Mythbusters- Vagina Edition

There are several myths to do with vaginas, from their tightness to things that could result in them getting ‘looser’ and such, which I’m sure many of us have heard of through the grapevine. From a virgin’s vagina supposedly being incredibly tight to women who are regularly sexually active being loose as the Grand Canyon. As if having regular intercourse wouldn’t suffice, I’m sure ‘once you go black, you never go back’ sounds quite familiar to many! Those from North America, at least.

Heck, many people, even my own boyfriend, still believe that having a child will leave a woman too permanently loosened for her, much less the man, to enjoy sex any more. If not, then I’m sure anyone who’s browsed the sexual behaviour or sexual health topics on GaG has run across the several threads we seem to have posted quite often about how virgin hunters seek a ‘tight virgin pussy’, or will accept nothing else because they don’t want a woman ‘pre-stretched’ by previous partners.

Mythbusters- Vagina Edition

Myths that will be touched on include:

- The virgin vagina is very tight

- Frequent sex loosens the vagina, therefore women shouldn’t be promiscuous

- Childbirth permanently loosens the vagina


Though I once took these myths as the truth, I’ve since come to learn that they’re anything but. That no, simply having a child, engaging in regular sexual activity, or having partners who happen to fall above the average package size will not result in the woman becoming ‘damaged goods’.


Let’s take a bit of an anatomy lesson to dispel the first myth; that a virgin is by default any tighter than a non-virgin.

The vagina is a canal composed of muscular tissue, right?

I don’t know about you, but I’ve never heard of a muscle being any tighter than average solely because it has never/seldom been used. I mean, the only way that logic would work is if muscle was like silly-putty. Where it’s all condensed at fist and once you put a hole in it, it’s forever ‘looser’. Obviously muscle fibers are not in any way like that. Even if they’ve never been used, they’re capable of keeping form. The main thing that use of them will do is actually tighten them, or build some bulk.

There is also a widespread belief that women who are sexually untouched have a tighter vaginal opening because of the intact hymen, which a man can discern through intercourse.

Mythbusters- Vagina Edition

…Yet another mistaken assumption. The tightness of the vagina is not caused by the hymen membrane but as a result of a contracted pelvic floor muscle. The more it is contracted, the narrower the vaginal canal is.

Though in the event of penetration, the hymen might be scarred, it is more often nothing more than stretched and is left undamaged.

Back to the things concerning the vaginal canal...

If a woman experiences pain and/or great difficulty inserting a tampon or accepting an erection, the cause may be vaginismus, unusual clenching of the vaginal muscles. For suspected vaginismus, consult a physician.

If the vagina simply feels "too tight" during lovemaking, the woman is either not interested in sex, or she has not had enough warm-up time to allow her vaginal musculature to relax enough for comfortable insertion, which will result in them becoming much looser than they were initially.


Now moving onwards… have you ever heard of anything that makes muscles permanently ‘loose’ or fall slack? No?

Exactly.

The vagina's tightly folded muscle tissue is very elastic, like an accordion or the mouth. Try this: Pull the corners of your mouth out toward your ears then let go. What happens? The mouth immediately snaps back to its pre-stretched state because the tissue is elastic. Do it 100 times. There's no permanent stretching. The mouth quickly returns to its pre-stretched state and no one would ever know you'd stretched it.

You could look at the vagina of a sexually active woman, promiscuous or not, in the same way.

There’s no such thing as it becoming forever tighter or looser (with the exemption of trauma). Hell, you’ll notice fluctuations in that on a day-by-day basis, depending on how stressed the woman is, where she is in her menstrual cycle, etc..


Let’s look at the idea that having a child will leave a woman significantly looser.

Yes, the vagina stretches a great deal during childbirth, almost like an accordion opened all the way. Does it re-tighten completely Post-partum, though?

Yes. Usually, at least in young women in their late teens or early twenties, at least. Within six months after delivery, the typical young woman's vagina feels pretty much how it was before she gave birth.

Nowadays, however, many woman delay childbearing until after 30, with some having children even after after 40. In instances such as this, combining the rigors of older childbearing in addition to the effects of aging on muscles not exclusive to the vaginal canal, and you’ll have many women complaining of looseness. Which doesn’t necessarily have to be viewed as a bad thing... I mean. You can’t imagine a woman popping out 8+ children and her body coming out of unscathed, especially when you throw in things such as what age she’s at, how many children there have been thus far, etc.


In a nutshell-

A woman being undesirable because she’s promiscuous in nature and therefore ‘loose’, is something you’re perfectly entitled to feel, though is not much more than a belief that was quite commonly held in the past.

Any type of virginity test that relies on the observation of the hymen or of the tightness of the vagina is inconclusive at best, if not completely invalid. The belief that it is easier to discern the virgin state of a woman than a man is more of a fable than a scientific fact. A fable that is still unfortunately widely believed and practiced largely to subjugate women.

Mythbusters- Vagina Edition

No-one, neither a woman nor a man, should ever be compelled to endure such questioning, regardless of the reliability of the exam.

A virgin may be tighter than your average woman due to anxiety and the resulting muscle tension, though do we really want to be putting so much worth on what lays between a woman’s legs in the first place?

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  • I thought that purse was a boat! Like the little canal boats.

    Yea, about the virgin tightness thing. That's pretty much only the first time that it's THAT tight and you know it will pretty much be that tight. It has so much to do with nerves and those muscle just not relaxing. After that, most women feel much more relaxed and the vagina walls loosen to allow her partner to enter.

    Even women who are not virgins can have tighter vaginas. Sometimes too tight.
    Sometimes my partner has to work his way into me because the muscles just aren't loosening, it's not sexy, it's annoying. Some women find it hard to even have sex because it's so tight. Yea, maybe the guy can handle it, but sex is never truly good if the other person is in pain or only desired because of a few inches between her legs.

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  • Very Nice Copypasta it's clearly easy to be an editor if you just have to copy and paste off a few sites:
    www.psychologytoday.com/.../the-rare-truth-about-tight-and-loose-women
    theconversation.com/women-suffer-the-myths-of-the-hymen-and-the-virginity-test-35324

    • yes, I got a few ideas from various sites such as that but sometimes it was difficult to word it another way without completely changing the meaning. In any case, thanks for providing a reference page.

    • a few ideas you copied and pasted basically the entire mytake.

    • How can I report this it's just copied and pasted shit which is against mytake rules this needs to be taken down.

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  • To my knowledge a woman having a few kids her vagina is not going to change as far as tightness. Now, perhaps this question should be possed to Jim Bob Duggar who has sired 20 kids. Does his wife's vagina feel any different. I know for a fact that if a woman has a baby her cervix will change in size. It's because of the hormones that are required to dilate the cervix so that the baby can pass through. This is fact because women who have IUD's first implanted that have not have kids have a greater chance of expelling the IUD. Also I have a rare connective tissue disease so all of my joints and muscles are super flexible like a contortionist. Even though the rest of my body is so limber my vagina is tight or at least my husband has never complained because he doesn't last long.

    • Regarding the Duggars... maybe. How can we know whether Jim Bob Duggar's wife vagina may feel 'looser' or not quite as tight because of having given birth so many times, or the fact that she's now almost 20 years older than before her first child, though? The vaginal canal is a muscle. Everyone's muscles lose a bit of tightness and go more slack as they age. The vagina would probably not be exempt from that.

  • Nice take, while not an expert I have also researched this topic and came up with very similar results. Something to think about in regard to muscle use and "looseness" if a guy is complaining about this topic, and he assumes that a given woman will stretch out, than the same can be true for him, in the sense that if he gets an erection, then it will stretch him out and his member will not be of any use to anyone. The action and function is the same just reversed.

  • Let's add the "skinny women/women with thigh gaps have loose vaginas" myth to that list. Simply not true.

  • I like this take. But something you should have added is that "outties" or "beef curtains" ARE NOT necessarily looser than "innies". I cannot count how many dudes who make fun of outties because they say that's how "they know" a woman has been "used up" or had too much sex. It's like, that's not how the vulva works lol It's funny and sad how they think that all innies belong to inexperienced women and all outties to promiscuous.

    • Honestly people who are ignorant enough to still believe that, should not ever be allowed near a vagina.

    • @ShaeNielson that's way too many teenage boys, grown men, dudes on Facebook, insta, YouTube, Reddit, on here etc. Some guys in my bar literally were going on and on about that. And then I'm trying to give them the facts and their like "that's because you have roast beef pussy you defend them." I'm like *facepalm* Ughhhh.

    • Some men are simply idiots!!!

  • I always ask for a sexual history when getting with a new partner. Not because I'm worried she'll be loose but to protect myself from disease. If she's had more than 2 I request she get tested for any diseases before we have sex. This is the common worry. Promiscuity isn't shamed because a woman is whore or whatever you seem to think. Promiscuity is shamed because it increases the risk of disease pandemic and contributes to the constant mutation and evolution of different amounts of diseases that are transmitted through the swapping of bodily fluids. I don't think that liking virgins more than sexually active women attributes to subjugation but your opinion is your own. I don't see how that amounts to domination or control over any individual or group of individuals. However I reiterate you're entitled to your opinion. Preferring a virgin is just that. Personal preference. It shouldn't be generalized. You'll end up offending a lot of people. Don't try to force general issues into a general audience then try to fit that audience into a sociological model or a psychological model. You will only end up discrediting yourself and making yourself look close minded or possibly even simple minded. I'm not trying to say the post is bad just saying that some things you've said here are improperly worded and warning you that you may receive some less polite corrections. All and all good post!

  • There is nothing on earth more fascenating, awesome to look at, eat, fuck etc then a vagina. they are just awesome.
    I have had sex with a number of women, some that never had kids and including being married for 25 years to a woman that gave me 3 boys. I have never noticed a difference in "tightness" among any of them. Some women are smaller so things may rub differently, but once inside, they all feel the same. The men that believe these things are usually young, uneducated and ignorant.

  • Virgins will be tighter , because like you said thier muscles have never had something in it. Now, does it mean a virgin will be tight after she looses it. No, it depends on gentics, you keeping your muscles tight... etc The fact that this even a debate is amazing. A vagina is an entire muscle, and I think a lot men AND women think its like a booty hole. Its not folks ! But yea, as long as your keeping it in shape, your fine really! No such thing as a loose vagina unless she has some type of disease.

  • Great take - Anything that educates or raises awareness in the area of sexuality is always welcome by mean - 99% of the damage that sex can do to any society is not caused by knowing too much about sex but too little about sex that is why I support full and frank sex/life education in schools.

  • Who is lobbying for mandatory virginity tests?

    • i was thinking the same. and "dignity". isn't that a little dramatic? there will always be guys who think they should marry a virgin just like there will always be girls who will date someone bad for them just because of cock size. Guess what? The girl who focuses on cock says probably has a huge vagina and the guy who wants a virgin probably has a small penis. COMPREHENDO everyone?

    • @username35769 'The girl who focuses on cock says probably has a huge vagina and the guy who wants a virgin probably has a small penis. ' Using that kind of 'logic', it'd be safe to assume that men who insist on marrying/dating a virgin (ie. 99% of men in the middle east/India) have micro-penises. LOL. Shitty deal.

  • You might be an editor but your views on multiple childbirths and pelvic relax sensation syndrome stretch political correctness. The fact is the more children you have the looser your vagina will become. Instead of talking to the females about this try talking to the guys. In guy magazines – no not gay magazines guy magazines they all complain about the Holland tunnel effect of childbirth. When looking for the perspective of the opposite sex try the opposite sex

  • "though do we really want to be putting so much worth on what lays between a woman’s legs in the first place?"

    I agree with this point, talking about vaginas so much is strange and self-indulgent. It's a shame that you don't feel this way.

  • As always, a great myTake/opinion from you on a sexual topic.

  • ... so some one told me Chinese Woman have side ways vaginas... Think it was Alec Baldwin on SNL... myth?

  • Well written, thank you for writing!

  • Yeah what she said☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼☝🏼

    • she didn't say anything unique this is a shitty copypasta mytake that needs to be taken down.

    • @Josht11 did I say it was unique? I don't care how many people say it, I think she's right and the same goes for me. Also fuck you for thinking people's my takes should be taken down. Freedom of speech asshole.

    • You fucking idiot, she's not right because it's not her opinion she copied and pasted it from these two articles
      www.psychologytoday.com/.../the-rare-truth-about-tight-and-loose-women
      theconversation.com/women-suffer-the-myths-of-the-hymen-and-the-virginity-test-35324
      Furthermore she went against the GAG Rules on Mytakes which is why it should be taken down " MyTakes that are copy and pasted content from other sites will be removed." Also if you agree with freedom of speech do you think comments should be removed for offensiveness of course you don't so I hope that my comment isn't removed.

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  • @kaylas91 great post!

  • Very nice myTake! Great Job!!

    • except for the fact it's just a copy and paste from two articles.

  • Your hymen might not break but it does stretch over time. The loosening is caused by a weak pelvic floor muscles which is exacerbated by age, sexual activity and child birth.

  • Women are not self consicious to make pubococcygeus muscle more strong. I think so many of them loose by the time. Sexuality is sick sometimes. It makes men feel weak but sometimes, the problem is about only women.

  • Excellent take!

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