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How to tell my boyfriend I just want to have sex without sounding needy?

So me and my boyfriend are pretty close and have been together for a few months now. We are both faithful, caring and want to please the other person. Lately we haven't been having sex all that much. I mean before we'd have sex or at least heavy make out sessions like 1-3 times a week and now we don't even hardcore makeout. Its like he's aready in the comfortable stage where you dont need to have sex and I'm here still wanting to have sex a lot. It's been like two weeks since we did anything. I was forced out of my house for the weekend and he said i could stay with him so I spent all weekend with him and we didn't have sex. Friday , I dressed up so damn nice and sexy for him but nothing. There was a moment on Saturday where I tried kissing him and working his weaknesses and he just said I was really mean for torturing him and he did it back to me and then when I said we should take it up a notch he told me that since I was on my last day of my period that it would be weird and he didn't want to have sex. Like he has just wanted to hang out and he says he wants to see me but then we always end up hanging out with his friends and we don't have alone time...It's been like 2 weeks and he's going out of town for like 4-5 days. He doesn't initiate cuddling, talking as much, sex or anything but continuously tells me how much he loves me. Its so frustrating! How do I tell him I want to have sex again without sounding needy or uncool? like i feel he is at the comfortable stage too soon and I'm just here...something to just fucking look at.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It sounds like he hasn't got much sex drive.I'd even go down for a bite at the wrong time of the month, and he says you torturing him?

    I got news for you about the "comfortable stage" for men.If a man's healthy, it will happen when he's about 60 and he'll be happy with only having sex once a day.There will still be times where he might do it 4 times in a day.

    Tell him you want feel attractive and desirable, and that will only happen if he bangs you more often.Tell him you're horny and you need some action.

    • So I told him and he just brought up the time of the month thing again even though I have been off it for 3-ish days now and we have seen each other all of those days. Then he said he wanted to tomorrow before his friends party if there is time...so glad he can just barely squeeze me into his schedule...

    • I'm glad you got somewhere.Any action is better than no action.

  • Since when has saying you want to have sex uncool? Just tell him you're really horny, and that you really want to fuck. If that doesn't work let him know whats up. Tell him that you have been feeling unfulfilled recently, and that you want to be back to the point of cuddling/making out/sex. If he's a good boyfriend, he'll tell you if something is wrong. He might just not be feeling it, for one reason or another. You guys will probably have a fun night (if you know what I mean) after he gets back from his trip.

Most Helpful Girl

  • It's not needy or uncool to tell him you want to have sex - it's an important part of a healthy relationship. I'd say set up a date night and plan to stay at one of your houses. When you get home, just go for it. If he, for some reason, rejects your advances, then ask him about it and tell him how you feel.

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  • Invite a girlfriend over. That'll get get his pecker working again!

  • You could ask him why he'd rather watch p*rn/jerk off than let you have some fun and see where that gets you? Lol it's either that or he doesn't consider your needs as a priority since you basically used a flame thrower to light a candle by giving yourself away so soon in the beginning of your relationship instead of building up intimacy by talking and moving slowly.

  • Buy a vibrator.

    • I have toys but they aren't satisfying me as they usually do. Its like my body is telling me Im not allowed to cum unless it's with your boyfriend.

    • Well buy some smexy lingerie or a latex costume and surprise him when he comes home.

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