My boyfriend wants to eat my out but Im insecure about "down there"?

Hey, me and my bf have been dating for a couple months. Im not going to say my age because of creeps on here but me and my bf have been talking about this for awhile. Im old enough. I dont wanna go any further than oral. He's never done this before and I haven't. But he's showed me his d i c k , and let me touch it, tomorrow Im giving him a handjob but he wants me to give him head and Im kinda nervous, i really want to , to make him feel good. ( I won't go ANY further i wanna wait till Im married for sex ) Im in my teen years. I told him he could finger me, but he wants to eat me out cause he keeps asking, he said he wanted to pleasure me. But im really insecure cause my vag*na lips are like a purplish color and it bothers me a lot but everything else is pink... Is it normal ( im white no racism ) and Im scared I'll smell down there. What will he think of them being purple? What is it like being ate out for the first time, what do I do? Im just really nervous... Please help answer my questions haha Thanks! :)
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  • You are not the best judge for this. I mean I think the grossest thing in the world is a penis. it is a slab of skin and nasty looking...I am guessing you disagree? a pussy is the most awesome thing on earth.

    A woman has a special smell that is not gross, it is very intoxicating. Again, you cannot really judge as your not someone that finds vagina's appealing.

    Oral sex is definitely a Deal Breaker for me. If a woman did not let me do it I would not stay in the relationship.
    I know I am able to give her an orgasm. and I don't think I will be able to through just sex. so it is important to me. I would not like it to always be good for me and not for her.
    Since you don't want to have intercourse this will allow you to get maximum pleasure. Otherwise your in for some frustrating times if your always giving to the guy but never getting anything in return.
    THe only thing I could tell you is try and relax and let your mind go into the pleasure of it. If you can't then you are just going to have to find a guy willing to not do it.

  • im guessing your 15 or 16 from your lack of knowledge but dont worry. just make sure you clean the shit out of your vagina before you guys hang out. tell him to wash the shit out of his dick before you suck him off. oral can be fun but i recommend you look up some videos on how to do it since you are inexperienced. my firsy blowey was dissapointed because all she did was slobber all over it. there's more to it than that and you just have to make sure that sticking his dick in your mouth is something YOU want. dont just do it because he wants it. he's probably curious about sticking his lips in your fun pouch so i say let him do it if you're really interested. make sure you shave, you dont want him getting grossed out from flossing his teeth with your pubes. other than that, handjobs are totally cool and remember not to be nervous. ttry to have fun with whatever you decide to do. just be careful and dont let him talk you into anything you dont want to do.

    • who the hell down voted me and why? i demand an answer noobs!

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  • I've seen it all the time on here. Guys are not nearly as bothered about the appearance of a vagina as us girls are. We are our own worst critics. I'm positive that the color is not going to be a turn off for him and that he'll just be too happy to be around your vagina :) As for the smell. If you wash down there and keep your hygiene up then there wouldn't be any bad odors. Also I'd suggest you shave down there if you're not shaved already. Guys seem to like it that way down there.

  • Trust me you won't regret it, just go for it and enjoy. Don't be insecure about your smell or color, everyone is different. A little smell is normal as long as it's to to overpowering. Just enjoy your first experience. If u do let him do it be prepared he is going to want a blow job in return. Which is fun too!

  • i used to have the same hang ups.. and then i got eaten out once in the heat of the moment and it was hands down THE MOST AMAZING EXPERIENCE OF MY LIFE. he was obviously skilled, but girl you're missing out if you dont let him dig in

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  • Go for it! Let him eat you and you'll love it.You just do whatever you feel like doing.Don't worry about size, shape and colour (every woman is different);he'll enjoy turning you on too.

  • I think the best thing for BOTH of you will be to let things play out gradually. Just be blunt with him that you'd like to try making out & having him finger you (gently! don't be afraid to give him advice) at first. If you guys jump straight into oral it's almost certainly going to be awkward and then that starts to create weird vibes that could impact things moving forward...basically it's hard to shake that stuff once it creeps in, and this seems to be especially true for girls. So just try to be direct with him, tell him to chill a little bit, take things kinda slow. Other than that just go with the flow and eventually it should get to the point where you both WANT oral sex to happen. But nothing should ever feel forced or pressured at all. Have fun with it.

  • I understand that you're nervous, because it's something brand new. And from what I've read here on GAG and elsewhere, I think it's pretty normal for girls to be anxious that something isn't perfect about their vulvas/vaginas. But you need to know that no 2 vulvas look alike. They're all different, and different is normal. As long as you have good basic hygiene, and you don't have any kind of vaginal infection, your vagina is going to smell just fine. I actually love the scent myself. And I think you should really believe your boyfriend when he says he wants to go down on you. Most guys really like to do that.

  • You're going to read responses that you should jump in and enjoy while others may indicate something different.

    Only you know what you feel and what you think. Don't ever rush into something because of what others say and don't ever do anything you're not entirely comfortable with.

    I'd suggest using condoms or a dental dam if you do start having oral sex. STDs do get transmitted orally and it isn't worth a lifetime of regret because of not using protection.

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  • On no pervy stuff little small details about a girl like that will make a guy obsessed with you. My ex has a big birth mark on her ass that she hates and think looks ugly, but 'til this day I still miss looking at that birth mark. That's some stuff girls don't realize about guys.

  • its upto you, dere r less chnces of teen love being successful, so u won't me marrying him

    now decide u want him, den get it over with
    or have a long waiit

  • Come on, its your body.
    Even if he pretends to be angry, remember you decide.
    Ps: You are hot as Hell"

  • Speak up tell him adout it

  • Girls who think they vagina is ugly, usually have a problem with cunnilingus. Vagina is designed to men love her. We love them, their shape, scent and taste. It excites us, and it is natural that excites us. You need to relax and indulge. Then you'll start to enjoy it.
    Clitoris is the key to female orgasm. Tongue is best for clitoral stimulation.

  • There all different, and the same, guyz dont mind the color as long as it hasn't got warts you will be fine

  • You and other girls who read this need to understand that "imperfections" like your purplish labia are non issues for guys. Girls seem more aware of imperfections than we are. Any of us will be honored to be face to face with your pussie. All of you. Please do not let aesthetics get in the way of a good orgasm, which oral is more likely to give than any other part of sexuality. It also lets you get a look at our "souls". You can get a better picture of what is in a man's heart from a half hour of oral than a half hour of talk. Now, having said that...

    Hygiene IS critical but easily controlled. First, it is better if whatever hair you have is short. You may find later that, like me, he likes ample pubic hair but a close trim or shave will be good for your first time with him. You cannot rely on the usual shower to freshen you up. The best way is a warm water rinse every time you pee. Open your lips and flood the entire area including into your vagina a bit. This will wash away pee trapped behind your lips along with vaginal mucus that has accumulated over time. When these together have time to ferment in the warm anaerobic environment of your closed pussie, that classic fishy smell is the result. Regular rinsing (no soap or chemicals) solve the problem. My lover does this. Sometimes I even watch her (turn on). If you will trim up and get in the habit of rinsing, you have nothing to fear and you can get on with one of the most enjoyable experiences a girl can have.

  • Take a shower and then get the fuck over it!

    This happened to me too, girls are so pathetic.

    • Yeah the constant pressure and ramifications of being anything but society's ideal is what is really pathetic. >:C

    • Trying to pass the buck?