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Girls: My girlfriend refuses to wear lingerie/heels - I don't know what to do to convince her? Any help?

I would love if my Girlfriend wore lingerie/heels - But she said she doesn't want to wear lingerie, I do everything for her, Be romantic, Buy her gifts, There for her all that crap and That's all I asked for her... and I'm certainly not going to beg for it. Also I have a foot fetish and she said she doesn't want her feet touched so I don't know what to do...I love her deeply and she loves me deeply...But my fetish is apart of me and All i want for her to do is try it...If she completely hates it, At least I know she tried...Help? Thanks
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  • You can't expect her to do things that make her uncomfortable. I used to be a little uneasy to do stuff like that in fear that it wouldn't be what the guy was expecting. However, now i love it and feel like it brings something interesting into the evening. I would maybe try and get her to agree to go shopping for it with you, make it a couple outing, and i would urge you not to expect the skimpiest little outfit to be the first thing that she tries on for you. Let her pick out something she is comfortable in and work from there.

  • the lingerie thing is something i can see being upset over the lack of compromise. however, if you're not into feet and the idea of that kind of fetish is not a turn on for you, or is an active turn-off, you can't expect her to do things that make her uncomfortable in the bedroom. you're just not compatible. it's not her fault. she doesn't have to try it if she doesn't want to. some things you know you won't like without having to try it.

  • You are sexually incompatible. It will eventually frustrate both of you, so I think it's in your best interest to leave the relationship.

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Most Helpful Guys

  • I feel your pain. Have run up against the same thing. I really don't understand at all. Maybe she is self conscious on the lingerie but honestly if you are asking for it then you must like how she looks in it.

    If a girl I cared about asked me to wear pink boxers and a hair bow I would do whatever turned her on. Not sure why the hesitation on the other side.

    Not sure how to solve it - but have had similar experiences. Maybe the women can help.

  • Dump her.

    I'm sure she's a wonderful person (I'm not really sure, it seems more likely to me that she's not very willing to put effort into the relationship unless its an area SHE is happy putting effort in) but she's not compatible with you, and has no interest in working to bridge the gap.

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  • She doesn't have to wear heels and lingerie or fondle your feet, if she doesn't want to. Forcing it on her is just going to make her resent you.

    It's not fair on her for you to expect her to do things she uncomfortable with and it's also unfair on you to have your sexual desires swept under the rug.

    Clearly you guys are on completely different sides of the sexual spectrum, so I believe the best option would be to break up sooner, than later.

  • she's a tom boy, if your looking for a girly girl, go find one.

  • Don't force her to wear one if she is not comfortable. Ask her what makes her comfortable.

  • Break up with her now. You're sexually incompatible and being that she's unwilling to compromise, it will only get worse. Find someone who can fulfill your needs

  • give her an example of what you'd like her to wear. if she still says she doesn't want to, try something a little less risque. if she STILL doesn't want to, it's time to break up. you need to be able to please each other and if she can't do that for you, you can't stay together. she needs to be eased in to it. she sounds like she's shy and insecure about her body

  • Is sound like you you guys don't fulfill each others needs :S
    Did you tell her you really want her to try on some lingerie? And did she tell you why she did't want to wear any?

    • Wow you are cute lookin

    • ^_^ Nahw.. thaanks.

  • Has she stated why she doesn't want to wear lingerie and heals? Does she know about your fetish?

    • She said she doesn't feel comfortable and my fetish is "eww"

    • Well, start telling her how beautiful and attractive she is, give her some confidence with how she looks. As for the fetish, you need to sit down and talk to her about it. Make her understand where you are coming from. Communication is key.

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