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During a blowjob, when I guy is approaching climax, why does he take his cock out of your hands and finish himself off like you're not even there?

When I'm blowing my boyfriend, instead of letting me continue to stroke and suck his cock until he comes, he grabs it and does it himself. He won't let his cock stay inside my mouth or let me stroke it until he comes, which is not fair, because I do all the hard work and then when he's about to come he ignores me and comes alone instead of letting me make him come. Other guys I dated also did that. Why?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • AidenBlue mentioned a couple of the reasons.

    One of the biggest is, as he says, girls who will STOP sucking/pumping at the first spurt of cum, which means that you lose 3/4 of the orgasm and your balls hurt. It's a rookie move, but it's INCREDIBLY annoying and even painful. You MUST keep going until he's completely finished.

    Another reason is that many guys can't have a full orgasm if the girl isn't going fast enough, or grip hard enough (they could learn, but it would take time, and many guys aren't willing, and many girls don't want to invest the effort either), so it's easier for the guy to take over at the end.

    And, finally, some guys take over because they want to choose where to cum, or because the girl wants them to choose. It might even be that he doesn't KNOW that you want to finish him, or that he's afraid you don't want it in your mouth, or whatever.

    The point is: talk to your guy about it, and work it out. I promise you, he's not trying to hurt your feelings or make you feel unappreciated, and in fact, he may be doing it because he thinks you'll get mad at something (like, him cumming in your mouth) if he doesn't.

    Communication should resolve this issue.

    • Yeah, I agree with this.

    • Yeah, I agree with this.

  • Because not a lot of girls know how to properly finish.
    Key is several things :
    * Pressure on the shaft and base. a lot of times the girls dont squeeze hard enough. It doesn't hurt it feels good to have a good grip. Why do you think guys like anal and virgins? Tightness!
    * KEEP GOING! Too many girls will stop as soon as he starts ejaculating to focus on managing the cum. That is the worst feeling to have all motion stop. Keep going on the shaft until he's done. He'll give you a signal.

    IF you do it right it can be just as good and I'd always prefer the girl to finish but if she makes those two mistakes - it can ruin it so then you have to take maters into your own hands.

    The one other thing to mention is make sure he knows the rules on where he can cum. Some girls are not ok with the mouth and we want to error on the side of caution and respect. In the middle if you pull out say 'come in my mouth' and go back to it - we have the green light.

    But anyways - its not all guys. I'd much rather the girl finish me and not do it myself but if mistakes are made - I'll make sure to do it myself.

Most Helpful Girls

  • If he pulls it out of your mouth, strokes his cock and cums into your mouth, then that's normal.

    When he pulls it out of your mouth, put your head back and open your mouth wide. After he finishes cumming into your mouth, swallow the cum then lick and suck his cock clean.

  • Um that's not normal. Talk to him about why he doesn't want you to finish him

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  • Strange.

    Maybe he's just very accustomed to his own way of doing things? If that's the case though, the logical thing would be to fill you in on what he likes. Maybe he just doesn't feel comfortable doing that yet.

  • My husband would love u then I never suk his cok and he asks a lot u shud just suck harder keep him in ur mouth

  • I don't know I never did that! I always let the girl finish me off her own way!

    But your right that not fair.

  • hahaha..girls because we have own tempo, grips and timing.

  • Oh I don't understand that at all. I like for her to finish me off. I like to finish in her hands or mouth. Ask him about it and tell him that you want to be able to finish him off.

  • Is he nervous of finishing into you? Cause that's my guess.

  • maybe your not doing a realy hard and a intense blowing
    we all like it to be intense Especially in the end
    or maybe you are not holding it hare or not covering all his skin by your lips and tongue
    I don't mean to insult you of course

  • I do not like too much fellatio. I love to fuck. Penis is the best feeling in vagina. Cum in vagina is the best.

  • I prefer too stay, but it is too intense for some

  • Cause the only way they can ejaculate is by stroking their own cock... poor you :(

  • Never heard of that! I always let a girl finish me off. A guy that would do that is very strange.

  • Your not doing enough to finish it off - if a guy can cum from oral hed prefer that but often times it takes hard and fast stimulation to finish

    Work harder towards the end to finish it!

  • I love it when she finishes me

  • that's because we r done with u then

  • My girlfriend does not have this problem with me because she lets me finish in her mouth and that's the best!

  • Does he at least include you by ejaculating onto some part of you, or does he fully turn away and blow his load?

  • Same problem.
    he said that no one can make him cum like that.

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