Girls what does man have to do to get "special sex"?

[Anonymous]

Girls what does your bf, friends with benefits , fb , random pick up need to do to get special sex. When I say special sex I mean higher quality sex than usual. Eg trying new things, dressing up, going a lot further than you normally go. . When I say what does he have to do I mean like take you out to dinner somewhere real nice? Have a birthday, go somewhere with you he doesn't like? Be on good behavior for a period of time? Or do some of you go the extra mile everytime?

[Anonymous]

That depends on what you mean by "special sex"...I personally try to make every time "special" by putting as much effort as I can...my BF isn't really into bells and whistles of sex...and the thought of anal disgusts him...I usually give him BJs at least once sometimes twice everytime I see him (about 3 times a week)...he goes down on me when he wants...which is often..whatever position he wants...which is usually cowgirl cause he doesn't have to work as hard...I've tried handcuffs and whips...he doesn't get into it...he just wants sex...

I don't dress up that often because it's expensive to buy lingerie...and it doesn't stay on too long anyways.

[Asker]

It pretty much sounds like he gets what he wants anyway. A lot of people want a lot more though.

[Anonymous]

I don't really see sex as some kind of reward... I prefer to save it for sexuality and bonding than some kind of tool. If a guy was like "I took you to dinner, now you owe me anal" ... I'd be really turned off. Unfortunately, too many guys think that way.

Being really turned on and feeling like we're connecting generally is what gets sex into overdrive. Lots of physical affection throughout the day/night, good kissing, him looking and smelling great, laughing together... those things all an lead to me wanting to jump him.

[Asker]

The second part if what you said sort of goes over the first part.

[Opinion Owner]

What do you mean?

[Asker]

You say you don't see it as some kind of reward , then you say him looking good, smelling great, good kissing leads to it. I sort of get what you mean though

[Opinion Owner]

I mean that she does it because she's so excited and into it. She WANTS to do it. Not just is doing it because someone feels like it's an obligation.

[wildwolfxoxo]

I don't go the extra mile every time, because then it would lose its appeal. The reason its "special", is because its out of the ordinary and doesn't happen often. I think if you want something like that, just ask for it. No one is a mind reader, im not going to know you want me to dress up like a maid and give you a rim job just because you took me to a fancy restaurant.

[AdamThomas]

Don't do any of those things you mentioned as it makes you look desperate and pussywhipped- unless you want to call her "Mistress" and have her whip you and fuck you.in the arse with a strapon.

You get "special sex" by being good in bed. Learn how to turn her on, give her multiple orgasms etc. Be more dominant if you're both into that kind of thing - makes her want to please you more.

[Asker]

How is it being pussy whipped if you aren't getting what you want every single time. Most girls don't want to go the extra mile every time unless it's for their husband or close bf. And why would they they don't want to given so easily. And no girl is putting a strap on me I don't care who they're

[AdamThomas]

It's pussywhipped because you're willing to jump through hoops for the sex you want, because you think it's something she "gives" you. Once you do this she knows she can control you and manipulate you with sex - makes you cone across as a wimp. She'll lose respect and attraction for you when you do this. They'll want to go the extra mile if you're good, because it turns them on more.

[Asker]

Omg you have nfi , it's not pussywhippped to expect the girl to go the extra mile every single time. Unless the girl is your husband, close bf but why would a friends with benefits do that unless she is a real whore and in that case I wouldn't want. There are so many different things of a relationship to judge someone on so a girl won't consider you a wimp just based on the fact you don't force her to do what you want everytime. And not being too forceful is good. That's why I het texts back from those girls , hear good reviews through the grapevine. The ones that Ihave been too demanding too fast , usually don't want another go because they feel embarrassed and don't want to just give in so easily. Maybe the girl you have got has been like how you explained but that's a one off.

[AdamThomas]

I don't think you understand what I'm saying. I don't force a girl to do anything, when you're good they want to go the extra mile anyway. I said it's pussywhipped to do shit you don't want to do to convince her to do these things - I'd rather make her want to do them. Seduction is about getting them to do what they secretly already wanted to do, not convincing them to do something they don't want to do. And to say that you wouldn't want a friends with benefits who wouldwant to "go the extra mile" every single time because that makes her a whore is just ridiculous.

[AdamThomas]

Especially when you're asking how to convince her to do so.

[Asker]

That's bs regardless if you're good or not they aren't going to go the extra mile everytime, why because they don't want to be considered as whores. Unless you find a girl who's down to do whatever anytime but I've found those girls to be the ones who usually sleep around, aren't the best looking, having little class. There might be exceptions out there but I haven't found them. And to be honest I sort of would want one like that but how many classy top 4/5 star girls out there would want to be like that.

[Asker]

And the reason im asking on here is because I know that if I asked a girl in "real life" it might not go down very well witj her. So I thought id come here and ask people that ill never see in my life.

[AdamThomas]

It isn't BS. If a girl is comfortable enough to have a friends with benefits relationship with you she isn't worried about you thinking she's a whore. If she was worried about that she'd only agree to sex within a serious relationship. Plenty of hot girls are sluts, they're just very good at hiding it.

[Asker]

Lol I've had fws' s before who haven't wanted me to tell anyone about it. Most of them don't want to be considered as whores, they don't want you to tell everyone about what happens. And what you said last might be true, but I've found a lot of them don't want to be when they can be so fussy.

[AdamThomas]

Of course they won't want you to tell anybody, if they want a decent boyfriend/husband eventually they don't want a bad reputation. In my experience as long as they know you aren't going to blab they won't worry about being filthy. Hot girls work in exactly the same way. Show their secret slutty side to certain men, let the rest think they're innocent.

[Asker]

This is just going around in circles you haven't helped me out at all and it sounds like you're talking shit. Don't reply back to this comment. Have a good day

[AdamThomas]

Don't tell me what to do.

[legalboxers]

special sex could be like "birthday sex" or "anniversary sex"

[marebear22]

Ask or just do it.

[Asker]

Your bf is lucky.

[zombiebabe]

if he acts as a good boy and satisfies me then he will have special sex (i.e:sex the way/position he likes)

[Chiaram2003]

I try to make it special all the time. I will sometimes let him take me without all the foreplay sometimes. Jus like one n done…. He likes that

[B4852]

Don't know why someone would skip foreplay.

[Chiaram2003]

@B4852 because honestly it’s like 2 make it easy on him n let him finish fast

[B4852]

Oh. Well it's one of the best parts though.

[Anonymous]

For me, a guy has to matter (i.e., by my boyfriend). In that case, I kick it up a notch. Not all the time, though, like wildwolfxoxo pointed out or else it defeats the purpose I think.

[Anonymous]

I'm making a good effort to please him in bed if he does the same to me (tries hard to get me turned on ask me what i like and tries to please me). Seeing he cares about me makes me want to give him the best possible sex too.

[Asker]

That's good to hear that you're both making an effort

[Anonymous]

Special sex is what I give my lover because I appreciate him. He's a good man. He's caring and giving we spend time together. Special sex is everyday sex that you give to a good man who deserves it because he respects you and cares for you and you feel it when your making love with a dash of sex

[Anonymous]

Well with my partner, he doesn't have to do much. Lol im trying to perfect the art of blowjobs, so pretty much everytime lately has been "special sex"

[Asker]

Cool good luck , I hope you become a master.

[Anonymous]

He has to treat me to a night of special sex.. Then ill return the favor. But dressing up is fun, I don't know why other girls don't do it all of the time.

[Asker]

I guess some don't have many costumes, and you can only play the naughty nurse so many times.

[Opinion Owner]

Not just themed costumes, those would get tiring. There are unlimited possibilities with lingerie. But anyways, that's just my personal preference. What's exciting for me could be torture for someone else. Every lady is different.

[Anonymous]

I would say if I'm living with someone they would have to clean, or cook , something they don't regularly do for me I would say oh look he's very helpful today let me reward him tonight or even right now

[Asker]

You could have the cleanest home on the block.

[Opinion Owner]

lol and of course after you reward them once they knw your game so they would do stuff to get it. I can give him a blowjob one night the nxt time I can dress up for him and so on.

[Asker]

Cool, I think your house would be a very happy clean one with good food. Sounds good:p

[Opinion Owner]

;) sure will