Should I get my girlfriend a vibrator? Serious question!!!?

[loverboy50]

Me and my girlfriend are dealing with distance (school). She recently asked me to get her a toy. I bought one but now i'm hesitating on whether to give her it or not. I was talking to my boys and they were like they're not sure how good of a idea that is because females tend to over use it and sometimes might find it better then sex with their partner. Im not scared. I feel like i'm very good in bed (not to be cocky), but i don't want her to start feeling like well she can please herself whenever she wants without me and replace me with the toy. Women be honest please. Do you think i should give it to her? How often do you guys use your vibrators? Do you ever find yourself saying I really dont care to deal with a situation or relationship problem and just saying im satsfied with my toy so eff him? If you were the male in your relationship would you get your girl a vibrator. Females please be honest. And guys I wanna hear from you too... did any of you experience negative effects from your girl having one of these toys?

[manwithoutmap]

A woman does not stay with you for sex, she stays with you for the emotional connection. You should not feel threatened by jelly-filled plastic or batteries. If you do feel so threatened, you might want to reevaluate your approach to your relationship.

Buy her a few different toys. A tiny vibrating egg (more batteries are better), a jackrabbit, and a giant flexible cock that is a different color from you. Doing that would give her several things. First, variety from what you give her physically, without cheating. Second, your trust.

Masturbation with toys is different from sex. Try a vibrator on yourself and see. Orgasms can be more intense and sometimes, every once in a while there's just no substitute. But it does not remotely replace intimacy and contact of skin on skin. Given a choice between sex or toys 99% of everybody would choose sex. Your gf will too. Stop worrying!

[loverboy50]

thanks appreciate your opinion

[godfatherfan]

We had one when i was married. We didn't use it too often because she bought it around the time she asked for a divorce and we were trying to work things out. But it was a lot of fun to have. I bought her one shapped like a cock with actual balls a long time ago and she didn't even take it out of the package. She said it was because it looked like a cock and was creepy. I guess they dont much care fore putting it inside them. They just use it for the clit. Seemed weird to me but its not for me

[loverboy50]

thanks

[MaskedSanity]

Don't be a fool and give her the vibrator.

You need to work on your insecurities, if you truly believe she might replace you with a toy. Would you replace her, a living loving human being, with a fleshlight?
Unless you guys are together strictly to fuck, you need to remember that you're in a relationship with a PERSON, there's a lot of things in play and to get nervous about her preferring a dildo over you just screams "I have issues".

Honestly, if I were in her shoes I'd feel insulted that my boyfriend even thought of such an absurd notion.

[loverboy50]

first off dnt be assuming because i obviously can't tell the hold story behind this question long story short... there are other issues but cool... respect & appreciate your comment. geesh

[MaskedSanity]

Well, if being replaced wasn't a concern, you wouldn't have posted this question. Such things don't cross the mind of a secure content person. Just sayin'.

[loverboy50]

um first off... who said im not insecure about being replaced? My relationship isn't at its best right now and i can admit that. But don't climb down my throat because of that. And im not insecure about being replaced by a vibrator. You make it seem like people dont ever become insecure in their relationship or that everyone is always content in a relationship. Lady back off... really. This was a question asking for an opinion. Not for you to come and be all down my throat. And if this is included in you opinion your partner should buy you a vibrator because you obviously need to chill the f*ck out.

[MaskedSanity]

You asked a question and I gave you *my* opinion - that's how this whole website is meant to work. I'm sorry, if you feel this was an attack, I merely expressed my observation. I don't see why you need to get so defensive. Please don't project your hostility onto me.

[loverboy50]

it's w. e lady

[stephx]

Just give it to her. Would you give up sex with your girl (a real physical human) over your hands or sex toys? I doubt a woman would give up sex with the man she loved over a sex toy. (unless there were other issues with the couple not related to sex) Give her a way to please herself while you're away.. and you guys can also use the vibrator during sex with eachother.

[loverboy50]

there are other issues but cool... respect & appreciate your comment

[Jamie23]

Honestly to me, my vibrator doesn't even compare to my boyfriend. I only see him once a week and usually I'm like dying for him haha but I've used it maybe 5 times since I got it 4 months ago. A vibrator isn't even close to a real penis. Lol that's how I feel though I know many girls swear by theirs. I don't think it would hurt anything. (:

[BoundByCuriosity]

Get her the toy.
She is 100% more likely to leave you for another guy because she feels sexually frustrated, than the likelyhood she would ever choose a toy over you.

[loverboy50]

thanks

[Jbgurl20]

Give her a vibrator. As you said you are dealing with distance, pleasuring herself is not cheating. I am sure you do it too. Lol. There's nothing wrong with it, at least she is honest with what she wants. Be adventurous, having a vibrator can make your sex life better.

[loverboy50]

thanks

[Thatguy321]

The way i see it its either the toy thatll get her urges under control or someone else will get them under control if you know what i mean

[iampikachu]

Get her the vibrator because a toy is better than being replaced by an actual guy. I don't use one because my guy is always around to give me some

[milkywaymoon]

Sooo I think if you gave her the vibrator, it should be a-okay :) Because in all fairness, I think having sex with someone you really like/love wins over a vibrator any day. Kissing, touching, feeling each others heartbeat, feeling their breath against your skin - that stuff is magical and makes the sexual experience so much better :)

[Anonymous]

She can just buy her own! You worry too much. It won't replace you. Don't be silly.

[Anonymous]

One thing you might want to avoid is an insertible vibe or dildo that exceeds you dimensionally.

[loverboy50]

thanks

[Anonymous]

Toys are good, but real penises are better.
Besides, she can play with the vibrator on her clit while you fuck her, it would even be better for both of you.

[BoundByCuriosity]

this is very true! and awesome fun ;)

[Anonymous]

Yes. She will love you more for it. Remember people judge themselves by how you judge them. Be fine with it and watch her adventurous side come out. You don't want her adventuring with someone else.