My boyfriend won't let me take control in the bedroom, any advice?

[Anonymous]

I have this fantasy of completely taking control in the bedroom... just tying up my man's arms and legs and using his assets to satisfy myself for as long as I want. My boyfriend is the dominant type in the bedroom, and although I've talked to him about my fantasy he won't relinquish control even once to help me fulfill it. It's getting to the point where I'm having fleeting thoughts of finding another man who will let me take control, which is terrible. I love him and I would never want to hurt him, especially by cheating on him. I've also thought of attempting to tie him up at night against his will, which would be sexier, but I'm pretty sure would also be considered rape. Any advice on how to get him on board?

[BoundByCuriosity]

you need to be happy sexually. if he refuses to allow you to entertain your fantasies, then he doesn't genuinely care or respect you. the thoughts you have will continue to eat away at your head till you can do something about it.

ill go out on a limb here, but im thinking this isn't just a one off fantasy thing, but its something you would like to do regularly..

[soulmanUK]

Can you not flip him over and get on top of him during sex? And pin his arms down with your hands while riding him cowgirl.
I love it when my wife does this to me, and it's perfectly normal. He's being selfish if he thinks it's all about what he wants, it's hardly kinky.

[squeelz]

Girl get some handcuffs cuff him to the bed then ride him off into the sunset lol if he says no then ask him what the big deal is.

[admles]

And if he objects, then it becomes rape.

[godfatherfan]

All you have to do is tell him the only way he is getting any more pussy is to do it the way you want. he will be tied up 5 min later...

[BoundByCuriosity]

^^this

[sannysanchezz]

He doesn't know how lucky he is. Find a submissive man, there are plenty of us out there who would do anything for a girl like you.

[Agrojag]

Roofies. Take him to bed saying you're going to bring him a drink, drop them in and have your way. Other than that, if he won't willingly oblige you, then there's nothing you can really do other than have a serious discussion and hope he sees things from your point of view. That sounds boring, though. Roofies would be more fun.

[yawst]

I would be happy to do this I don't know what's wrong with him.

[yawst]

Godfatherfan had a good idea. If nothing else you may need to find someone else

[echoaj]

Have sex with him when he is super tiered so he won't have the energy to dominate you.

Then you take over and control him.

Or you could get him super drunk

[Dragan]

If you love him, then you love and his dominant nature. This nature does not tolerate control. You need a submissive guy.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you just drop it? After all, wouldn't we all recognize that if a man wanted to try stuff like tying his gf up and she wasn't onboard, only an asshole would keep pressuring her and only a scumbag would go cheat?