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7 Sex Questions Your Kid Should Have Answers To at Age 13

Dear Parents and Future Parents,

You may wonder why I choose 13. I choose that, because 13 is the legal age for using websites that are not regulated by COPPA (Children's Online Privacy Protection Act of 1999). For this article, I use 13 as the age at which you participate on websites intended for the general public. Now, before your little ones participate on Internet forums and social media, there are some things about sex that they should know, so they don't ask them to random strangers online. Strangers may not take them too kindly.

Sex Questions That You Should Make Your Kid Know Before 13

I just watched porn. Why does the guy have to move in and out of the girl?

Why does the girl make noises?

Why does the camera only shoot the girl's face, but the guy's face is off-screen?

Why must the condom be put on an erect penis?

Do men wear condoms all day long, so when they want to have sex, they will be ready?

I just watched porn. Why do the guy and the girl have to change sex positions so quickly and so often? Is there a purpose to the different sex positions and the timing in sexual intercourse?

I just saw porn. I think the white stuff is semen or ejaculate, but I don't understand why the guy has to extract the penis and excrete the ejaculate on the body instead of inside the vagina. Isn't that counterproductive in reproduction? Can she still get pregnant if the semen goes into her mouth?

Each question is about an aspect of sexual intercourse, many of which are related to the explicit depictions of sex in online pornography. With the great volume and easy access to online porn these days, prepubescent children in the developed world can just look for porn online. Make sure your kids know what they are getting themselves into, and have a discussion with your kids. That way, they get informed about sex and won't embarrass themselves in front of an Internet crowd as 30-year-old virgins who are clueless about sex.

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  • Lol all I can say is my kids won't be asking any porn questions ( I'll be blocking content like that behind passwords and firewalls ) I'll bring up the topic of sex to them when they start getting interested in girls and I feel it's the right time. And porn has little to do with realistic sex and certainty will not be studying material for my kids and might I remind you porn as a detrimental and unhealthy effect on the mind as well as an addiction side affect similar to gambling something several people who used to watch it say and can legitimately claim. Ain't no way my kids are seeing that nonsense.

    • I can easily defeat and/or bypass every major kiddie filter, and I'm not even a class-A hacker. Don't make the mistake of thinking it's actually possible to hermetically seal off the internet. (Pssst: Kids' friends have computers, too.)

    • @redeyemindtricks Who said anything about a kiddie filter? and who cares if you could, you wouldn't be living in my house. And while I actually could do that as I have resources and people at my disposal most don't, I would just block porn sites, I mean really who in their right mind thinks that is actually healthy for kids to watch? much less learn from, aside from the o so wise asker. I have no intention of blocking everything off but my kids won't be learning from porn sites, that ain't healthy and porn is by far not realistic when it comes to sex. ( psst: I know but I'm talking under my roof )

    • Great answer!

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  • I agree with you. I learned at first everything about sex from watching and reading porn In middle school. I didn't use porn as a starter for what I did in relationships. I asked around and experimented but I didn't go out and just totally copy porn. I wish my family had been more open about sex in the first place. But I don't regret doing my own research.

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  • Sex education in Village Indian life starts much early. Most boys and girls know how a cows or buffalos is fertile and give birth to a baby animal. They know the difference between Ox and bullock. They have seen long penies of horses and Donkeys. Have seen mounting of animals and birds. Most city childs, whose parents are well-educated and in the upper-middle class never show their children this natural thing and prevent them from seeing or discussing such things. Also religious people usually say that sex is a very bad thing. Reproductive Science is a science and everybody should know it at different level at different age.

    • I know South Asian culture very much, being myself one of you, so well said. Our kids are well familiar with all these "secrets".

  • I find this post ridiculous. This is literally only about porn and all basically the same question. At 13 your child should know at least the basics of sex education. These questions are narrow minded

  • No. Just no.

    • No meaning what exactly? its just a bit ambiguous of an answer to me.

    • "no" to this entire post.

    • @smell-my-fingers

  • I think it's good to start a dialogue. But I think the better thing would to also know what sites they are using as well, then you can pace it, and make sure your kid isn't doing stupid shit like talking to pervs on say, Tinder. Not every child is mentally on the same level. So, those questions may be ok for some 13 year olds and down right vulgar for others.

    I think a kid can have all the truths without the wording or by revolving around porn.

    I think this is a great MyTake in the fact that you're urging parents to talk about sex AND you give great information (about what the age 13 means)

    • 'those questions may be ok for some 13 year olds and down right vulgar for others. ' Uh, to be honest, it's better kids find out from their parents than when they go online and accidentally click on the 'bukkake' porn category without knowing what that is (which is exactly what happened to me).

    • @the_rake Even I have no idea what that is. I think it's best to talk to the kid about sex, but not every kid watches porn at 13 (I didn't) or can handle talks about cumming in a girl's mouth. And even then, there's a better way to word that type of thing.

    • 'Even I have no idea what that is.' And you don't want to. 'not every kid watches porn at 13' Kids don't always know what it is they are searching for. It's better to give them a rough idea. Believe me know kid is going to google 'bukkake' after you tell them what it is.

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  • I think 13 is way too old not to know the answers to those types of questions. I knew kids that were already having sex by then. I think most parents wait way too long to have these types of talks with their kids.

  • I had those questions when I was 5 yo. I knew some answers too.

  • What does porn have to do with educating your children? Porn is not a learning tool.

  • This is just ridiculous. I would have never thought of that shit as a kid. Why is the whole article about porn? Get your mind out the gutter.

  • By the time I was 13, the internet had already ruined any vestige of innocence. I think they'll be able to answer that just fine.

  • a bigger question is why do you allow your kid to watch so much porn?

  • "Do men wear condoms all day long, so when they want to have sex, they will be ready?" This sounds more like a question a 5 y/o kid would ask if he knew about sex.

    "Why does the camera only shoot the girl's face, but the guy's face is off-screen?" How is this important?

    I agree with the other questions, though they should know about the since before they're 13, you can't start with the basics so late.
    The only question they don't have to know the answer at that age is #6, cause they won't be having sex anytime soon.

  • I agree with your points. These are relevant and necessary to know by parents as well as children. I have always been saying that for sex education parents are the best teachers.

  • This MyTake had potential from the title, then everything was about porn... Lame. As. Fuck. Try harder please.

  • :o :/ man i never asked any of those things above when i was 13... i looked up for those stuffs online to understand... that's it

  • Mate, at 13 I was WELL past asking those questions. you're either too mature too ask them or not mature enough

    • Right on, *I say as I walk past the 11 year old pushing a stroller!* And I'm like :o , but no one around me flinches! Hahaha! At 13, I know I could have been a source of info rather than one who needed anything! May not have all been perfect... but I knew! (and I JUST realized who you were before I pressed [send]! lol! Sorry I see avatars b4 names usually! - Hope all is well w/U!) :)

    • @smell-my-fingers i'm good, how about you? I know! I don't understand why everyone wants sex so young. I'm 15 and I'm perfectly content to actually Netflix and chill (read; watch Netflix and cuddle on the couch) not Netflix and chill (read; fuck) with my boyfriend, and he's perfectly happy to do the same

  • A lot of non use of condoms in the porn industry goes on. Stds is a common problem in the industry. That being said, porn is not a good place to go to in order to learn about sex and is actually unhealthy. I am not gonna lie and say I never looked at it but its not healthy for a developing mind at all!!

  • 'embarrass themselves in front of an Internet crowd as 30-year-old virgins who are clueless about sex.'

    What the hell is the point of bringing this into the discussion?

    • I suspect that OP has come across more than a few clueless newbies on this website, where they are (or posing, at least) in their thirties or older.

    • @Belgie I think most sexually inexperienced 30 year olds have watched enough porn at least to know the basic answers to these questions, if not some of the more subtle details.

    • I said "posing" as 30 year olds. Meaning, they are not in fact 30 year olds. They are kids. With questions. Silly questions.

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  • Why would a thirteen year old be watching porn in the first place? I will be getting a block for that or I wouldn't be letting my child to be on the Internet without my supervision. And why are these all porn questions?

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    What kind of messed up parent would allow their child to watch porn?
    That's disgusting!

    No child of mine will watch porn.

    • A parent who thinks that should be the child's own choice?

    • If you think you could realistically keep yr kid away from ALL porn, you are delusional.

    • @93stepsawayfromhome a child? Not an adult, adolescent or teen? Children should not be watching porn.

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  • I'M 13 and I wish I didn't know these.

    13 is WAY too young for any of these. 13 year olds shouldn't be able to have to know any of these. Everyone is telling teens how to not get pregnant and then telling them how to have sex, that's just stupid.

    • At 13 it should just be the basics of do this, and you'll get pregnant. Leave out any way to prevent it, scare us XD

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