Is introducing a 3rd person into our relationship a good or bad idea?Mature answers only please.?

[Anonymous]

My partner (female) and I (male) have spoken a lot about bringing another woman into our relationship for sex. We have been together for 6 years and have a very healthly sex life but she now admits she is Bi Curious. As a man im really turned on by the idea but im wondering if she is just gay and is scared to come out? Can i get a womens point of view on this please and be totally honest. Do a lot of women think like this and should i do this? Thanks

[samhradh_leannan]

She could absolutely just be bi or bi curious, but I guess it's not impossible that she's just gay. It doesn't sound like you have any reason to jump to that conclusion though.

Adding a third person could work, but there's also the potential that one or both of you could be more jealous than you anticipate. Threesomes can create a lot of drama and hurt if not done right or if it's not the right thing for your relationship. Consider it carefully and ease into it slowly, keeping open and respectful communication throughout the entire process. And make sure you establish ground rules and limits so that all of you will be as comfortable as possible in the situation. And after you try it once, re-evaluate the situation with no expectation that it will definitely happen again. That way if one or both of you doesn't want to do it again, they won't be breaking any promises.

[lacelover20]

I dont think she's gay. she's been with you for six years and im not foe certain since im straight gut I think it would be easier for her to come out then if she's a guy? Im not sure though since I never been in that situation. Do it if you want but if you really dont want to just tell her how you feel. Maybe she can re insure you

[Asker]

We have talked loads about it and she says she's Bi Curious and would really like to go down on a girl, I said so what will I be doing during this and she says she wouldn't want me doing something with the girl but she can't be selfish so I can join in aswell? I would like to and it really turns me on the thought of it but I can't help feeling this could be the end of the relationship as maybe as Hyped up on coffee says jealously could creep in for both of us. Thanks

[lacelover20]

Ya thats not fair. She can't expect you to not do it and only her. Thats not fair to you, I would tell her it isn't a good idea so it doesn't create problems in your relationship

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

It sounds terrible , if you both tend to get a little bit jealous

[Asker]

to be honest (I think) I wouldn't get jealous if she was with another woman but I couldn't take her being with another man.

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Then it should be fine

[Asker]

Thanks - just worried she might be gay...

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

thats exactly what i'm talking about by slight jealousy

[Asker]

Yeah good point... maybe only one way to find out and that's in the bedroom.. VERY Confused! Thanks

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

yeah you should totally sort out all of those feelings first