Condoms are a necessary evil. They minimize the risks associated with sex, but they reduce the sensation associated with sex. If you live a promiscuous lifestyle, however, they are not an option. Too many diseases and whatnot exist to assume the risk of not using one. When I had sex without condom with one of my first girlfriends years ago, though, it made me realize that sex was rarely worth having if you're using a condom in the first place. Here's why:
1. If You Need to Wrap it Up, You Don't Trust the Person You're Having Sex with
I met a girl on OKCupid; we were having sex with a condom, and she told me to take it off. She said she'd been tested and was on birth control, but I thought, "how many other times has she done this?" Then I thought, "if I don't trust this girl enough to remove the condom, then why am I having sex with her in the first place? Especially when the condom is zapping a lot of the pleasure." Therefore, using condoms makes you aware of the health risks you take during sexy time. Additionally, they make you keenly aware of your partner's sexual history, which is rarely a good thing.
2. You Don't JUST Try to Get into Someone's Pants
If you hate condoms, then you only want to have sex without condoms. The only way to have sex without condoms is to get to know someone really well and have a fulfilling, longer-term relationship with them (unless you live a risky lifestyle). Therefore, you rarely try to get into someone's pants in the short-term since, in the best case scenario, you would have to use a condom. Short-term sex isn't appealing anymore. You start needing something deeper.
3. You Vet the Opposite Sex More Closely
This one is especially for guys. When we want to have sex with a lady, we let a lot of things slide that, if the roles were reversed, should have gotten her rejected a long time ago. When we want to have sex with a lady without a condom eventually, then we start paying closer attention to how she behaves to see if it will be compatible with our personality over the longer-term. If you don't want to use condoms eventually, then you need to trust each other, as opposed to a one-night-stand where you just need consent.
4. The Need for Connection Attracts More Potential Partners
This one is especially true for guys again. By not rushing to try to get into a girl's pants, you set yourself apart from other guys, in a good way. Additionally, by considering the risks associated with sex to such a degree to refrain from it until you trust the other person, you frame yourself as a responsible and mature person (but not a prude). Lastly, everyone wants what they can't have, so holding sex back from a person that fancies you may turn out well in the long run.
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