GirlsAskGuys seems to be full of men and boys who are concerned about their virginity. This excessive concern shouldn't exist in the first place for a multitude of reasons. So, I've written a list of things why males shouldn't be ashamed of their virginity:
1. Sexual intercourse is a choice with lots of strings attached.
Even in "no-strings-attached sex", there is actually strings attached. First, sex must be consensual, or you'll be prosecuted for rape or sexual violence. Second, sex involves preparation. Preparations involve receiving vaccinations (HPV vaccine works best on virgins, men and women, and it comes in 3 doses), buying condoms and barriers, having health insurance in case you get an STI, and having a healthcare provider that is able to treat you. If you do not think you are ready to handle such a responsibility, then you should definitely wait to have sex. As always, think before you act.
2. Earth is already over-populated.
You are doing the world a huge favor by not increasing the world population. Celibacy, voluntary or involuntary, is 100% effective in birth control and population growth. This may give you a bit of dissatisfaction and discontentment in your life (as you want to release those sexual urges), but look at it this way. Suffering doesn't have to be perceived as a bad thing. Sometimes, suffering for a greater good is a very noble virtue. On top of that, you can adopt children from impoverished countries and give them a better life and future. And do you know what that is called? Altruism. ;)
3. You may be a virgin, but that doesn't mean you cannot have any sexual pleasure.
If you have the money, then you may buy a realistic sex doll and have sex with it. During sexual intercourse with the sex doll, you may want to role-play and pretend that the sex doll is a real partner. You may work on asking for consent, expressing empathy, wearing a condom, and the actual sex acts. That way, when you have sex with a live partner, you'll be ready. If you do not have the money to buy a sex doll, then you may make one out of your own imagination and whatever materials you have. Design the sex doll however you want, and treat it like a real human being. Give it a name, and spend time with it - and hopefully the sex doll will give you all sorts of pleasures! :)
4. There are so many other ways to have fun.
Sex is just one of them. However, I must add that even though sex brings pleasure, it, assuming heterosexual sex here, also brings new human life. If you are having heterosexual sex, always consider that the creation of new human life is possible (regardless of how much "protection" or "artificial birth control" you are using), and the termination of that human life is unethical. Therefore, taking responsibility for sexual intercourse is often much greater than other type of fun activity and, in my opinion, should only be done by two mature and financially independent adults. As a virgin, don't focus on what you don't have or what you have not done. Focus on what you like to do and what you can do at the moment. If you like to play sports, then play sports. If you like to play computer games, then play computer games. If you like to paint, then paint. Be grateful for what you have, and be proud of who you are. If anyone tries to disparage your identity as a virgin, then they are at fault, not you. Just ignore them, no matter how tough it is, because they are just not good people to be with. Do not hold a grudge against people, because - who knows? - sometimes people may have a change of heart, and it is very important to offer forgiveness. Also, sometimes people may be for the most part respectful and kind, but they may not realize they are hurting you until you tell them.
5. You are at low risk of contracting STIs.
Assuming that you are a virgin who has never had oral sex, vaginal sex, anal sex, grinding, mutual masturbation or any kind of sexual or intimate activity (such as kissing), you can be sure that you do not have a sexually transmitted infection and thus do not need to be tested. In addition, if you keep good hygiene and sanitary habits and universal biohazard safety precautions, you should be safe and not catch any pathogenic bugs. If you seek a romantic-sexual partner who has the same life experience as you do and enter an exclusively monogamous relationship with the intention of having biological children without a limit, then you're golden. You never have to use condoms and barriers or even birth control! Plus, pregnancy and breastfeeding may serve as natural birth control, so that may help with family planning. :)
I write this myTake for the virgin guys out there who feel bad about themselves for being themselves.
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