Guys, does age concern you if you really like a person?

[Anonymous]

How much of an age difference is too much of an age difference? I'm 22 and seeing someone who is 35, my last boyfriend was 30. I'm not going to try and justify myself with saying that I'm mature or anything like that. The relationships are mature adult relationships. My question is, do men worry about age difference? I am intimidated to a certain extent as my man was once engaged and that is a life experience that I am yet to experience. I respect his relationships, as I did my ex before him who had been divorced. I am often mistaken for being 28 or 29, but I sometimes feel that age is heavily frowned upon or that I might not measure up to the ex's. I respect their relationships. I'm pretty easy going and equal when it comes to relationships. Guys how would you feel about dating someone younger? Not immature or a teenager. Someone who acts older beyond their years, would the number still bother you? He's never said it does, I'm just keen to get a different perspective. I don't date people my own age, I feel like I'm surrounded by idiots. It used to be 3-6 years older, but 8 and 13 has got me thinking. Is it too much? We hit it off, but I was brought up oldschool. There doesn't seem like a difference when we are together. So whats the go?

[rthomas43]

There's nothing wrong with it per say, but it's just going to be a lot harder to emotionally connect with someone that has a lot more or a lot less life experience than you. It's similar to trying to connect to someone that comes from a completely different economic class than you do. Sure, common ground can be found, but it will never compare to the connection possible with someone that understands you because they've been in your shoes.

Having said that, when I'm 45 years old and rich, going to nail so many fine young ladies.

[MrOracle]

The age difference is largely what the two of you make it to be. It doesn't sound like HE has any issues with it, but rather that YOU have some issues with it, real or imagined. As long as the two of you are good together, then who gives a crap about your ages?

You can choose to make a big deal about your differences, or you can embrace them, along with your similarities. Whether you choose the positive or negative is up to you.

[tokioangel95]

I have only ever dated guys who were older than me. The oldest guy I ever dates was four years older than me, the youngest I've ever dated was three months younger than me.

[Troian]

I've been with a guy who was ten years older than me and he bothered him. He kept telling me "when I was your age, your were eleven...it's not right"

[knotme]

Yes, it can. If he is in his early twenties that a concern for me; 28 and older is fine though; as long as we get alone well.

[Jonny_]

So long as it's not illegal guys generally don't care... age is kind of an issue for me, I don't want to date someone who is too much older or younger than myself.

[Adenn]

Age is just a number, who cares? My wife is 8 years older than me. We have been married for 19 years now.

As you stated, the "generation gap", can cause some issues him already experiencing things you haven't, vice-versa. However, if you are both open you can both teach each other a lot. We all come from different walks of life, we all experience things in our own way. If we are willing to teach and willing to learn we can make anything work.

[1932ct]

I think it fairly common and accepted for a younger woman and older guy but not the other way around. I don't think it would be a issue for him and he probably doesn't want to measure you up against his ex your a completely separate experience so be yourself

personally age is a pet pev for me. she has to be younger I don't care if its 1 day or 20 years as long as she is younger then me, I just can't handle a woman even a year older

[Agrojag]

I'm 22. My age range is 18-25. I want a person I can grow and experience life with. Obviously, people younger than 18 are illegal, so I'm not interested there. As for people much older, I don't think they're as attractive for obvious reasons, but I also want someone who will grow and experience life with me. I don't want to be with someone who has a head start and would be more like a mentor to me.

[Ocicatlvr]

age means nothing. for some reason the older women tend to find me more attractive than the younger women

[Phoenix98]

I suppose it depends on how big of a age gap we are talking about here.

[Broncosfan21]

2 years max for me.. maybe 3 years

[rahul6023]

doesn't matter...only the connection matters