He came inside me without asking or anything...?

[chameleonsoul]

So, I was really drunk and had a one night stand with someone. Let me just say now.. I take responsibility for being stupid and having sex with this guy without a condom and while not being on birth control. But, I'm ticked that he knowingly came inside me (it was a lot), without asking me, telling me, or even asking about birth control.. nothing.. I ended up talking to him about it a couple days after, and it seemed like he wasn't shocked and like his apology was not sincere. He actually said, "sorry you just felt really good". He's now trying to see me again and hang out, etc. Is he trying to get me pregnant on purpose? WTH.. Do men actually do things like this? And am I wrong to be confused and irritated with him about this? Thanks in advance!

[ThinkingHead]

Of course you felt really good! The vagina is a wonderful place to be, and releasing inside while thrusting is the most amazing sensation ever. That's the human reproductive design, to ensure the species continues.

However, sending millions of sperm into a woman's vagina is a pretty profound and important act, and the resulting fertilization is serious stuff. Personally, I wouldn't inseminate without consent unless I knew for sure she wanted my semen inside her and that she was on birth control. And I'd never cum inside a chick who I couldn't see being the mother of my child. I don't process all that every time, but if she's not super attractive and with a great personality, I have no desire to inseminate her. For me, it's kind of an indicator of how much I like her. If I'm cumming in her, she's super sweet.

So, I don't suspect he's trying to impregnate you, but he might be. Siring a child is a permanent way of establishing a relationship with a woman. in my opinion, I think you should understand him a lot better before he enters you again.

[yofuknutz]

Neva Hicks and Sirena Locker come to mind you don't want to come inside them and you definitely get that feeling afterwards damn come inside them not a good feeling at all

[MrOracle]

Anytime you haven't discussed STDs and BC and so forth, and you've let a man inside you with no condom, you MUST assume the worst-case scenario, which in my opinion is pregnancy. YOU are the gatekeeper for your vagina, and it's up to you to set the rules for entry. While some guys will be responsible all on their own, many will do the least they can get away with (i.e., the least you'll require of them).

Clearly this guy only cares about what feels good to HIM in the moment, which tells me that if you DO get pregnant, he definitely won't be there for you in any way. You had casual sex with him, so to him, this is JUST casual sex, and any "fallout" is on you. I'm not saying that that's right, but you set the bar VERY low for him, so it's not surprising that his level of respect for you is also pretty low.

Your decisions have consequences, always, so in the future, you need to make better decisions so that the consequences are a lot closer to what you want them to be.

[Rrina]

Don't forget to read the update. I believe that she was raped.

[XRabbitHeartX]

He probably reckoned you had everything under control and left the serious stuff for you. He assumed you'd say "don't cum inside of me, I'm not on BC" and when you didn't he took that as the OK for him to go at it inside of you. I highly doubt a man will try to impregnate a hook up or one night stand. Any sane normal man will discuss things with his partner first. I think he's just being a asshole who doesn't want to take any responsibility. Most guys will still at least try to be responsible by bringing it up, even in a one night stand scenario.

[KimmyB]

I guess maybe giving him the benefit of the doubt he could have assumed u were on birth control? I've only had one guy do that after I specifically told him not to. So ur not alone there, apparently it does happen... As for getting u pregnant, there's no way to tell that... I would tell him that ur not on birth control and see if he still wants to cum inside u. If yes, then maybe?

And just kind of extra- the fact that he was like pinning u down and u were saying no? That does not sound like a good situation to me?

[Kabluie]

Yeah, that is usually the case. It's like don't ask, don't tell. Not to mention being "in the moment". Do you find telling guys to pull out often? Or is that just a gut feeling? I figure if they got that far you probably trust them :)

[KimmyB]

Uhmmmm, honestly if we start w/o a condom I'm pretty much just going to go w/ it and let him go inside me.. I can only remember a few times a while ago that I told the guy I wanted him to pull out. But yes ur right if they got that far, then I do prob trust them :oP

[Anonymous]

I think he's just a jerk and don't care. He sounds like one of those people who if he got you knocked up he wouldn't want anything to with the child and say it's not his. If he had any respect you, or himself, he would've at least asked about bc or used a condom to protect him from getting an std seeing as he didn't know anything about you! If I was you I wouldn't have anything to do with him, he's just a sorry person from my view.

[3gmoney3]

It was stupid and disrespectful of him not to ask about birth control upfront (and just plain stupid of him not to wear a condom for a one night stand). That being said, if I were stupid enough to think there was nothing wrong with random unprotected sex, I would also probably assume that if the girl didn't say anything it meant she was on some form of birth control. The point being, I don't think he's trying to get you pregnant, I think he's just irresponsible.

[TheLastGirlScout]

He's an idiot for not checking with you before having sex, and you're a fool for 'giving in' and allowing him to do it. Go get checked up and if it isn't too late, take the morning after pill... it's good for 72hrs afterwards.

[Rrina]

She "gave in" because she was raped.

[islands7]

Gals - you've GOT to assume
that all the blood & thoughts in a guy's head
drain down to the little head during sex
and little head hedonistics rule w/o regard for others.

Yes, there are exceptions - usually in a strong relationship like marriage.

So those gals that lose their heads pre/during sex or too drunk to care, protect yourself... this does not include giving, putting on rubbers - think - he's too stupid in that state to even know how to keep it on!!!

[EyeAmNiceGirl]

I guess I don't have much sympathy for your situation. You put yourself in the setting and situation, and didn't try all that hard to enforce your "no." When a one-night stand type tries to go for the big prize, and you say no but continue to entertain his advances, all he hears is "I'm not quite ready yet, you have to make me a little more wet before I will let you put that penis in me." Now, you let a guy go in bareback. And you say you are a grown woman. And any grown woman KNOW that letting a guy put a bare penis in her vagina is a guaranteed way to get a load of cum injected inside. It's called implied consent. It's called a natural progression. It's call an expected outcome. You didn't ask him not to. He didn't promise not to. And obviously he likes you for more than a one-night romp under the covers, so maybe he would be fine with it if you got pregnant and he might get to keep you around for a long time that way.

[madhatters4]

I don't think he wants to impregnate you I think he just doesn't really have the type of respect a person should have.

that said maybe he presumed you were on birth control since you were willing to have unprotected sex.

I think there were errors on both sides here. Me personally wouldn't have sex with a one-night stand without a condom and if for some reason I did I would NOT ejaculate inside her since I don't want a kid.

[godfatherfan]

If you have sex with someone, and you do not SPECIFICALLY say don't cum in me...why would you expect him to do anything else? what is with people? When your having sex it is not time for 20 questions. It is the responsibility of both party's to be on the same page going in. but once it starts there is no reason for him to start asking question.

[UPENDRA123]

What that man did is a rape according to law. U can file a suit against him. If u r not interested in filing suit , then u go to a GYNAC and have check your done . According to law inserting anything including but not limited to penis (pen, pencil, dildo, finger etc) all comes in Rape contrast. Was he ur friend , or neibour or husbands friend. Whatever may be the case it is RAPE. You have been raped in drunk position and now its ur turn to rape that MAN.

[alligatorblues]

If you actually read the post, you would see it was consensual. It is not rape to have consensual relations even though the guy deposits his intimate gift of masculine love at the opening to the girl's fallopian tubes. If she consents to reproductive activity, the law views it as consent to complete the natural act, even if the woman doesn't like it. There's misinformation regarding steallthing. Several sites say it is not permitted, and is considered rape. Well, you should always ask, "Considered rape by who? "Not permitted by who?" Feminists just decided that they, having zero aurhority, would deem stealthing to be rape. But feminists, as is always the case, are wrong.

[Lucy-123]

@alligatorblues 🤢🤮

[GreenMan92]

That's rape not a one night stand.
I hope you're not pregnant purely because you're too stupid to breed.

[AndyWes]

How is that rape? She makes explicitly clear it was consensual sex.

[26ukdude]

"And the fact that I was saying 'no' all night and while he was pinning me down.. I was too drunk to do anything about it. So I gave in. " Thats called rape

[TheLastGirlScout]

She gave in, meaning she consented, ok the pinning down bit isn't cool, but it isn't very clear in what context this is done. She said yes at some point, not strictly rape in my mind, coercion maybe, but not rape.

[HoneyBunny420]

@TheLastGirlScout saying yes out of fear because you think it will make the ordeal easier is still rape. There are people who say yes eventually because they just want it to be over with and they don't see an escape, they may fear something worse being done to them.

[HoneyBunny420]

Wtf is wrong with you? Have you considered that she's suffering cognitive dissonance because she doesn't want to accept the truth of what happened to her? You acknowledged that she was raped and proceeded to insult her. That is something only a fucked up individual who shouldn't breed would do.

[alligatorblues]

If you investigate your claim, it's you who get the Darwin award..

[alligatorblues]

@26ukdude it's only rape if one can prove it.

[Lucy-123]

@alligatorblues It isn't obi rape if it is proven. It was still rape, it just can't be proven. There are plenty of things currently unproven in science. They are still true. We just don't know it yet. Rape is rape, the event still occurred, whether it is proven or not.

[beastman88]

lol yes its his fault for not wearing a condom and coming inside you. how dare he. but ya in the future wear condoms.

[Ocicatlvr]

you shouldn't see him again and you should get yourself checked for stds

[alligatorblues]

I don't think the issue is whether the guy is being responsible. The natural male functionis to inseminate the fertile female. The natural female function is to conceive, bear and nurse the man's offspring. If you are not prepared to perform the female function, then 'you' should avoid reproductive activity. The guy is acting according to what he is created to do! That's why guys don't like condoms. It makes a natural act unnatural. If a male functions according to nature, he is acknowledging the woman's value as being more than barren flesh to sate his primal urges. If the guy cares only for her warm flesh, but not her feminine identity and purpose (fertility), she is reduced to a 'thing' whose value is the pleasure to be gotten from her, nothing more.

[worldscolide]

your question is not a question. you really need to just move on and accept that you made a mistake. Possibly abort if needed. On that same token your question is very much not genuine because you left out a lot of details like him holding you down and you saying no. Not a good way to start asking questions here.

You need to report him to the police if you said no and he pinned you..

[Kermit123]

My two-cents is that he was not intentionally trying to impregnate you. Most guys, after putting their penis inside you, are going to come without thinking about it. Both are responsible for safe sex, but after you let him inside you without a condom it is a bit of a statement that you are ok with it... and even if not, frankly, likely to happen.

[Nitinha]

You should be worried about HIV...This guy might has been that with others girls.

[legalboxers]

lets hope he's fixed..

[diegoD]

go get yourself checked for HIV

[hsmedic]

That sounds like flat out rape to me.

[Anonymous]

Yeah you have to tell the guy or most just assume it's ok to cum inside you. I always tell them once their dicks are out, if u wanna do this, u gotta use a condom or make sure u pull out on my stomach.

[Anonymous]

I really hope you don't up on The Maury Povich show.

[Anonymous]

He was trying to get you preggers.. this is not a good sign.. guys of your age do not TRY for this kind of thing.. HE IS OBSESSED~ !! LIKE YOU'LL WIND UP ON ONE OF THOSE C.S.I. shows obsessed... Oh EM Gee.. Best of luck to ya.