Is there any difference in pleasure between masturbation and actual intercourse?

[Anonymous]

I'm a 28 year old male, and virgin by choice. I was involved in a few relationships earlier, but those were quite brief and we never got to the point of sex. I have been single since almost 5 years, and didn't try dating because I was focusing on my career, and I felt that a woman in my life would be more of a distraction than an asset. Now if you aren't going to say stuff like I'm a loser or that I'm incapable of getting a woman, then please continue reading. Otherwise, kindly stop reading at this point. Over these past 5 years, I have had very minimal contact with women, so now I don't really feel that I need a woman to complete my life or for me to be happy (because I was actually happier by myself than when I was in relationships). Besides, I see guys around me getting rejected left and right by women due to various reasons. Its like the women of this age have very high expectations from a potential partner, and its highly unlikely for a common man to be able to meet those expectations. So I have decided to put off any kind of romantic relationships with women for the foreseeable future, maybe even forever. I have found several ways of deriving happiness, so I don't really feel desperate to have a woman in my life. Obviously, the only way for me to release my sexual tension is through masturbation because I don't have a partner, and I also don't believe in casual sex with hookers or friends with benefits. I place significantly more emphasis on emotional bonding rather than just sex, so there's no way I'll have sex unless I'm in a committed relationship or married. So to the people who have have experienced both masturbation and actual intercourse (both men and women), is there any significant difference in the amount/type of sexual pleasure you get from both? As of now, whatever sexual pleasure I require, I'm more than satisfied with masturbation. But that may also be due to the fact that I haven't yet had sex. So can masturbation keep me satisfied?

[CuriousRoses]

I think masturbation is something that is done just because you have to urge to release yourself in a somewhat quick manner. As far as actual sex it can feel better or the same but the thing that is different is the fact that there is someone there with you that (in my case I don't know about others) share mutual feelings about you as you do about them. There is a strong emotional and enticing connection between two people who love one another that engage in intercourse.
Could you live forever without experiencing sexual intercourse yes of course you can but in that you are giving up any chances of having a child and sharing a connection with someone that could decide to be by your side for the rest of your life. Yes relationships can hold you back but they can also help you strive for something better. If you did find a woman that you fell for deeply, married her, and had a child you would want to give them both the very best and you would push for that. But that's just a woman's view on the whole thing...

[Anonymous]

Making love is so much better and different than masturbation. The feeling of becoming one with the person you love, being loved and loving too. When you have sex with a woman, it produce the oxytocin, the hormone of love and happinesse. I’m a Christian so I’m against masturbation, but it was said in the Bible, that even God, love to see a man and woman loving each other. When I make love with my husband at night and the morning (we do it twice a day) I feel complet and happy. When you have sex with a person you’re in love with, the next step is amazing too, like hugging, sweet talks, kisses and cuddles, while with the masturbation the next step after cumming, is loneliness and the feeling that you had waisted your time.

[Anonymous]

Masturbation is more about the physical, sexual gratification in iteself.
With intercourse there's also the connection with the other person, even if it's just a hookup. And there's the unexpectedness of what the other person would do and when. So with intercourse it's not just about the physical, but also the mental experience.

[Asker]

Thanks for your honest answer. Much appreciated!

[kheserthorpe]

I think masturbation can be from a physical standpoint, extremely pleasurable. However, most people don't masturbate to maximize pleasure. They masturbate in a way that 'works' to reach orgasm and feels good, while fantasizing. I think for most males at least, vaginal sex feels better then what they actually do while masturbating. But if they really tried to maximize the physical side of masturbation it could probably feel different, but 'as good'.

[Anonymous]

Yeah its different. Masturbation is dry. Intercourse is wet. The feeling in the nerves is different. You feel every nerve from the head to the base (by your balls) working. Intercourse feels like a tight BJ. If you received a BJ then I wouldn't really consider you a virgin. Oral sex is still sex. It still lead to orgasm, can spread STD's, and grosses other girls out.

[johnRD11]

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[siferius90]

Sex is great because it is intimacy, emotions, connection with your lover, the touch, the view and so on. So it is amazing. However, when it comes to physical sensation of pleasure masturbation is better - I can achieve much stronger orgasms, not to mention that I can enjoy many hours of masturbation at a time.

[open1970]

I feel that mutual masturbation could be healthy to relationship