Common Myths, Misconceptions and Facts Surrounding "Popping the Cherry"

[99percentangel]

1:
Myth: "the hymen is a small ball of blood"

Fact: It's a small membrane over the opening to your vagina! Not a ball of blood in any way, shape or form.

2:
Myth: "you WILL bleed the first time you have sex due to tearing your hymen"

Fact: The possibility of bleeding due to slightly tearing your hymen is a possibility, but the likelihood that the hymen isn't already torn is slim to none.

3:
Myth: "if your hymen is broken, you're not a virgin"

Fact: Someone can break their hymen quite easily, and considering the fact that hymens can be broken through things such as biking or inserting a tampon.

4:

Myth: "all hymens are the same"

Fact: Just like labia majoris, hymen's differ as well! You can have an imperforate hymen (a completely sealed membrane covering your vagina), an annular hymen (has only one opening), a septate hymen (has two openings separated by a thin band of tissue) or a microperforate hymen (one small hole).

5:
Myth: " "popping a cherry" is difficult and requires force "

Fact: This depends on the type of hymen one has! If it's imperforate, it's going to take much more force than an annular hymen. However, through the usage of tampons and assorted methods of masturbation, the hymen is typically stretched out.

Some more facts!

- If your hymen's is already stretched (you would know due to the ease in which you can insert a tampon), then you're much less likely to bleed the first time during sex

- In fact, most bleed the first time due to not enough lubricant and the fact the vaginal lining is quite weak and sensitive.

- In some cultures, after marriage the family of bride will check the sheets to see if there was blood, since that was seen as an indicator the hymen was popped. This led to many girls scratching the ones of their thighs in order to concoct some form of evidence.

- Many still believe that the sign of a broken hymen is a sign of impurity and that one is no longer a virgin. However, there is no surefire way to conclude if someone is or is not a virgin unless they tell you, considering the fact virginity is a social construct.

- A lot of sex Ed classes improperly teach/don't go into detail about this stuff!! And it's super important because people don't realize like, your first time isn't guaranteed to hurt.

- Also, don't feel bad if your first time did hurt! It's a new experience, and one that you're not practiced in. Just remember, lubrication and condoms are always your best bet.

Lastly, always practice safe sex! Condoms on properly, and immediately disposed afterwards. Sex should be safe and pleasurable, and ALWAYS consensual! :)

[Anonymous]

I disagree. There are girls who have engaged in sexual behaviors claim that they're virgins just because they haven't been penetrated. If you have had any sort of sexual experience like touching and using your mouth, you're not a virgin. A virgin is someone who has no sexual encounters whatsoever.

[99percentangel]

Where did I say that someone who has sexual encounters is a virgin? All I said was just because your hymen broke doesn't mean you're not a virgin because your hymen can break through such things as riding a bike, or inserting a tampon. Having pnis-in-vagina sex is what makes someone not a virgin though people have different opinions about it.

[Opinion Owner]

I never said that you said someone who has sexual encounters is a virgin. Where did you get that from? And look at the 4th picture that you posted. I disagree with it completely.

[99percentangel]

You said you disagreed because "a virgin is someone who has no sexual encounters whatsoever" I didn't say anything in my take that said otherwise, but everyone has their own opinions on what makes someone a virgin. To me and a lot of others will agree that a virgin is someone who has never had penis-in-vagina sex. You can have your own thoughts about it, but that is basically what a virgin is. I didn't write that in the take so I wondered what exactly you were disagreeing with.

[99percentangel]

Also I didn't add that fourth picture. It was added by a admin I think.

[Opinion Owner]

Then why did you use the 4th picture? You implied in the picture that a girl must be penetrated in order to lose virginity. I'm disagreeing with that. Any sort of sexual encounter will make you not become a virgin. It's got nothing to do with penetration. Virginity is not a "thing" that is so systematically lost when you engage in a specific behavior. It describes one's lack of sexual experience/encounters.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh okay. Well, they made a mistake. They shouldn't mess with someone's article like that.

[99percentangel]

I told you. I didn't. Was added by a admin I think.

[99percentangel]

I disagree, but like I said I never said anywhere in mytake about that. If people would be more focused on the writing other then a photo that would be nice.

[Opinion Owner]

There is clearly an issue when your article doesn't mention that but one of your pictures does. That's a discrepancy. It's not okay.

[99percentangel]

Alright.

[amarahorrorstory]

I think that's more of an opinion. People have their own ideas of what virginity is.

[Waffles731]

Very good take

[99percentangel]

Thank you.

[Sangita93]

The only scientific and socially acceptable way to overcome almost all myths related to sex and man-woman (Girl) relation is step by step sex education. Starting from about grade 3 - something like pollination - how a flower turns into fruit and similarity with human organs can do much great job. Science of Nature is not so complicated.

[masterkamasutra]

your country surely need it. too much taboo there.

[Sangita93]

Myths and mis-believes are common thing all over the world in different form and for different things. It is only what we see and what we believe true or scientific. Our truth may not be truth of everybody.

[masterkamasutra]

The country where Kamasutra born, why they are so much conservative? Do you guys easily adjust in such a conservation?

[somebodysaycheese]

Ever heard of panuelo? They dont look for blood but a yellow green fluid instead. They also dont use tampons before marriage.

[99percentangel]

No, I've never heard of this "panuelo", but that's interesting. Looking for a yellow green fluid? I wonder why. But um you can break your hymen other ways then inserting a tampon. Such as; riding a bike/horse, doing a split, squating even, etc.

[somebodysaycheese]

Yes. See but the yellow and green stuff comes frm something being inserted in your vagina.

[99percentangel]

Ohhh I see. Very interesting.

[99percentangel]

I might actually do some research on that.

[Valkyrie1]

If the Real Education for Healthy Youth Act is passed the hymen myth will be in the past!
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2070992-what-is-your-opinion-on-the-real-education-for-healthy-youth-act

[Rissyanne]

Great Take!!

[ManOnFire]

Only one I didn't know about was No.4.

[99percentangel]

Lol well at least you learned something. Lots of teens and young adults still don't know this.

[ManOnFire]

I think what I don't understand is why females don't educate themselves about their own bodies. Some try to blame it on it not being publicized, but we can all do our own research.

[lumos]

Hard to do research on something when you're not aware of its existence/where to even begin and society propagates these myths constantly.

[ManOnFire]

@lumos Uh uh. It's a bullshit excuse. The Internet is pretty available to all of us. If women can spend time on Internet pornography nowadays and read 50 Shades of Grey, they can also get off their ass and do some research on their own selves. Chicks try to make it like it's a lot harder to learn about themselves than it really is.

[lumos]

Like I said. Hard to get the urge to do research when you don't think it's necessary.

[ManOnFire]

@lumos So basically you're saying women don't think it's necessary to dig deeper and learn more about themselves, that you need an incentive from someone to get started. No, that's still an excuse for laziness and wanting to blame your lack of self-education or self-understanding on schools or the media. Any other time women want to learn something they go digging, but can't do it with their own bodies? Maybe if you all didn't spend so much time and energy on researching feminism or whatever you might be able to get in touch with yourselves. Pardon the pun.

[lumos]

No. I'm saying that it's hard to look past the propaganda when it's so deeply rooted in society.

[lumos]

And if anything, feminism encourages women to explore themselves. The less educated a society is, the less informed women are.

[ManOnFire]

@lumos If feminism encouraged women to explore themselves then women would be a lot more in touch with themselves than they are. A lot of feminists actually seem sexually frustrated, and their only argument for women to be sexually liberated is to go out and have casual sex without people calling her a slut. They're not really teaching women anything deeper. There are even MEN out there who learn about how women's bodies and genitals work and end up knowing more than women do. Especially the fact that there are so many male OBGYNs. So if they can learn women can too.

[lumos]

Lol. The fact that the US still uses abstinence as a type of "sex ed" explains just how "far" feminism has gotten in terms of liberating women and getting them proper education. I'm also losing interest in talking to you since your bias is showing and you're starting to get into "this is how I *think* things are, I clearly don't keep myself updated on feminism" territory.

[ManOnFire]

@lumos Abstinence is never a wrong choice, and just because feminists may not believe in it doesn't have to stop them from teaching what they think. I actually have studied feminism since I was 16 and curiously I'm about to post a new Take on the racist history of feminism. So what I say isn't about what I just "think." You probably just don't know as much about it as some other people. But, yes, do move along if you need to.

[lumos]

It's true that teaching abstinence can be a good thing, as long as it doesn't include scare tactics and goes hand in hand with ACTUAL sex ed. Abstinence on its own has proven to not work, as teens still fuck around and tend to be more irresponsible when "abstinence" is all they're taught.

[ManOnFire]

@lumos And they fuck around even more when it's not taught.

[lumos]

Except that it usually is taught hand in hand with regular sex ed.
www.webmd.com/.../abstinence-vs-sex-ed

[ManOnFire]

@lumos But they're still opting for being sexually active instead.

[lumos]

We can't stop teens from having sex. The least we can do is make sure they're safe and educated.

[zombiebabe]

good take

[Dargil]

"Hymen 101" Well done.

[HauteBrilliance]

The only ones I did not know what the different types of hymens. Looks like it's true when people say you learn something new everyday. :)

[jacquesvol]

Excellent take!
I'd like to add:
6: Myth: www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2064056-is-it-true-guys-have-to-break-a-bone-in-side-a-girl-when-they-are
Probably the worst ignorance I ever read on Gag!

3: Myth
"Unless a penis goes in your vagina you're a virgin"
I'd correct this. Sexual penetration by a penis voids virginity.
Any sexual penetration by a penis.
I don't think a girl who spared only her vagina but had oral or anal penetration by a penis can pretend to be a virgin, even with an intact hymen. I'd call her half virgin.

[Lillevalss]

True. Just because your hymen is broken doesn't mean that you're not a virgin, and just because you have your hymen still in tact doesn't mean that you're a virgin either.

[Panay]

Nice take, hopefully anyone who does t already knows these things will read it 👍

[NatashaBeauty]

Cool

[Alex88F]

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