The fact that he's a big guy doesn't necessarily mean he has a huge penis.
Even if he does, it simply means you need a little extra foreplay.
I would suggest that at some point closer to marriage you might want to start gradually getting used to one and then two fingers while aroused, if its your intention to start having sex on your wedding night. Alternatively expect to NOT have sex right away and instead start being sexual with each other on your wedding night.
My wife we were each others firsts, though we didn't wait till marriage. she said it hurt quite a bit but ALSO felt really good and she had an orgasm almost right away. Both women and men notice pain quite a bit less when aroused. Maybe your first experience will be painless, maybe not, but I'd try not to fixate on that. When the time is right for you, if you engage in lots of foreplay and are very excited, there's a good chance you will find the experience overall exciting and enjoyable -even if- there is some pain.
Take a deep breath and relax. You have to remember how amazing the vagina is. It can close tight around one finger, but then it can also open up enough to let a baby come out. Your boyfriend isn't going to destroy you. After you're married (and even before) you can do some work on your own to help stretch any remnant of your hymen that is present, before you actually have sex with your husband. You can use your fingers, or a dildo. The first time you have sex you might want to get on top, so you can be in control of when, how fast, and how far his penis goes in. And use lots of lube. You'll be just fine.
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The fact that you're a virgin has nothing to do with it. Also, his height tells us nothing about the size of his manhood. Use lube, lots of foreplay and tell him to go slow. If it hurts, then you're doing it wrong. He also shouldn't force himself into you. Let yourself get excited enough before actually proceeding to vaginal sex.
to be honest my lovers were average and it didn't just hurt the first time. i get really wet and i liked them but yeah too much girth is just painful and not going to happen. know your limits. listen to your body.
You'll be fine. As long as he takes it slow, your vagina will expand to accommodate his penis size. Unless he's like 10 inches or something crazy huge like that, he'll fit in just fine.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!It's about patience and position. You should be on top. Just start him in and then breathe and relax. As things start to open up, ease down a little more. Do NOT be in a hurry. It may take many minutes but if you're both patient, your body can accommodate it.
Being tall has absolutely nothing to do with his penis size. Some tall men have very small penises.
I'll take your word for it that he's big. With a small amount of practice, things will normally adjust to accomodate size within a few days or a week.
So your saying you have seen this monstrosity? otherwise how do you know? esp if you don't have any others to compare it to. And a womans vagina stretches out enough to put a baby through... I am sure your not going to have any issues...
lot of foreplay and let him finger you with one, then two, then three.. it will get you ready
use lots of lubricant , have him finger you and relax
I've been on the other side of this too. My ex wife and I were virgins when we got married. She was 20 and I was 23. She was 5'7" like you and about 125 lbs Im 5'11" and 195. She was very tight and Im medium sized. She and I did some research together and like the other posts, lots of foreplay, lube, fingering and even oral. She O'ed during oral and everything was totally fine when the main event came along, no problems at all and she said the pain was 3 out of 10. you'll be just fine. We also talked about it a lot. Talk to him about it. If he dont understand, spend the money you're saving on a new bf lol. Good luck!
Foreplay is what I hear that solves this problem.
LOL! You're talking about an area of the body where babies come out of. Your talking about something every woman goes through. I think you'll manage.
How big is he? 'Cause I'm huge & I can fit it in girls who're smaller than you with no problems at all & at the same time there have been girls taller than you who have felt pain when I was too rough with them. So you won't know if it's too big till you try it out. (:
You can fit a baby out of it, im sure you'll be fine with a penis. By the way, his height and size of his hands and feet bear no resemblance to the size of ones penis.
You need to start masturbating a lot. Gradually make your way up to bigger dildos (or whatever you wanna use), so that if you do lose it to him, It won't be so bad.
O and use lots of lube each time. And whatever gets you really horny.
Have you actually seen his dick or are you just assuming its huge cause he's big?
Lube, foreplay and relax.
Just take it slow ;)
Condition yourself in advance. Using two fingers (or even three if you have a small hand) with plenty of lube will help.
If you have a stubborn hymen, deaden it with Oragel to get through those first times. There is even a "maximum strength" www.cvs.com/.../Orajel-Maximum-Strength-Gel You will still bleed but will not feel you are being stabbed.
A guy's height has no correlation to his equipment.
i agree with your last sentence but about the oragel. does she really want to deaden her hymen? pain is a mechanism by which the body lets us know something is wrong. should we ignore that?
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