fortune at a bar, so decided to ruin it by inventing lies about you
    > down deep he was using you for sex but now realizes that he does have feelings and to continue would be wrong - so off to contemplation point where he'll sort things out & then get back to you

  • So on one side I've been reading recently on this site from certain female members "All men are depserate" "All men are pigs/will fuck anything". Now its gets questioned when a guy doesn't want a random hook up.

    Anyway, maybe he is gay, maybe he is not particularly horny, not all guys want to randomly sleep with someone.

    • I don't think you read my question. Only the title. He was interested before, now he's not. We have hooked up once so no, he's not gay and clearly he has no inhibitions either and you'd know that if you read my question!

    • I know how that feels, I've had random hook ups with girls, and then text again and dont get any reply/ aren't interested. sometimes they are interested, sometimes not?

    • According to what I've seen on this site, very few guys say they will decline a free hook up. So it just doesn't make a lot of sense. Comparing a girl to a guy in this kind of situation is odd because we view sex differently. Many girls do not want hook ups all the time. Guys seem to love it.

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  • Maybe he caught feels.. for you, or someone else.

    Maybe someone he knows, likes you.

    Maybe he just found out he has a STD...

  • Maybe he has his eyes on another girl and wants to make sure he doesn't have a chance of screwing it up before it even starts.

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  • I'm not really into friends with benefits relationships. so I've turned down all but one opportunity

  • Because he likes another girl or another type of girl : I, for instance would pretend not to understand your hints
    -because of my wife and
    -because of the age difference.