There's a lot of mixed opinions when it comes to whether it's ok to masturbate and how frequently. After experiencing both sides of the coin as well as reading a lot of what others have to say on it, I think we mainly forget the major thing affected by masturbation and especially porn--the brain
Here are four reasons not to masturbate anymore which mainly have to do with harmful impacts on the brain:
Trains Your Brain To Sexualize People and Situations
When you're watching pornography or imagining a sexual situation you're zooming in on sexual aspects that you'd otherwise disregard. How shapely a girl's ass is how big a guy's dick is, how easy it is to rip that person's clothes off, how this conversation is definitly going to end in sex. While occasional masturbation keeps this a fantasy, masturbating all the time especially to porn causes things like staring at people's bodies and being ready for sex with a person who's just taking a drink of water from a fountain totally unware that you're setting up this scenario in your head. It's not just you being thirsty for sex--it's your brain actually still on sexualizing mode. You've trained it to see the sexy in everything and so it does. Cutting it off causes you to see sex only when sex is very apparent.
It Doesn't Fuel Fear to Interact But It Aids in Compliance
You don't really fear talking to that person you've noticed anymore than if you don't masturbate but you are a lot more compliant in not doing anything. When you haven't had sex in a while it can have a TREMENDOUS effect on your willpower and bravery. The desire overwhelmes the fear. However, when you know the shortcut you're much more likely to be like oh well next time I will for sure.
It Gets You Out of Sync
People who have sex a lot and occasionally masturbate when they're just overflowing with horniness think about sex differently from the chronic masturbators. A chronic masturbator might want to do it in a Nordstroms dressing room, but may be confused when they're told to stop halfway through sex in bed so that they can change positions. The first group thinks of sex based on the feeling and the second on the "hotness" factor. The first group wants it to last and the second group is used to thinking about the end. The first could last for hours in bed but burst almost immediatly when exposed to their realization of their sexual fantasies on the screen and the second group can see jsut about anything sexual fantasy realized and last and last while real sex can be rather short and unsatisfying for the other partner. You want to be in sync if you're interested in having sex a lot so being primarily a masturbator before a lover has it's difficulties.
No Love
Possibly the most important factor. There is no love in masturbating except i guess to your lover when they're away. In general, it is a solitary activity which focuses on the animalistic pleasure of sex over the connection/bonding aspect of sex. It's often that a hook up wasn't a great lay but it's rare that a couples time together is so physically bad that it overwhelms the emotional connection. When a chronic masturbator has sex he thinks about his own ejaculation that is his primary concern and even the masturbator's desire to see the partner orgasm is only a step in getting him or her to orgasm. Romantic sex is about giving far more than getting and the pleasure felt isn't only orgasmic it's empathic. You orgasm off of each other's orgasm.
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