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Why Both Genders Need to be Educated on Sexual Consent

Why Both Genders Need to be Educated on Sexual Consent

Personally I feel that what can be counted as rape/sexual assault should be added in sex ed. Funny how we care so much about sex that we even go down to talk about what's the best dildos or lubes. But no one wants to talk about what CAN be consider rape or sexual assault at lease. More and more I realize people need to get educated on consent because now its getting ridiculous.

Some people have weird thinking or don't realize how messed up their logic is.

If you look online now about what can be rape or sexual assault, you see there possible trolls or real people thinking backward logic about rape/sexual assault. I remember one time I saw a question on Yahoo answers where a girl found out her boyfriend was having sex with her while sleeping. He didn't get consent from her and there were people who answers were mostly about "well he your boyfriend he can do it" or "you're stupid, you're in a relationship so it's ok". That type of logic is seriously crazy and needs to be addressed. Or people would think that what is considered rape or sexual assault is NOT rape or sexual assault to them, because no one ever TOLD them it's not. This type of thinking can damage other people forever, if people walk around thinking what they think they can do its fine under the eyes of the law and society.

Not being educated doesn't help set boundaries with others.

I think its very important because boundaries are so important to a lot of people. Personally I don't want a guy groping me after the first date. Teaching what is rape or sexual assault can help people understand boundaries and how to respect them. Recently I saw a question on here which really pissed me was about a girl: She blew her boyfriend in his sleep (she did got consent but you can easily argue if he can't remember it, or if you could ask him anything he probably agree to it at the moment then it wouldn't count as consent)...so she blew him and when she told boyfriend what she did, he got angry at her and it called sexual assault. She was confused.

Why Both Genders Need to be Educated on Sexual Consent

One thing I find stupid in her decision is that maybe doing sexual acts with someone while they are sleep is the WORST IDEA EVER. Not only do you not know if the person would even remember it or even remember giving consent. I wasn't really pissed at her, I was more pissed at the answers on the question where people thinking he was over dramatic. Or he just being a asshole.

We need to teach people that boundaries are a thing and what you think is fine might not be fine to the other person. Also, how to respect people feelings first of all; the boyfriend here clearly felt violated and he had every right to feel violated because just because he gave consent during his sleep doesn't really mean he agree to it. You probably could ask him anything and he would had said yes at the moment. So clearly he had the right to feel that she took advantage of him and violated him; there was no reason to call him an asshole for feeling that way. Getting educated on rape/sexual assault can help set boundaries to follow with anyone so this shit like in this question doesn't happen often.

Help real victims realize if they were actually raped/sexual assaulted

I think this is the biggest pro because there plenty of people who don't want to go to the police or not sure if it was rape or sexual assault has occurred. Teaching people this helps them realize if they were or not and how to take precautions next to cope/deal with it. These are the reasons why consent should be taught to each gender in sex ed.

Why Both Genders Need to be Educated on Sexual Consent
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  • Jesus H Christ!
    Young people these days really do love playing the role of "VICTIM".
    Since when did this become the cool thing to do? What makes people feel so great about being able to cry "victim"?

    Can't people be reasonable any more?

    If you're on a date with a guy and you're kissing and he starts putting his hands where you don't want them, just gently push them away. He'll most likely get the hint. You're not a victim of sexual assault, he's not a sexual abuser.
    If he continues to do things you don't want, tell him to stop and that you're not ready to go there. Make it clear, but don't freak out about it. He didn't get the hint when you moved his hands away, now's your second warning (verbal and physical).
    If he STILL continues to do things that make you feel uncomfortable, feel free to get upset with him and tell him to knock it off. Leave the situation, and maybe you don't go out with this guy again. Sexual assault? Ehh, I wouldn't go that far. If he tries to force himself on you and is obviously ignoring your wishes, then sure. If you want to call it sexual assault, fine. Or just call him an asshole that you won't be going out with again.

    If you've been going out with your boyfriend for a while and you've been having sex for some time, and he tries to stick it in you while you're sleeping or drunk, I don't think that's really "rape". You could probably argue in the court of law that it was rape, but really that's a bit of a stretch. Have a conversation with him and let him know you don't want him doing that again, but he's your boyfriend, you've been having sex for a while, he's sleeping in your bed with you... I think calling him a rapist because he wakes up horny and decides to help himself is an insult to anyone who's actually been raped.

    And any guy who wakes up to a blowjob from his girlfriend and cries "sexual assault" deserves to be smacked across the head with a shoe. Preferably a heavy work boot with steel toes.

    What kind of world are we becoming if both parties need to sign off on a multi-page contract before groping or having sexual contact? Can't we all just use common sense?

    • Are you crazy you can't go around and stick your dick in your girlfriend because they dating you and you think you have the right to do it. This is why people like you need to educated because your brain dead.

    • Your the type of person who think because someone dating you they you owe you a right to their body. NO one has to agree to you touching them or doing sexual acts on them without consent and accept. With that logic then fathers can excuse raping their child or strangers with random people on the street. You dumbass.

    • need to get* educated

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Most Helpful Girl

  • I have to agree with you here. Some people just don't seem to understand boundaries, on both sides. I often think this has to do with how kids are raised. Boys being taught that women saying "no" just means they are being hard to get, girls being taught that guys always want sex 24/7 and will never not want it. There should at least be some universal understanding that "implied consent" is not a thing and if someone says no, it means no.

    • Exactly I don't know where some people are getting their ideas from, if you didn't read I said to a other commenter that my friend thought it was perfectly ok to let your boyfriend do anything they want to you. Because your boyfriend I had to set her straight. I don't think its from the media maybe their parents or they listen to too many idiots.

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  • I think it's sad that we even have to teach something like that. I mean it's common sense, or so I thought. Nobody is entitled to anyone else's body.

    • I know right but apparently people think if your dating the person they have the right to violate you and then call you ridiculous if you get mad about it.

    • NatashaJ Old style Patriarchy.

    • @jacquesvol agreed

  • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tS9gpgnBwfo&ab_channel=SargonofAkkad


    Your heart is in the right place, but trying to teach people not to rape will do nothing. That's like trying to teach murderers not to murder people.

    • I don't think you understand what I been saying I mean teach people what is consent or not like in one of my examples getting a yes from someone sleeping might not count as real consent, so on. Teaching people who are clueless what is acceptable or not can help a lot of situations.

    • Just look at Lovelinefan comments clearly people need to be taught that you can't do whatever you please to someone who sleeping. Or not in the right mind to agree to the sexual act.

    • I even have a friend thought it was okay for a guy who is your boyfriend to do whatever he wants. I'm not trying to stop rape I'm trying to teach people to prevent themselves getting in the position of being call a rapist or whatever if they accidentally did it.

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  • But remember only men rape and only women can be the victims. And let's forget about those kangaroo courts that are up and running in western colleges

    • If you going to just mock mytake then no need to comment on it, if you didn't bother to read it.

    • I did read it and my take away from it was exactly what I wrote.

    • Clearly, you didn't or you would know I use men as victims go take your bullshit somewhere else because you trying to start a argument with me because I'm a woman is not going to work.

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  • You can't teach people not to rape. But you can have your government actually give a damn about mental health and create a much better mental health system and educate people on mental health during sex ed. Rapists are mentally ill.

    • To teach them what is rape or sexual assault can help they avoid jail if anyone accuse them of such acts. Clearly there are people are clueless look at lovelinefan comments people like him needs to get educated. Also teaching what rape or sexual assault is can have victim tell if they were raped or sexual assaulted and how to seek help.

    • The thibg is though people get taught that. However logic gets put on the back burner to peoples feelings. we are in the area of emotions and no logic. We teach how to have protective sex yet people still think they can't gey an std or the pull out meyhod works. Or the definition of a man and woman has changed to fit peoples feelings vs logic.

    • True but its not like i am trying to change the world you should still educate on this type of stuff I think consent is more important whether then which lube is the best.

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  • I'm sorry but you lost all credence when the first thing I saw was "Rape Culture". We don't live in a rape culture.

    • First of all the staff add in the picture and second of all I never said rape culture. Don't put words into my mouth.

    • If rape culture is in my take they added it in so don't say I lost credit for something stupid like that.

    • Well, the staff created an unfair representation of what may very well be a thoughtful point then. I'll read it in that case and will get back to you.

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  • Laci green stop hacking sites!

    Seriously what if the women gets turn off if you ask for her consent! Some women want raging bulls when it comes to sex!

    They don't want no pussy ass cuck who asks them questions "can I kiss you", "can I put it right their"

    Seriously if you call that sex, then you're fucking with a skinny ass beta male!

    • *eye roll* Laci is way smarter then you anyway. No I did not said you have to have sex like that but don't for example shove your penis in her ass without asking if she fine with it and when she tells you to pull out and you refuse to then that's rape/sexual assault. This mytake meant to make you ask what is ok to do or you be accuse of being a rapists. Also a lot of things can be consider rape or sexual assault whether you like it or not.

    • It's subjective when you say that all men need to ask for consent? In reality some women don't want you asking them anything; they just want you to fuck the shit out of them! Now if the girl asked me to stop, I guess I will stop! However once you're doing sexual intercourse, you can't just ask hey can I put it up your butthole! Some women will tell them to leave! You're generally speaking too all women!

    • However all I can say is have a good day, and just remember that your opinion does it make it a true statement!

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  • Thank you for acknowledging that men can be victims of sexual abuse. Unfortunately a lot of misandrists use "rape culture" to justify their misandry, it's sad how men are thought to be the only perpetrators and are also thought to be immune to this kind of victimization. This is a very good take👍.

    • This is a big issue you even have this guy above trying to justify rape and sexual assault. Someone needs to address idiots like him and people who think men can't be raped.

  • I don't know what the sex education is like in Canada, but here I think we all know what consent is, how to give it/not give it, and what to do when someone gives it/doesn't give it.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZwvrxVavnQ


    :p

    • Ok really insult Canada's sex ed system? first of all there still people like that think they can do whatever they please and get away with it or just plain don't know if you just going to be ass bye Felicia.

    • Hey hey hey! Things just went from 1 to 100 real quick. I'm not some random guy who just hates Canada, I like Canada as a country. I'm just giving my opinion on what you've written image.prntscr.com/.../...d4cb6bea85f4dced3ad92.png
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      :/
      (Side note: grammar works wonders in earning respect :( )

    • Oh sorry just so done with people being asses on here that's why I got offended.

  • ya and they should add a bit in home economics about how women shouldn't murder their little children.

    Because we all need to be taught obvious shit. what an insulting, sexist post.

    • * eye rolls* sexist? when I target both genders I don't think you know what sexist means.

    • Plus both examples target the opposite first example at a male while the second one was female so don't even bother to call it sexist if you don't bother to read.

    • i know exactly what it means. it means women aren't superior, that's what. this is idiotic, this is COMMON SENSE and then you go overboard with the consent bullshit. this is the type of crap that makes it ILLEGAL for men to even APPROACH a woman or LOOK at her or say HELLO to her-and it IS illegal now in a county in UK, that's feminism, that's superiority, not equality, and crap like this adds to it and NO it is NOT gender neutral, the pictures alone destroy that claim. thank you, drive through. next time leave your sexism at the door :) but i appreciate you femisplaining it to us ;)

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  • Excellent take!

  • Its a good mytake honestly. The only thing you have wrong is Rape Culture. It does not exist, at least not here in the states. In the middle east maybe.

    • Like I said to other person GAG post that rape culture picture up I didn't do it they didn't ask me so therefore you can't assume I agree with it.

    • @worldscolide Sure, that's why white rich rapists get jail and poor blacks get not?

  • It's not men's fault we live in a rape culture. We're just doing what evolution programmed us to do. Just like evolution programmed women to complain about stuff that is really their fault.

    • You can't stop rape, since people have sexual urges, but why hasn't this girl talked about how women rape men?

  • No such thing as rape culture. It's a feminists delusion.

  • another thing this kind of teaching can do is make people feel like they were assaulted when they weren't now that everyone wants to be a victim and get sympathy points, even if it's at the expense of others. There also needs to be teaching of what the law says in terms of what constitutes rape, assault and harassment so people don't try to change what may have happened to fit a more serious crime. And finally, there are also a certain number of people who don't believe the government should be dictating how you and your partner interact sexually, for example some people would love to wake up to a blow job or their clit licked and that depends on your partner but you should be able to give consent for the future as well, like I give my girlfriend consent to do anything we've don't before, even if I'm drunk, sleeping etc and if I don't want her touching me I'd break up with her.

    • Ok first off there a big difference if you did love being wake up like that. You would probably tell your partner that if you never ever talk about it like that and they did I pretty sure you be piss off if they woke you up that way. This is why I said talk about what is consider rape or sexual assault so no one thinks something differently.

    • Lets face if its rape or sexual assault if you think you can just do sexual acts to your partner while sleeping when you never discuss it or even ask if they like it or not.

    • fact it its*

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  • What in God's creation is "rape culture"?

    • Like I said to two other people GAG put that up without my consent and just google it.

  • you're the only other person I've known to highlight that rape is something that females can do to. thank you for making this clear. I feared this "rape culture" thing was going to turn into some man hating frenzy, half the things tagged "rape culture" is more to do with hypersexualization, the other half... well its being noted more. i dont thinkits occurrence has increased just people have become more vocal.

    • I know some people might think that I made this to target men nope. The second example on GAG was the one where it annoy me enough to make a mytake to be clear is acceptable to do or not.

    • But these are clueless men and women that think its ok to do certain things and can't accept they cause a shit storm. Like the girl on GAG I swear made that question to have a pity party for her when her stupid ass put herself in the position with her boyfriend. Also she technically admitting to a crime if he wanted to press charges about it. The stupidity on sexual consent is real.

    • I think its great you're doing your part regardless, plus it's one step closer to creating equality between sexes which is important i would say

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  • I used to have sex with my wife when I was sleeping. At first she was scared but apparently it was over in minutes. It was just a sleep disorder I had.
    According to some feminists all sex is rape.

    • She probably just accepted it because you traumatize her. Doesn't mean you didn't violate your wife.

    • She understood It is a genuine medical sleep disorder and she has supported me through it all these years and now it rarely happens.

    • Ok well if you both on the pages you two will be fine.

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  • i dont know how else to say this but when a woman goes out dressed like a sleezy ho and gets attacked sexually, she brought it upon herself. im not condoning rape, but she definitely played a part in it..

    going out dressed like a ho and complaining about getting negative sexual attention is like becoming a firefighter and complaining that your job puts you in the way of harmful fires

    • Oh shut up you are condoning rape you victim blaming and no one ever asks to be raped so don't sit there and try to excuse it.

    • oh so i guess if you tell me that im condoning rape, that means it must be true.. i just said in my statement that i dont condone it.. my only thing is, you reap what you reap what you sow... if i move to antarctica, i have no right to complain that it is always cold outside and that it is never beach season same with this, if you go out half dressed with your ass and tits hanging out, you get what you asked for

  • I think real discussions around consent would be beneficial. I can't imagine them happening.

    Additionally real discussions around how and where rape happens and how bystanders should intervene would also be constructive. I doubt they will happen in high schools. They could happen in colleges. They'd need to be more student lead.

    • It should happen in elementary schools I think would be better before they enter into high school.

    • There's zero chance of this happening. People argue enough about whether to tell kids straight up factual information around sex. There is no chance they are going to have frank discussions in high school about negotiating different sexual desires, picking up enthusiasm, how to ask for what you want, how to be assertive, how to negotiate, how flexible is reasonable, how flexible isn't. They'd rather just pretend sex won't happen, or maybe it will happen to some kids who are deeply in love and communicate perfectly and happen to want the exact same things. And they're not likely to take elementary school kids and say 'lets roleplay having a conversation with a friend of yours where you're both drunk and they about to go fuck someone else drunk in the backyard at a party and you're not sure the other person is sober enough to consent... or you know they're not, and your friend knows too, but seems to think its funny.

    • But they learning about sex ed and besides they already know. I think its time people let children in grade 7 and 8 grow up.

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  • So if my girlfriend wakes me up with oral thats sexual assault?

    • If you never gave her consent to do it in the first place she has no right to do it but only if you felt that way. Some people enjoy that while others would think that fuck up.

    • I do not think its consent if your trying to get a consent someone sleeping either because clearly that taking advantage of people.

    • Have you ever been in a long term relationship or had sex? You said some people enjoy it and others think its fucked up, so thats blurring the lines. Are you saying what is rape for one person can be consensual to another? *just asking.

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