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Why are girls so picky and hesitant about having sex? It's just sex. There's no commitment needed.

Why are girls so picky and hesitant about having sex? It's just sex. There's no commitment needed. Doesn't it feel good for them? Isn't there more nerve endings in the vag? So why are they so choosey and picky with guys. I see a lot of girls don't even get with guys at the end of the night in my college? How come? They could easily do it? Are they scared? This just baffles me. I mean, if I could have sex with a bunch of girls, I would. I wouldn't even hesitate.
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It's like they are saying. "No I don't want to have sex and orgasm and feel really good"
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Because their instincts tell them not to.

    Your instincts say 'impregnate any woman you have a chance to'. That was a good mating strategy for most of human evolution. The only question being asked is 'can i screw someone hotter (i.e. more healthy/fertile/better genetics) in the next 30 minutes, if not, better then nothing'. there was virtually no advantage for males NOT to have sex in any given day. You also have instincts/tendencies to bond and support and protect a high quality partner who is faithful to you. That one you are more careful about, because you can really only do that with one partner.

    Women's instincts are not telling them to screw anything that moves. That was -not- a good evolutionary strategy for women. For women, having sex could result in pregnancy and an investment of years of effort, not to mention 100% of her reproductive capacity for 12-18 months. While your instincts are asking if its the best partner you can get in the next 20 minutes, hers are asking if its the best she can do in the next year and a half. He either needs amazing genetics, or good genetics + appears likely to contribute to child rearing in a meaningful way. Otherwise, not only is it not a good idea, it is a horrible idea - which she experiences as a feeling of revulsion.

  • Their sex drives are pretty much non existant compared to ours, the only time it gets remotely close is just before their period, many girls will say its not true however but the reality is 1) they can claim all they want but have never been a guy so really dont know what its like for us and 2) their behaviour and all the studies done backs up the fact that they dont want/need it nearly as much.
    To add to this, women that have gone through female to male sex changes and had testosterone shots/injections to get them closer to our level have been literally shocked at how much their libido has increased, even to the point of posting on forums asking for help on how to handle it. I kid you not.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Because for me, sex NEEDS a commitment and that commitment needs to be that we are husband and wife. I don't want a stranger to be with me like that and I would HATE myself if I was with more than one guy in that way in my life.

    Besides. If I'm going to endure the pain of sex and then risk the pain of childbirth and the life long commitment of raising a child I sure as hell am not going to just risk that with any random yahoo with a dick.

    And the majority of girls do not orgasm from sex.

    So speak for yourself. Sex feels good for men. Not so awesome for women.

    • Good opinion

  • Well it's easy for guys. They have sex with whoever they want and feel good. Do you know how often sex sucks for a girl? And how many guys think they're good at sex but really aren't? No thanks, I'd rather have sex with someone I care about/someone I know I'll enjoy it with/when I'm really drunk and horny.

  • Speaking for myself...
    Sex is never JUST sex for me. Sex MEANS something, it's intimate and special. I'm not going to do something THAT special with someone who ISN'T that special to me... I'm simply not able to.

    • Thanks for MH (^_^)

    • No problem sparrow. I don't see your opinions very much so I thought I'd give u this. Also it was a good opinion

    • You don't see me much? Haha! I feel like I post so much, I annoy people :-P

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Sex feels great for sure. But I think women are generally more picky because her primitive reflexes are telling her there is a chance of pregnancy. Even if there isn't, like she is on the pill or uses condoms, etc. That thought is there, and it's what makes women choosier when it comes to sex.

  • Because of atrocious societal norms and social conditioning also because people will judge them and because some believe you have to have love. They were just taught that. Also even girls who don't do commitments are picky too because no one wants to have sex with an ugly person

  • I don't know. I'm not. Sex if fun!!!

    • So would u have sex at the end of every night when u go out. If u are single of course?

    • I would have sex as much as I wanted too if it was available, but I do tend to like being with one person and fuc... a lot.

  • For some people sex means more, for some people it's just a bit of fun!

    People are different, and some girls aren't picky at all!

  • Girls risk getting pregnant from it.

  • evolution my friend, 1 egg per month I think

  • Because if they would have sex with just anyone I would not be a virgin. I'm not that great of a guy so their selection mechanism seems to work.

  • OR they're saying "I don't want to get pregnant in a back alley van with a redneck and bear his bastard."

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