The cold hard truth is that, yes, you would be limiting yourself to a fairly small portion of the male population (the guys willing to go without sex until marriage).
You are free to set any rules or restrictions on yourself that you like, but every action has consequences, and the consequences of this decision is that you are eliminating the vast majority of men. If you can find a guy you like among the remaining men, who is compatible with you in other important ways, then, great, but by eliminating so many, it just makes your task much more difficult.
For that reason, it becomes MORE important for you to be in some relationships and learn about men and relationships, so that you can learn what is important in choosing a man, and now to make sure that a given man has those things that are important to you. You'll also need to be more aggressive at trying to meet the right men, because they'll be harder to find and fewer of them, so if you aren't taking an active role in finding them, it could be many years until you do, or never.
You can do certain things to help, too, such as moving to places where you're more likely to find such men, or, say, going to (or living nearby) a Christian college. The more you can stack the deck in your favor, the better your chances of success.
Never is a strong word. I don't really understand women's views on this "wait until marriage thing" because I know that in 99% of the cases, in 20 years she is going to look back and shake her head and wonder why she ever waited. virginity is not some "precious flower" that your giving to someone. and as much as we all said "Well I will never get divorced, that won't be me" yet statistics show that most of use are here divorced (in my case 25 years later). it is not always your decision. I didn't want to get divorced but I couldn't stop it.
Sex is a very important part of an adult relationship. It brings you emotionally and physically closer to your partner. It bonds you and really does put your relationship at a different level. it is also important to know your physically compatible. that is not a trivial thing.
Sure you may find a guy willing to only cuddle as long as your willing to take care of him with a blow job. I am not sure a hand job will do it but you never know. but as you get older and guys get more mature the whole "wait until marriage" thing makes less and less sense.
But it is your body in the end. You should only do what you are comfortable with. You just might be in for a long wait.
good luck.
She didn't say marriage just "with the right guy". I think many of you guys are reason too much religious ness in her question.
I have to say false. If he's a good man and really cares about you he'll understand and wait for as long as you wanna wait. If things hadn't played out the way they did with my husband, we was friends with benefits 1st, he's told me that it wouldn't have mattered how we ended up he would've waited as long as I wanted because he already liked me to start with. And he truly meant what he said, I know that without a doubt.
Yes, most guys would leave, because most guys don't care enough about most women to wait or even commit their lives to them.
Is it true that you won't be able to sleep/cuddle with a guy until you're married or engaged. Only you would know that. Most people don't wait, even those who plan on waiting so based on those odds you most likely won't be able to.
False...I'm living proof of that...I was a virgin till 28...did nothing with a man until I found the one I want to spend the rest of my life with...
The right one is out there for you...you just haven't found him yet...if you want to wait then wait...the ones that don't want to aren't for you
It's not true or false, it's a personal decision. If that's what you want to do, go for it and stick to your guns. I personally never put much value on my virginity on its own, I put more value on the idea of sex as a whole.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!Mmmm I would like to try and deal with a girl like you, I like a challenge if it won't take a long long time.
I like the idea of a "good" girl going bad for me.
It would actually depend on who you are; I've known "good" girls forced into being good that actually want to become bad in some degree, there are others that are just plain "nuns" married with Christ, that are not even worth the try.
I'm christian by the way and I know the pressure the church/community can put on someone, but for your own sexual/psychological health, don't wait till you are engaged, not to say married. Its the 21st century you have to use your common sense, most problems couples have are beacause something related with sex, if you don't know yourself and wait and a problem surges you won´t how to deal with it, you need to know every aspect of yourself.
In my experience sex is good, but its better when you have a partner that feels something towards you.
At least try to masturbate explore your own sexuality by yourself, so you get an idea of what you like before adding a person.
Here's the thing: most people don't think like that anymore. And somehow, GAG seems to attract all the people who do, cuz I hear it all the time here, yet have never met someone like that in my life. I've only read about saving it for marriage in books and stuff, haha. Not knocking it, and i'd never tell you that I don't respect your dedication to your convictions, as much as I may not understand them. But anyway, that said, most guys aren't on that path. They want to try before they buy. There are apparently dudes out there for you, but you'd probably find them exclusively at church. Its like Chris Rock once said:
"Whatever your partner is into, you gotta be into it too. If you're a Born again Christian, SHE gotta be Born Again. If you're a crack head, SHE gotta be a crack head. You can't be like: 'Hey baby, where you going?', 'I'm going to church, where you going?', 'To hit the pipe!'"
Well she said she wants to do it with someone long term not necessarily only after marriage.
It's true that a majority of guys wouldn't be willing to wait, but if that's what their priorities are do you really want to be with someone who cares more about a physical relationship than any other single aspect? I will say that you're placing a lot of expectation on this, nothing will guarantee someone will spend the rest of their life with you... even marriage or long term relationships promise that. I personally would be quite annoyed that I waited for so long, then got screwed over in the end. I'm not saying don't value it, but setting the bar that high means there's a high chance you'll get hurt.
question is pretty optimistic,,,, but whenever u will find a man of ur choice,,, it doesnot matter ur engaged withhim or not,,, u feel to hv fun and it is not bothering atall
The guys who don't share your values will leave but hey that's a great culling tool. You don't want them anyway because they aren't looking for what you are looking for. Stay strong you are making a wise decision
How old are you and what exactly are you planning to wait vs comfortable doing earlier?
I'm guessing you didn't read the paragraph below my question...I'll make it simple. 23 & I'll give it up when I know I'll spend the rest of my life w/ the guy.
Missed the 23 sorry. But I'm still not sure if you're wanting anything less thn sex but more than cuddling.
I don't mind oral...but its hard for guys to do oral & not pull out the D right?
False, there are guys who also only want to cuddle (they are only a few though).
not true few and far between. Also not many girls are into waiting to have sex either the average male loses his virginity at 16 females at 17 its pretty close.
You should actually be happy about every guy who's repelled by this attitude: They were after sex with you, not after a life with you. It's a small number who will join you in such an endeavour (it's very hard for a girl and even harder for a man) but those who are willing to are worth your efforts.
So don't see it as something bad when many will turn you down because of it - it's like a sieve. It yields those you were looking for.
complexly false! you just have to find the right guy. I'm 21 and me and my last girlfriend dated for 2 years and never had sex because it was something we both wanted to wait on, but we still cuddled and kissed frequently
I would definitely discourage you from sleeping with other people if you wish to maintain this standard. It is like turning on gas in a room and playing with old matches that may or may not light. It's a stupid roulette.
As for who will want to be with you it will be someone of a like mindset so that would make it considerably easier. That said again do not set yourself up for failure. Easily done.
The better guys would be happy to "deal" with a girl like you! Keep up the good work and stay on the narrow path! :)
There will be some guys who would want to be with you and respect you for that. Unfortunately I would not enter into a sexless relationship because I would become too frustrated and there would be too much sexual tension. It wouldn't end well and would be unfair on both of us so thats why.
She didn't say sexless though what's with these people and reading comprehension.
Waiting until marriage is an attractive quality. It shows discipline, and class. Guys look for a certain girl to hook up with but an entirely different girl for a serious relationship-marriage. It might seem unfair and it is definitely hypocritical but I ll bet most girls do that too.
Most guys...maybe but there are guys who love you because of that. you just have to find the guy who has same background/though as yours. No worry!!
You're a rare type of girl, almost extinct. A lot of girls who wait until marriage for sex end up getting curious about other guys and other dicks since they've only had sex with one guy.
It's ok, lots of girls are like that. But yes, most guys will not accept it.
True! I can't speak for most guys, but would avoid you. When you think you've found that one guy, you will spend the rest of your life wondering what it's like to be with another guy.
i think most guys wouldn't want to wait but there are some who have the same thinking. if a guy love you truly, he would respect u thats what i had learnt.
for myself cuddling is fine but sleeping required me to be in a r/s with the guy and also i have to be comfortable with him.
False. A good guy will wait for you.
Good luck on trying to stay pure till marriage it is a hard road but worth it.
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