There's another girl sitting on my boyfriends lap!?

Question

My guy went out with his work colleagues last night. A friend of a friend posted a group photo online and there's this girl sitting on his lap and theyre both grinning. most people were standing.
I convinced myself months ago that she was into him but then i found out she had a long term boyfriend but now she is recently single.
Im pretty angry about this.What should i do?
How would you feel if someone  you felt as a threat was sitting on your other half?
Also is it HIS fault or HER fault? or both?

DeanGuitarsFTW · Accepted Answer

This is totally not okay and of course you should be mad. You tell him if anything like that happens again he's gone. That's completely immature and selfish if he thinks it's okay to have random women sitting on his lap. Grown men do not do that.

He should know better without you having to tell him. Some of these other comments are just ridiculous and stupid, especially the girls' comments. Way to have no self respect whatsoever, ladies.

As to whose fault it is, while it is both of their faults, the person you should really be mad at is your idiot boyfriend. Sure the woman should know better, but you're not supposed to trust some random stranger. You are supposed to trust your partner and it seems like he's close to breaking that trust if he already hasn't. Sorry to hear about this it must be so frustrating.

StephanieL · Accepted Answer

It's kind of complicated. I wouldn't like it of course. But I also don't think we should expect our boyfriends to only be interested in us because that's not how their mind works (neither does ours). It's more about setting limits you can both agree on and respect them. But he will always show some interest in other women which will make us jealous. If you made clear that another girl sitting on his lap is a step too far, then he made a mistake (although it's not a terrible thing. You can easily work that out). But if you don't talk about those issues, you don't really have something to blame him of as your idea about girls sitting on his lap might be completely different from his.

ManaX · Accepted Answer

Yeah that would bother me too. I remember I was once at a party and guy a that used to like me bought his gf with him. All in the same room with others (some were sitting), I was standing and chatting to him and he told me to sit on his lap. I (even as drunk as I was) asked if his gf would mind, he said no so I did. It is something that generally is in that grey area of are they 'too close'. If you don't like it and it's bothering you say something to your boyfriend about it, you will look pretty jealous though. Even still, you have the right.

missjane23 · Accepted Answer

Both. Either talk to him about it, and make sure it never happens again, or dump him. I am rooting for dumping him before that gets any worse. Don't put yourself through that