My bf only gets semi hard!!! What's wrong with me?

Okay so I've been with my fiancee for 3 years and a half, recently got engaged around 6 months ago. Our sex has always been great, he always hard full hard ons. But like two weeks ago i started noticing that when we have sex he only gets semi hard. He says he hasn't noticed a difference, but how can't you? I've noticed it feels different, even when I.give him a blow job it doesn't get rock hard like it use to. I feel like im blowing away trying hard to get him rock hard. But it doesn't work, he's just hard but soft at the same time. He says it feels just as good, but I feel like maybe he's not attracted to me anymore :( or doesn't feel the same way about ne anymore... I don't know what to do, has this happened to anyone? Last week we had an argument and he said that he couldn't get really hard when he knows weve argued etc... but this couple days weve been great! So.whats the excuse now? I dont want to think he's cheating or something were always together if we are not working. I don't know what to do anymore makes me feel so.bad like there's something wrong with me:(
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  • Nothing wrong with you, its him, us guys always experience a limp on sometimes, and it has nothing to do with you, but try and change how you two go about sex, ie who makes the first move, where that move is, for instance, a t-shirt and no panties, and tease him a little, subtle but not obvious that you have no panties on, this will get the engine running, but don't make any moves, withdraw his advances until he is going crazy for you, because his problem could be just routine, x

    • Thank you for the advice:)

    • your welcome, x

  • what is wrong with people like you? everytime sex life is affected, you think either he has lost interest or he's cheating.. but do you ever think he might have stress in his life? might have been depressed because some one in the office humiliated him? Non sexual factors have great effects on a man's sex appetite and performance.. google it. Just think about HIM once.. talk to him about his problems, let his stress go and see how he performs again

    • First of all I never said he was cheating, I said I.would not want to think that.. and second I dont nag him if he's not attracted to me anymore etc... I've talked to him asking if he's noticed its been happening. And by you saying I should think about HIM for once... well I do all the time, I ask him about his problems. We talk about everything, but this topic in particular is what he doesn't like talking about. He says he doesn't have a problem... so being semi hard is not something to be worried about then?

    • actaully no my dear.. not at all. I can assure you. See, if he likes another girl, he will imagine you being her and have sex with you as if he was having with her.. guys do that many times.. So losing libido has nothing to do with losing interest.. actually nothing to do with you at all. I can guarantee he has a financial or psychological problem.. he's under stress of something..

    • but guys NEVER speak out such things in front of girls so as to not look like a pussy... and i doubt he will speak out even though you insist

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  • if he thinks nothing changed then you should just forget about, he clearly said it's the same and nothing changed that doesn't mean his not attracted to you i think you should just be happy and not ruin your relationship over something small

    • I.understand what your saying, maybe right now it may seem like something small but I hope it doesn't get worse. And im not trying to.ruin my relationship, just feels shitty to think.im doing something wrong.

    • you're not doing anything wrong start thinking positive

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  • First thing to do, IMHO, is to take your foot off the gas and breathe. Just go with it for a few weeks. Find sexy moments when you can tempt him but not let him touch. Anticipation is the primary motivator for an erection. If he still is having a problem, I'd ask him to see a urologist.

    • Okay ill.try to relax about it lol its been driving me crazy! But I.will definitely try different things to see if that works.

  • Do you know if he has changed his p*rn watching habits? I know I don't get as hard with my girlfriend when I have been watching a lot of p*rn. by the way you sound like an amazing girlfriend. He should think himself lucky. My girlfriend hardly ever goes near my dick with her mouth. Even if I'm rock hard.

    • He usually sticks to the same stuff, but I have noticed that this all happened when he started watching p*rn a bit more... I don't know what to do anymore :/ I love him but still makes me feel shitty you know. I want to be able to rock his world. And him semi hard I feel like I.don't

    • Thank you I try to be a good gf:)

  • Could be stress, he could just be getting older (low T) could just be stressed out, could be jerking it too much, or y'all could even be having too much sex, these things could all be factors

    • I agree. It can also be due to declining cardiovascular health. A good way to address this health problem (and the problem of low testosterone) is to get him exercising more.

    • I've also heard if they smoke? Is this true? He smokes a lot ...

    • Any amount of smoking will increase the risk of erectile dysfunction (ED). Men who smoke a pack of cigarettes a day are 30% more likely than non-smokers to suffer ED. Try convincing your boyfriend to switch to e-cigarettes. These lack a thousand chemicals that regular cigarettes have, but they still provide nicotine that will satisfy most of his urge to smoke. Once he feels comfortable with e-cigs, persuade him to cut back on using them to break his addiction to that one last chemical: nicotine. While doing this, try to get him to work out more. These two changes will *definitely* improve his cardiovascular health and will *probably* improve the quality of his erections.

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  • Nothing wrong with you, it happens too the best of us sometimes

    • Thank you, all you have made me feel a bit better. I've been a wreck in my mind just thinking the worst.

    • Your welcome, althouge he could be feeling guilty about something

    • I've talked to him, he says there's nothing wrong. That to him still feels the same so I don't know what to say anymore.

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  • Probably found someone he finds more attractive, and who doesn't ask strangers on the internet about his penis.

  • there's nothing wrong with you, don't worry about it