Really embarrassing. Broke up with boyfriend but really want to sleep with him help?

[Anonymous]

Don't call my names or say perverted things let me explain My boyfriend and I are each other's first everything and dated for 2 years. He just has nasty anger issues and I can't take it anymore. If he hurts u and you tell him he gets mad. If you do something he doesn't like he blows up. He calls himself "telling you about yourself" but really it's just disrespectful. I try to reason with him, to apologize, and communicate but his bitch fits last weeks at a time and it's stupid I want to make love and be happy with him but I can't because he is too busy being mad right now. Ignoring me etc. Ik I broke up with him 5 days ago. Ik sleeping with your ex is wrong. I don't wnt to sleep with anyone else. Masturbating isn't the same it's not just sex to me I want to make love why am i so loving and wanting to melt over all this conflict unlike him? I can't enjoy him because of his bitch fit and I'm so horny I can't even wash my dishes >_< What should I do?

[islands7]

This is too deeply psychological to get fixed right away and on such a forum but maybe you'll get a tip for a quick fix to get you by and onto the next rung in the ladder to a happy fulfilling life. Here's my "two bits"

If you have to have his sex, then go get it by hook or crook.
Trick is how to - w/o being abused more? Only you now him enough to see any workarounds to this.

Once you get enough sex to last awhile, it's time to shop for a replacement to what - will sooner or later - become battering that will escalate to near death experiences, if you survive them. Throw in stalking as a wicked substitute for rejecting/ignoring you. Find your sex somewhere else and best if you leave town, move/relocate when doing it - no forwarding address for temper guy.

Temper guy has issues with many other things than you and you can't figure out how NOT be yet another fuse/irritation. He needs a pro, not you to get through/over this.

Hard to believe, but a change in towns and you'll discover people that remind you of friends/family back "home", often an improvement if you choose wisely. So there's another guy as sexy as this a few towns away that loves you and will protect, not abuse you dear.

[Red_Arrow]

The anger issues are probably not new, so why did you start dating him? Did you not see what you sere getting yourself into?

Often, the first person you have sex with implants something in you. A feeling that this is someone special and always will be. Truth is, you are likely to remember him for the rest of your life. But you will get over the "need" for him. It will hurt for a while, but you need to steer clear of him completely. Do not even allow yourself to have any relationship with him because it will weaken you toward having sex with him again and you will feel even worse. He is not going to change for you. He would not be treating you as he is if he loved you. Make a clean break.

Masturbation is not the same as sex, but when you can't have sex, it is a substitute that lowers the drive for sex. (Lowers, not kills.) Use masturbation to relieve the tension and keep from succumbing to him, and keep on the lookout for a better guy. And if your next guy is not the final one, you will find that breaking off with him will be easier.

[Masamii]

it sounds like you are just lusting after him, a reason that i personally don't think is a good enough reason to have sex. even if i was for pre-marital sex, i wouldn't have sex with a guy who gets angry at me all the time. that wouldn't be the type of relationship i'd want.

[abccba]

Going back to him will only make it worse. Learn to live without him, just like everyone does after they break up.

[rahul6023]

going for the same guy will be a mistake... if you would abuse you while having sex or after that as he would be physically connected to you would build up unnecessary conflicts.
Let go off that guy... search a new guy.. or go for one night stands if its uncontrollable...

But, if you go to your Ex.. he might take you for granted and you would end up in bigger problems