Real Reasons Not To Masturbate

Real Reasons Not To Masturbate

There's a lot of mixed opinions when it comes to whether it's ok to masturbate and how frequently. After experiencing both sides of the coin as well as reading a lot of what others have to say on it, I think we mainly forget the major thing affected by masturbation and especially porn--the brain

Here are four reasons not to masturbate anymore which mainly have to do with harmful impacts on the brain:

Trains Your Brain To Sexualize People and Situations

When you're watching pornography or imagining a sexual situation you're zooming in on sexual aspects that you'd otherwise disregard. How shapely a girl's ass is how big a guy's dick is, how easy it is to rip that person's clothes off, how this conversation is definitly going to end in sex. While occasional masturbation keeps this a fantasy, masturbating all the time especially to porn causes things like staring at people's bodies and being ready for sex with a person who's just taking a drink of water from a fountain totally unware that you're setting up this scenario in your head. It's not just you being thirsty for sex--it's your brain actually still on sexualizing mode. You've trained it to see the sexy in everything and so it does. Cutting it off causes you to see sex only when sex is very apparent.

It Doesn't Fuel Fear to Interact But It Aids in Compliance

You don't really fear talking to that person you've noticed anymore than if you don't masturbate but you are a lot more compliant in not doing anything. When you haven't had sex in a while it can have a TREMENDOUS effect on your willpower and bravery. The desire overwhelmes the fear. However, when you know the shortcut you're much more likely to be like oh well next time I will for sure.

It Gets You Out of Sync

People who have sex a lot and occasionally masturbate when they're just overflowing with horniness think about sex differently from the chronic masturbators. A chronic masturbator might want to do it in a Nordstroms dressing room, but may be confused when they're told to stop halfway through sex in bed so that they can change positions. The first group thinks of sex based on the feeling and the second on the "hotness" factor. The first group wants it to last and the second group is used to thinking about the end. The first could last for hours in bed but burst almost immediatly when exposed to their realization of their sexual fantasies on the screen and the second group can see jsut about anything sexual fantasy realized and last and last while real sex can be rather short and unsatisfying for the other partner. You want to be in sync if you're interested in having sex a lot so being primarily a masturbator before a lover has it's difficulties.

No Love

Possibly the most important factor. There is no love in masturbating except i guess to your lover when they're away. In general, it is a solitary activity which focuses on the animalistic pleasure of sex over the connection/bonding aspect of sex. It's often that a hook up wasn't a great lay but it's rare that a couples time together is so physically bad that it overwhelms the emotional connection. When a chronic masturbator has sex he thinks about his own ejaculation that is his primary concern and even the masturbator's desire to see the partner orgasm is only a step in getting him or her to orgasm. Romantic sex is about giving far more than getting and the pleasure felt isn't only orgasmic it's empathic. You orgasm off of each other's orgasm.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • 4 medical reasons to masturbate:
    1. It can help prevent prostate cancer. Studies have shown that regular ejaculation can lower the risk of prostate cancer.
    2. It can help manage stress and depression, by releasing oxytocin, a 'happy hormone'.
    3. It also releases cortisol, another hormone that is important for a well-functioning immune system.
    4. Masturbating approximately 2 hours before sex is a recognized method of helping men with premature ejaculation to last longer.

    • lol thanks WebMD. I still feel like not masturbating is even more beneficial than those.

    • Masturbation doesn't actually help prevent prostate cancer. It's only ejaculation during intercourse that lowers the risk.

Most Helpful Guy

  • I almost stopped reading when I read, "Here are four reasons not to masturbate anymore"

    Some of what you said is correct, but only when masturbation is done to excess. Wouldn't this be bettered titled, "Reasons not to masturbate in excess?"

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  • I'm masturbating to this as I type.

    • Haha best rebuttal ever

    • @cowboyfan88 kiss ass

    • Ha yeah I usually get tongue deep when someone makes me laugh haha

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  • I see no problem with masturbation. Its normal in both sexes and doctors will actually tell you that it is very healthy.

    • i guess it's especially true for men who don't usually "choose" masturbation over sex but as they do it more and more they lose ambition and also the do it so frequently their minds start oversexualizing the world and then they're stuck because girls don't find that attractive

  • This is all true. It's an addiction, and any kind of addiction I deem unacceptable! And anyone who claims otherwise: you're probably addicted yourself...
    You give me hope, OP. Bravo. 👍👌

    • haha thank you! I like the epic way you write

  • I think imma go masterbate now...

  • I think the issue here isn't not so much masturbation itself but the method of masturbation. You can masturbate without watching porn.

  • I suppose if certain types of porn are utilized, your discussion actually makes sense. However, I've noticed that for me, it's about alleviating frustration and stress when there are few other good ways of doing so. It's also about playing out scenarios in my head so as to re-assess what I believe I would actually do in a romantic scenario. If I had that perfect wife, what would I say to her, and when and how? If this or that character in a book of mine made a risky decision to have sex, how did it all play out? I want to know so I can understand their motives later, even if I never write or publish the nitty gritty details of their sexy time.

    With my one ex, she told me that the result was that I had an unrealistic expectation of my own endurance and no concept of real heat or friction during sex, yet, also an unrealistic urge to want to please her regardless the risk to myself. She also found me very clingy, and took advantage of how patient I was with her until I finally let her know I'm not a doormat.

  • Perfect because I tried playing with myself twice. The second time it didn’t hurt but I did NOT masturbate. just felt better than the first by a bit. I have no imagination so I’m going to have to try something else.
    But so far, “masturbating” SUCKS and it’s hella frustrating

  • just masturbate already.

    • Fine.. I will lol :p

  • Why not to masturbate:

    1. Excessive masturbation can lead to addiction and erectile dysfunction.

    2. Lowers your sex drive and makes you more awkard in social settings. You also come off as less calm/casual when talking to girls.

    3. Causes dopamine receptors to become less stimulated by dopamine making sex less pleasurable.

    4. Can lead to you wanting to get into even sicker shit. You find that the stuff that got you off isn't enough and eventually that leads you down the path of weird fetishes.

    More points can be found on No Fap challenges on bodybuilding forum.

  • Just f'ing ridiculous. Masturbation is 100% normal and healthy. Single people do it. People in relationships do it. It's only a problem when it's so compulsive that it interferes with work or school or intimacy with a partner.

  • Do not agree, masturbation is healthy and FUN! Not gonna stop... even when I start having sex with a boyfriend/hubby/etc.

    • Who do you approach for sex, though? This take is more for men than for women.

    • @Nuqood I didn't know this was for men mostly. I don't approach anyone for sex casually. I need to be in a relationship to have sex. But I think it's ok if men masturbate. Even if I had a boyfriend I would expect him to do that, if I wasn't around or if he needed to release for whatever reason. Better than cheating and stuff...

    • The key difference is that your boyfriend would have pussy whenever he wanted since he's dating you, and if he's dating you that means he wasn't afraid to approach you to ask you out, so him masturbating is a lot different than a single man who doesn't approach the opposite sex using masturbation as their only way to fulfill their sexual needs. That was the takeowner's point, and my point about approaching is just that: all you'd need to do to get sex from men is stand outside nude spreading your butt cheeks with a lawyer beside you holding STI-free papers and informing people that you're consenting, so masturbation doesn't really affect you the same way it affects men.

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  • dude even chimpanzees masturbate, you're not going to get anyone to stop for these reasons. it's a natural thing to do, so you might as well do it

    • ye of little faith

  • I've heard people report that abstaining from masturbation resulted in more energy and focus and forces people to try to get the real thing, and makes it easier to connect with people you find attractive, which would make it worth trying.

  • A real reason that guys would actually care about is that it lowers your Testosterone if you masturbate frequently. Especially if it's done to porn. These are mostly psychological reasons, but your testosterone does drop when doing this (not just from ejaculation). Sex with a partner elevates testosterone levels. Your mind and body will always know the difference because of touch nerves in the skin. It's inevitable. So if you want more test, sex is definitely a better option lol.

    Now that's not to say that you should never masturbate. But if you do so 3 times a day regularly you are lowering your testosterone, which leads to bad side effects such as lowered sex drive, easier fat gain along with other symptoms of lowwr levels of testosterone.

    • Is there any empirical evidence to support this?

    • @jjjbunch

      Because I'm not in the mood to look up all of the papers, here is one article on the effects of abstinence (of masturbation) of young men after a 3 week period.

      www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/.../

    • Shows that if you're not regularly masturbating that your testosterone spikes. Which makes sense If you think about it. That's part of the reason if you don't masturbate for a period time you get extra energy.

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  • In moderation... Masturbation isn't a bad thing at all!

  • bro are you a monk by any chance?

    • lol it's sometimes the people who've indulged too much who realize the darkness of it

  • All jokes aside you do have a point about the "seeing others as sexualized". I think that is spot on. Something to really watch out for, that you aren't objectifying people. Lots of girls get harassed on trains because of this.

    When I do no fap and then cum, man.. if you save up even just a few days, its like a volcano. massive loads. so that is another advantage too.

    • have you ever done it before working out? do you notice much of a difference in performance?

    • Like the Roman soldiers, I don't cum before battle. Weakens the legs. Likewise, I don't cum before I enter the gym, my field of battle. hahahahaha totally jk. I doubt there is any difference in performance. I haven't noticed any.

    • Is orgasm better when you haven't orgasmed in a while?

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  • Sorry, I couldn't hear you over the sound of my masturbating

    • you mean your moans? or do you have a very loud vagina?

    • Sorry, I've got more masturbating to do, see ya

    • yea now that i've responded to you it put you back in the mood welcome ;)

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  • I don't like to masturbate. Only because it turns my brain on in unusual siruations.

  • i am more concerned about carpel tunnel syndrome...

    • Hilarious! And a real concern

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