How to Not Get Raped: 5 Tips for Women

How to not get raped!?

Rape is a big problem in today's society. It's not unusual to hear about friends or relatives who have been sexually abused in the past because they were too underdressed. And I blame the girls because they "are asking for it".

I think the girls should learn what they shouldn't do/dress to avoid these situations.

So here are 5 ways to avoid to get raped

1. Underdress

This might be the most obvious one. If you dress in short shorts or a short skirt, you have to expect people looking or touching. It's bound to happen!

2. Hair

You shouldn't have your hair out, because that means somone can grab it and drag you away somewhere. Remember this when you curl your hair next time!

3. Shoes

If you wear high heels, your sexy legs will show, and we can't have that, can we? Use low shoes and your butt won't be the first thing people will look at.

How to Not Get Raped: 5 Tips for Women

4. Respect

Respect the men you are talking to. If you get rude or say something wrong it's your own fault if they want to punish you.

5. Don't go alone

You shouldn't go alone in the street. You are a easy victim, you brought it upon yourself!

For the people out there that agree with me:

You are a awful person. If you can't see how sick it sounds to "prepare" somone and say that they are bringing it upon themself. It's NEVER the victims fault.

If somone gets abused with a hammer, would you ask them if they wore thongs? Or if them somehow triggered this person to hit them with the hammer? If they were telling the person clear enough that "No I don't want to get hit by a hammer".

The men (or women) that think it's okay to force somone into sexual acts should really seek help. Short skirts are NOT an invitation. It's simply somone who wants to wear a short skirt.

I hope the people reading this thinks about this next time they ask the victims what they were wearing. Instead of blaming the victim we should punish the person who did those things.

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I agree that it's NEVER the victims fault. The rapist is 100% responsible for their own actions. However, that doesn't mean women (or men) can't still take steps to protect themselves and, hopefully, prevent themselves from becoming the victim of a crime.

    Women *should* be able to walk around naked, completely drunk and alone without worrying about being raped. That's not realistic though. We don't live in a perfect world. There will always be criminals who will target others in order to commit their crimes. We can't control the actions of other people, but we CAN control our own actions.
    - Always be aware of your surroundings
    - Know your limits, don't get blackout drunk
    -Don't accept drinks from strangers or leave your drink sitting around. If you leave your drink, get a fresh one when you come back.
    -Don't go out alone, stay with friends and people you trust.
    -Carry pepper spray or get a permit to carry a gun so you can defend yourself if you need to.

    Obviously doing those things won't guarantee that someone will never become a victim. However, it's better to be proactive and take steps to protect and defend yourself instead of being careless with your safety.

Most Helpful Guy

  • I am not defending rapists. I am not saying that any woman deserves to get raped.

    If someone walks down the street at night, in the area of town that has the highest crime rate, and they have $100 bills hanging out of their pockets, and they get robbed. . . would you say to them "what we're you thinking?"

    If a teen girl asks you, "Is it okay for me to walk around in just my panties and no bra in front of my step-dad when mom isn't home, would you say, 'Yes, it's okay, because if your step-dad does something to you, it won't be your fault.'"?

    I am not defending the thief who robs the guy with money hanging out the pockets and I'm not defending the step-dad who fondles or assaults his step-daughter, but common sense says that you take precautions to avoid encountering criminal behavior.

    • Ok a few gripes. Why would any REAL step-dad even do that? I have friends sister's who I've seen grow up and are legal now, and if I caught them wearing that, I'd kick them in the ass and tell them to put on some more clothes. I wouldn't fondle them because of what?

    • @GreatnessRevamped Obviously, no man who really wants to be a father, or a step-father, would do that. And I never did anything like that even though I had an 18 year old step-daughter who did occasionally cavort around in just her panties and bra. But you also know that some men will do those things, and you can't ignore things just because they "shouldn't" happen.

    • Then my second gripe is with the mother, who is so screwed up as to not see that her new beau likes them young and in-law. Come on.

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  • If rape was based on how a girl dressed, don't you think the average amount of rapes would increase during the summertime, when girls wear smaller clothing to fight off the heat? They don't.

    Rape is never the victim's fault. People who go around like they know everything, saying that women get raped because their clothing was asking for it, are probably my least favorite kind of people. A person shouldn't have to change how they look just because some lonely man can't harness his primitive desires.

    I am close to a victim of rape, and you know what they were wearing at the time? A sweatshirt and jeans. Where were they? In the parking lot of a college. I understand that walking alone at night increases the risk and that there can be precautions taken to help lessen that risk, but it still exists.

    • Agreed.

    • Also agree

  • Your list of preventative measures kind of hits the mark, but it kind of doesn't.

    Rape is no different than any other crime, whether it's robberies, murder, home theft, car theft... etc. People can either plan to rape someone, or they may act on impulse when the opportunity presents itself. The same goes for the other crimes I listed.

    If someone plans to rob/kill you, they'll probably be successful since you do not expect it. If you leave your valuables out in the open, or your front door unlocked at night, you present the opportunity for theft to happen. It's not a question of whether you have the right to be safe in society, because there will always be people who do not care for the welfare of other people. There will always be super nice people, normal people and extremely terrible human beings. That's just how some people are born.

    That being said, the way to prevent rape is not to give rapists the opportunity. Women can drink and party and dress as skimpy as they want. But they have no right to expect 100% safety. If they are alone at the party, or if they do not plan ahead to get home safely, they are essentially offering themselves to get raped because there's going to be someone in the group who basically doesn't give a shit about you and would slit your throat for a nickle.

    I compare it with an idiot walking down skid row flashing $100 bills around. You can bet he's going to get robbed. He presented the opportunity to people, and I doubt anyone would feel sympathy for him for being so blatantly stupid. A girl alone and drunk/passed out at a party is just as stupid as the guy flashing money around, because EVERYONE KNOWS THERE ARE RAPISTS AND KILLERS AND THIEVES AND OPPORTUNISTS EVERYWHERE. Go with friends, make sure you're always with a friend, find a safe way home - either picked up by family/friends. Accepting rides from the strange you met at the bar, or a friend of a friend of a friend, or trying to walk home in the dead of night because the taxi is too expensive is just plain stupid.

    The problem is not that "men are rapists" because it points the finger at all men. The problem is that "people who do not care about others are presented with the opportunity to exploit another person", whether that exploitation is theft, rape, or murder.

    There are people out there who rape women, go to jail for 10 years and as soon as they're released, they go rape another woman in 24 hours. Don't expect them to change.

  • Wow was not expecting the last part I was so ready to angrily respond to the beginning but turned out to be a smart read!

  • Holy cow I was afraid you were serious at first :o

    Good message OP

  • What went wrong, that women have to be concerned, afraid, even, just wearing certain things in public? What happened to basic respect, and decency?
    No matter what she was wearing, or how much she might be teasing, I have control over myself, and I would NEVER, EVER even think of taking advantage of a woman, dressed in whatever!!
    Maybe I was raised with better values, and more respect, but why should women need to be concerned about their clothing, because some perverts can't control themselves!!
    I do agree that women should not be alone, after dark, and should have a companion/friend/or trustworthy person, to get them home, but they SHOULDN'T NEED SOMEONE ELSE, to be SAFE!!

  • LOL! I was about to get mad and then I finished reading :)

  • How about this.

    1. Learn self defense. If you do not have the money Get a friend who knows self defense. If you are disabled like me learn how to use a weapon. I Cary a hidden pocket knife and pepper spray at all times when out. Even if you do learn sometimes the guy could be to strong. So cick him in the balls.

    2. Dress how you want to dress. I don't want to rape a guy just because he is naked. So why should it be any different. If it is fucking 100 degrees out I am not gonna cover up. If a man can not control himself it is never your fault. Woman are over sexualized in the media. Someone can be asexual and dress skimpy. Does not mean they want sex. If the person says no it means no.

    3. Do what you want with your hair. I have short hair. I was raped. On that occasion I was coming back from working as a nanny for a religious household. I was covered from head to toe. Rapists do not care what you look like. If you look like easy Pickens or you are alone they will get you. Rape is about power, not pleasure. They want to be in control and have power over you.

    4. Just because someone looks like a easy target they might not be. A purse snatcher tried to steal an old ladies back. She was a black belt. He ended up dead. So you don't have to look tough. Just be a strong person.

    5. Men and woman get raped to. Children also get raped. So do not assume that only woman do. Also woman can commit rape. It is not as often, but it happens.

  • 1. Dress however you like. (This one I pretty much agree with, but I'm not going to completely take responsibility from women--if you're walking in a bad part of town, wearing a microskirt and no top, well, maybe that wasn't such a great idea.)

    2. Yeah. The hair thing is pretty ridiculous.

    3. Shoes is pretty much the same thing as how they dress.

    4. Guys know to respect other guys, because every guy has that line where they'll punch you in the eye if you step over it. Usually. For women, that is not possible--guys definitely cannot hit girls; so, I could see a guy getting pissed off over a bitch being a bitch, then raping her out of frustration.

    5. No one should walk alone at night. Particularly guys, given they're much more likely to be the victims of violent crime. If you are alone, you are weak and vulnerable. Then, women are pansies, so they are more afraid that something will happen to them, so they probably avoid walking alone at night, anyway.

    A couple of these are legitimate suggestions. Saying "I shouldn't have to prepare for anything," is sorta ignorant. When I'm out, I'm watching for everything. I'm not going to say, "Well, it doesn't matter how much money I was flashing. That man shouldn't have robbed me." After the fact. So was it my fault that I was flashing cash in a bad part of town? Or was it the mugger's fault? Well, I played a role. I would have been a lot safer if I weren't flashing all that cash.

  • If they even try, they get a kick on their balls. If they don't show respect, I don't do either.

  • The issue I have with people who say such things is that they're assuming this is somehow news to us girls. As if we haven't heard these things since the day we turned 10 or something. Don't trust strangers, don't get into strange men's cars, don't go alone, talk to someone on the phone if you're walking alone at night and don't have a friend with you, don't show too much skin, don't do this, don't do that, don't say this, don't wear that. People say "you wouldn't walk into an unsafe neighborhood with your money out and expensive jewelry flashing?" no, and likewise very few girls actually do go out half naked into dark alleyways. Because most rapes happen in someone's home, with someone they trust/know/are acquainted with. So that argument falls on itself. Very few rapes happen outside in the dark with a stranger.
    We should stop excusing rapists by blaming the victim for what they wore or how much they drank, and start blaming rapists for taking advantage of girls who are drunk, and not being able to control themselves when they see a little bit of skin.
    It's funny how people keep banging this idea into women's heads that they have to stay alert at all times, never wear too little, never act flirty, never trust a stranger, never drink a bit too much, never use certain makeup, never wear certain shoes, never stay out until x o'clock, never go home alone. And then men whine about women being too paranoid and thinking of all men as potential rapists. Well no fucking shit when y'all keep saying DO THIS AND THAT TO PREVENT YOURSELF FROM GETTING RAPED, otherwise you only have yourself to blame, blah blah blah. Who the fuck wouldn't be paranoid?

  • Exactly. :)
    I was actually seething after reading the 2nd one, then I got impatient and scrolled to see if it was self defense. Yay!

  • It's striking how much more up votes from women this take currently has.

    It seems like it's either not being read by many men here or that the take doesn't get approval by the men here.

    • Oh, I didn't see that it has 56 opinions from men.

  • Was about to call you a retard until I read

    "For the people out there that agree with me:"

    Good one lol

  • Take self defence classes (i. e. Krav Maga that is) and wear a chastity belt.
    problem solved.

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    • Still can't hide da boooobs : D

  • I wanted to opine
    "TL;DR version: She wants you to wear this
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    But then I read further and I'm surprised lol. Damn! Good.

  • AMEN TO THIS AMEN AMEN AMEN 🙌🏻
    Seriously can this just forever stay on the front page of gag for everyone to read?

  • Of course is never the victims fault , this take cleverly shows this. But because the world is not made of angels and we can't expect everyone to be a nice human being maybe we can take some precautions to protect ourselves. Like if you dont have to be alone in a dark street then dont be.

  • i say 4 and 5 are the most legit. 1-3 sound eerily similar to the argument for Muslim women to cover-up in various burkas

    • Even if you disrespect a man, that doesn't mean he has the right to rape you. And 5 is dumb because most rapes don't happen in some dark alley with a stranger, they happen in someone's home with someone you trust. I. e. it's actually more likely that you'll be raped if you are with someone you trust vs. walking alone at night. So no, they definitely are not the "most legit".

    • @lumos "Even if you disrespect a man, that doesn't mean he has the right to rape you." did i suggest that a man has a right to rape a woman? the simple fact is that this is an ironic post i get it. but not going out alone and respect are the only two on the list that make any sense. disrespect never gives a person any right to physically assault anyone that seems obvious and should go without saying i think 5 makes sense in terms of a girl going to a party where she doesn't know people or saying walking home on a city street at night. the recent Stanford case was such a situation where the girl was with her sister and some friends and the sister went off leaving a severely drunk woman vulnerable. there was a situation in philadelphia last summer where a girl was walking through the city late at night and was sexually assaulted

    • of course the real need is to address the perpetrators but everyone, men and women can do things to reduce risk

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  • Some people seem to give people a hard time if they even imply that maybe the girl put herself in a very dangerous position by getting too drunk.. I dunno' if people here will react bad to me bringing it up, but it happens I've seen it. They say that girls should be able to get wasted without worrying about getting raped. Okay this is true, then again this same girl should be able to walk down the street alone at night without worrying about getting raped, but she can't. It's a harsh truth. Similarly, all people should be able to walk home without worrying about being murdered because they're alone and not in a gang or in the wrong gang but in some parts of the world they cannot. It's a harsh truth.

    So, while girls should be able to get "wasted" for whatever bizarre reason they want to do that (I do not understand why it is appealing.. I get respectfully drunk, but wasted seems to me like making yourself into a target for abuse, accidents and humiliation by way of vomiting and soiling), without worrying about being raped, they cannot. Respectfully drunk is different, where you are still aware and can still control yourself and make decisions and still understand what is happening.

    However, I think it is incredibly sad, and I don't enjoy saying this but shameful, that so many girls seem to actually want to get "wasted"/"slaughtered"/"hammered" .. I mean what's up with these words you want to get wasted, you want to get hammered, you want to get slaughtered really? Slaughtered? These words all have implications to bloody murder. Anyway that's besides the point - there's that ridiculous "binge drinking" culture, and so many people are horrendously irresponsible not just for others but also for themselves. I'm talking about people, and I know tons of people like this, who actually go out with the intention of getting that drunk.. that if they were alone they'd end up on the floor somewhere until they woke with a mega headache. Therefore they go out knowing they will rely on their friends to take care of them? Come on!

    So, your article is really good really. Succinct, to the point, honest. I just feel like so many people seem scared to say the truth that so many girls make themselves into easy targets by being so irresponsible with alcohol.. like it's unacceptable to imply that the victim maybe ought not to have gotten so drunk.. it's like the elephant in the room that no one is talking about. It is a dangerous problem with devastating consequences.

    • @Electric_Dreams "this same girl should be able to walk down the street alone at night without worrying about getting raped,_____" This same girl should be able to go to a friend's house alone at night without worrying about getting raped by that friend (or by one of his friends), because that's how most rapes happen.

    • @jacquesvol Yeah I dig that man.

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  • I got really pissed off until i came towards the ending

    • Me too!!!

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