Why did my friend with benefits tell me that he hates me?

[Anonymous]

After me and my friends with benefits had sex he smiled nd told me hates me. Wtf, he also tells me not to get attach to him. He reminds me of this everytime I hug or kiss him even though he's always hugging nd kissing me. He also asked me if I told my parents that he's my boyfriend. Do you think he wants more and why do you think he said he hates me.

[Arwens-Fire]

He sounds juvenile and immature to be in such a relationship. Sounds like he might be rejecting on to you what he might be feeling. Meaning, he telling you not to get attached is probably because he starting to feel attached. Also, him saying what he is saying is a way for him not to get attached either.

For the love of God I don't know why people have friends with benefits relationships. Its just stupid and complicated for no reason.

[Asker]

I felt that he was projecting his feelings on to me. Usually I would not have a friends with benefits but he's my first, so I guess I kept him by my side for some reason

[Arwens-Fire]

"projecting"

[Arwens-Fire]

I'm just giving my random thoughts on friends with benefits relationships. Not yours. It all just seems unnecessary. I would rather be with someone I'm going to be with for a long time who is invested, than to be with someone who can easily trade me in for someone else because they are supposedly NOT with me, and NOT invested. I just don't know why people do it just for some sex. All of the emotional drama that comes along with it is NOT worth it. The amount of questions on this site concerning fwbs is absurd. And then girls wonder why they can't find a proper boyfriend. Its because they are always settling for LESS. I'm just saying.

[Asker]

I see where your coming from!! I think some people get different "benefits" from their friend w benefit, even when they know the outcome of these relationships are usually bad. I lost my virginity to my friends with benefits 4years ago. I think I keep him around because I got to comfortable with him. I invested myself into what I thought was a "real" relationship before. And my ex nt my ( friends with benefits ) definitely cheated on me with multiple women. So i guess in my case, I just feel like my friends with benefits will always be around.

[quietvixen17]

No, he does not want more. I think that he was just kidding around when he said that he hates you. Just a saying.
Do not get attached.

[polkadotprincess]

I thank he just wants you for sec and nothing more than that. I don't thank he is good for you

[Asker]

I don't think so either.

[polkadotprincess]

Go find yourself someone that treats you with respect instead of a sexton toy

[polkadotprincess]

Sorry sexton is supposed to be sex my thing keeps auto correcting correct words

[uuhhhh]

I've never heard of a friends with benefits situation getting complicated before

[douride2]

He's just there for the sex. That's it.