Well, if I were single, I would be willing to seriously date some girl who has had 50 one night stands. And I'll admit that it might make me insecure in some ways, but I'd suck it up and deal with that.
But why? I guess some mixture of feelings and social conditioning.
- men view sexual acceptance from women as a big deal. The more men a woman has slept with, the less significant it feels that she's choosing him.
- women have far more opportunities and temptation to cheat then men. The average man has to actually -try- to cheat or at least is very rarely given direct offers to have discreet sex. Women will get opportunities -all the time-. A lot of women aren't interested in casual sex at all. Men may feel (and may be correct!) that a woman who likes and enjoys casual sex is going to have a tough time turning those opportunities down.
- women can hook up with higher status/more attractive men then they can date, generally. For men, its the opposite - they usually have to aim lower for hook ups. A man who has slept around who chooses to settle down trades quantity for (maybe) quality. But a woman who slept around and liked it has to sacrifice quantity AND quality to get a monogamous partner. Who wants to be settled for like that?
- specific number is something young people focus on more. If you're 30 and have sex with guys your dating but don't hookup, your number still gets up there. I think the older you get, the more guys will interpret based on the context you have sex in, vs. the actual count.
Please realize I'm not saying women who are promiscuous are worthless sluts who can't be faithful blah blah. As I said, if I were single, I'd be very open to dating women with promiscuous pasts. But I tried to answer your question anyway.
Because they are insecure and love to judge other people to make themselves feel better. As long as you don't sleep around with many guys at once and don't have any STDs, I couldn't care less. But if you do sleep with many guys at once and/or have STDs, then that would raise some eyebrows.
Some people like to have sex. That's fine. I just ask that they use protection and are aware of the possible consequences. But don't expect to settle down with the girl if she likes to sleep around or doesn't like monogamy.
It all goes back to their penis envy and insecurity.
The more partners we've had, the more likely we are to have had a penis we like better then theirs... and, they also think the more partners we've had, the more likely we are to talk.. and tell everyone how small or bad in bed they are.
That being said.. while guys have issues dating girls who have had lots of fun... they sure don't mind taking us for a ride...
Why do guys judge girls on how many guys they've slept with?
Possibly male ego that he is getting 'used' goods thus being a chump to take her after others guys have (as I find guys generally do not see sex as a mutual act but something a guy does to a gal thus gals are lowered/debased by having sex). Along with the possible issue of male pride that she may have experiences better than him.
They are just scared we can beat them at their own game , and we can do it good
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!We don't. Just use a condom and be discreet. Your sex life is no one's business but yours, so never talk about it. Have all the sex you want. Four guys means you are just a beginner. You must find Mr. Right, not the first pair of shoes off the wrack.
I don't really care for how many guys a girl I'm interested has slept with. Just as long as she doesn't tell me or she's not still talking to them.
I don't know the who "we had sex and we friends now" doesn't fly with me.
Confidence. My previous partner had slept with only a few guys, one of whom she was very good friends with. She was my first girlfriend and it just made me nervous that I wouldn't measure up to expectations, it wasn't that it upset me, more that I was worried of upsetting/disappointing her.
I dont care, because my penis is statistically thicker then 95% of mens its unlikely that unless she is a total slut that she has had one comparable to mine. We are all young and stupid once and as long as she had no STD's or children then I wouldn't mind
I don't care about how many people a girl has slept with just as long as she doesn't sleep with other people while in a relationship.
And as long as she doesn't got have anything to pass on!
I don't judge the number per se. That said, everything a person does is a reflection of personality. So, if the number is very high or very low, it might make me wonder why.
A slut sleeps with everyone at the party.
A bitch sleeps with everyone except you.
Iv never judged a girl for sleeping with lots of guys. But it does really hurt being a 26 year old virgin and sometimes I'm jealous of them that they can get sex so easily. Granted it might not be quite as enjoyable for them as it is for a guy.
Not enough words to explain. It's the same with guys, but we hide it better.
Basically every time you surrender your body to a man, you leave a small part of your soul and heart with him.
Some men are afraid by the time you get to them, there'll be nothing left. We are afraid in a way, we can never have all of you, because a piece of your heart is still with guy X, and guy Y.
As I said. It's the same for men. Some of us just put on a more confident face to deceive.
You can call it insecure if you want but I don't want to end up being just a +1 on her list of guys. I know relationships fall apart but if you have had over 10 relationships where you were having sex and they all fell apart, there is something wrong here.
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