I gave a blowjob to a random 19 year old guy I met on an app..am I a slut? Also, is he going to be arrested?

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I met him on the app Whisper. I posted a whisper and he sent me a private message regarding my whisper. We started talking and that night I invited him over for a blowjob. I know, I'm stupid, but I have my reasons! When he got to my house it was around midnight. I snuck out and got in his car. We drove to the park by my house and got right to it. By the way, I'm fifteen and he knew that. In the middle of the blowjob a flashlight shined through the window. It was a cop..I got sent home and ended up being taken to the hospital (psychiatric inpatient) because I was having suicidal thoughts. That doesn't need to be talked about though..I begged the cop not to send him to jail for statutory sodomy but he only replied with,"I'll see what I can do." We are definitely both charged with trespassing. Now for my reasons, it sounds stupid but doing things with guys raises my self confidence. It should do the opposite but it doesn't. It was only my second blowjob too. The first one was with a random 17 year old guy from the same app. Does giving head to the 17 and 19 year old make me a slut? You can be honest, I think I already know the answer..

kheserthorpe · Accepted Answer

I've never actually thought that someone was a 'slut'. Its not a value judgement it occurs to me to make.

I guess to the extent that some people are 'sluts', what you did was slutty. I don't view that as a good or bad thing necessarily.

I think a lot of people get a self esteem boost from having sex - in fact its -normal- for males too. For a lot of women i think it gets wiped out by the realization that so many males will accept sex from... well pretty much any woman under 40. So then the self esteem boosting aspects wear off.

I'd suggest that you should probably be a little more careful in terms of going somewhere where you might lose control of the situation with someone you don't know.

I'd suggest that you should avoid putting people in situations where they're committing statutory offences.

Mazerock · Accepted Answer

No you are not a slut. As long as you are being safe and only doing things you are comfortable with and want to do that is fine. As for you being under age and he is not I would strongly encourage you to not do that again because yeah he isn't much older than you and it's dumb seeing as it's perfectly acceptable for a 60 year old marry an 18 year old but when it's just a couple years apart it's illegal. Anyways point being it could completely ruin his life ( not saying its your fault but just try not to be in that situation). Most importantly just love yourself if you love blowing strangers all the power to you just be you and be happy

MashDown5 · Answer

A bit. But you're young and only learn through mistakes.

Cheeky_Unfortunate · Answer

You know what? In some strange irony you're not a slut. You're a mentally ill teenager. That's depressing because I was looking forward to saying "You're a slut" but in actuality you're just really disturbed and require some kind of vehicle for your behaviors, sex being that one.

yaddayaddayadda02 · Answer

Your reasons are stupid.   You are chasing the wrong way to get self confidence.   You need to change your life choices.  Yes' it is very slutty.  Depending on the laws where you live, he should go to jail.  Get rid of that app immediately.   You are heading down a wrong path, child.  The good news is that you can change.  You are self aware to know you are doing wrong.