Turned down a hot guy for one night stand now he is very cold?
So I texted this guy who is like an acquaintance and owns a pub that I'll come over with a group of friends, he put me on the guest list.
He is real hot looking and when we reached there he kept hitting on me and complimenting me. I think I did flirt back too!
When I left I texted him a photo taken of the two of us thanking him. He started asking me to meet him for a one night and was very flirty. I told him was married and was partying as hubby was out of town. He said does not matter! Actual hubby n I are on verge of separating!
But I turned him down, and now I send him texts and he is very cold. He responds to all texts but is not flirty and never texts me first.
can't stop thinking of him
Is he not interested or just being hard to get?
Is it too late?
What's Your Opinion?
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What Guys Said 8
While I believe you didn't intend to lead him on, that you have a genuine interest and just weren't ready (and perhaps still aren't, given that you told us " I just want him to be interested and have that one night stand MAYBE".
You were enjoying being flirted with and feeling wanted and thinking about the ONS.
He was enjoying being flirted with and feeling wanted and thinking about sex.
Then when you turned him down, it seems to him that you didn't -actually- want him. Consequently all your flirting was partly fake. That you didn't want him, you were just enjoying the attention.
So you want the attention again, but he's not interested in playing that game, because he no longer believes your attention was real.
The flirting game with him is over.
If you want to have sex with him, text him and say you want to get him on his own, when and where?
He's still interested in sex and he'd still enjoy genuine flirting, but he won't just flirt because he doesn't believe it now.
The problem is you should have more morals then you currently have. I'm not judging you because look at how much things people do morally wrong, just turn on your TV and you'll find something. That being said, you are still married, you should officially end that before you do anything or start any kind of relationship. Think of it this way, what would really make you more happy to just have sex with someone you find really attractive but yet he is married so possibly have guilt about being the one that he cheated on with or the start of relationship with someone that is right for you? Yes the first is a much more easy path but has its consequences and only will give you a temporary good and happy feeling, however would that really be worth all the stress and guilt that comes after the fact. The opition of finding someone right for you is there and will be stressful and time consuming but I'll tell you this, it is well worth the wait.
What Girls Said 3
He just wanted to have sex and he's not interested anymore.
Also, I think you're a terrible person for wanting to cheat on your husband and for wanting him to cheat on his wife with you. Doesn't matter if the both of you are unhappy in your marriages. End your marriage before having sex with someone other than your husband. Period.
If sex is the only thing you're after, then throw your pussy in his face right now. I doubt he'll reject you.
However, the moral implications of this whole situation are making my stomach turn. Don't be a piece of shit and leave your husband before getting involved with someone else. Same goes for this "hot" guy. If you go ahead and have sex with him knowing that he's married, you're still going to be a piece of shit, even if you leave your husband.