No, Really, I Don't Care That Much

I can't recall how many times since joining this site I've come across or answered questions that read something like "does size matter, my penis is x inches long, is that small/too small/enough to please a woman?". I'm sure, as a participant here, you readers have noticed these questions too (or perhaps asked them), and also noticed that there are a lot of them. What gets me, though, is how seriously the guys asking these questions seem to take it and how insistent they are on getting an answer besides "I really don't know, and I really don't care, either." It seems like they all want really badly to believe that I have some secret preference that I'm just not sharing.

As a woman, I don't get it at all, and apparently, I'm not alone (one website, citing numbers I've seen elsewhere but with no source given, says a whopping 71% of women think men seem too concerned about the size of their penis). Let's do what I always do when I'm looking for good, solid information and browse my good friend Google scholar for some data!

I know plenty of women out there really care about size, but according to research, they're unquestionably in the minority. In a study involving almost 200 women, 77% either said that penis size was "unimportant" or "very unimportant" (Francken 2002). A different study, involving over 500 women, agreed with this trend, with only around 20% of respondents indicating that penis size really, really mattered to them (Štulhofer 2006 - the other two possible responses were that penis size mattered "somewhat" or didn't matter). In yet another study, only 10% of women preferred a longer penis over one that was wider in girth (Eisenman 2001). The reason behind this trend may be due to female anatomy: ladies, your most sensitive bits are located less than two inches inside the vaginal opening, and not deeper within. Physiologically speaking, any excitement derived from deep penetration is going to be mental, not physical in source, because there just aren't receptors up there that respond to that (Marmor 1953).

Oh, and if you still have that burning question as to whether your penis is small, the Wikipedia page for "human penis size" has a very clear graph that will answer your question without you even needing to bother anyone else. I don't know the source or credibility of this data, but given that it agrees with the several studies that are cited on the page, it's probably a solid reference without having to read through fifteen pages of research.

Of course, since half the questions I see come with some sort of disclaimer (I know size doesn't really matter, but...), maybe guys being obsessed with their penis size is just the way things are, kind of sad and unproductive as it may be. Oh well. I'm a sucker for science, so maybe somebody else out there is too that can appreciate this sort of thing (or can explain to me, in response, why guys care so much. I'll reiterate and say it's totally baffling).

Have a nice day, y'all, and don't sweat the small (or large, as the case may be) stuff.

(1) Eisenman, R. "Penis size: Survey of female perceptions of sexual satisfaction". BMC Women's Health 2001, 1:1.
(2) Francken, A.B. et al. "What Importance Do Women Attribute to the Size of the Penis?". European Urology 2002, 42:5, pp 426-31
(3) Marmor, J. "Some Considerations Concerning Orgasm in the Female". Psychosomatic Medicine 1953, 3:240
(4) Štulhofer, A. "How (Un)Important Is Penis Size for Women with Heterosexual Experience?" Archives of Sexual Behavior 2006, 35:1, pp 5-6
(5) "Human penis size". Wikipedia*
*Always check the citations. Wikipedia is only as reputable as its sources.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • The question gets asked so often, because it never gets answered. You only have idiots say..
    1. it doesn't matter
    2. it who it's attached to
    3. it the motion of the ocean not the size of the ship
    4. I don't carry a measuring tape (you do have a hand don't you?, You probably know the size of your favorite toy)
    5. you have girls that only give sarcastic/negative or absurd answers

    Either the girl is a virgin that never had sex, doesn't enjoy it so doesn't care, is a prude, just doesn't wants to pick on guys that are just looking for answers.

    • Size matters if it's very small or very big. I used to know a couple. His penis was just over 2 inches erect. She loved him. They had a good sex life. He made her cum a lot and fulfilled many fantasy roles as part of their fun in the bedroom. But she definitely needed/ wanted to be allowed to fuck other men. I'm slightly bigger than average and when we got together she would quite literally be drooling. An ex girlfriend had had a few really big dicks. She said it felt amazing to be so fully stretched, but a hard pounding could quickly become uncomfortable

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  • funny222 - How, then, can I get across to you that I really, honestly, genuinely don't care? What are you going to do, torture a "real" answer out of me? I'll still say the same thing, because it's how I really feel. That's why I wrote the article in the first place.

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  • interesting to note that landingsite's conclusion of "size doesn't matter" comes from someone that doesn't, wont, and can't possibly comprehend the actual experience of contemplating the depth of the concept and it's implications to one's overall self-image. just as no man will ever truly, instinctively understand the complex, infinite effects in regards to child-bearing, no woman will ever truly come to grips with the totally pathetic preoccupation many of us members have with our 'members'

  • Size does matter, but mostly to men. Many guys (not all) believe that the ability to procreate and be a "man" is directly related to the size of a penis. Therefore, no woman can possibly be sexually satisfied by a small penis. This is most likely reinforced by the images of supernaturally large penises portrayed in p*rnography. Hopefully someday, men will realize it's all about technique and not size. :)

  • Actually, the "mine is bigger than yours" can be seen very commonly in women as well--mostly with breasts and occasionally the buttocks.

  • Great answer, guys, READ THIS AND LISTEN!

    It's getting old... And search bar is clearly not good enough for those burning questions...

  • "don't sweat the petty things, just pet the sweaty things"

  • No it doesn't matter to me! Currently with a FWB that's on the small side, but he knows how to compensate in other ways.. But I'm in late 30s he's 41. Maybe for younger people it matters...

  • size doesn't matter as long as it is big enough.

  • All of your research is too old. I have noticed this becoming more and more of an issue in the last five years. In-fact I just read an article about a woman who took a survey of her college senior class who said the exact opposite, but it didn't have to do with the sex it's self. Men who larger penis had more confidence and thus were more enjoyable in and out of the bedroom.

  • Size really doesn't matter too much. Guys just need something to brag about.

    It's like girls and their boobs. There's a general area that are considered "good" and if they fit the criteria they brag about them relentlessly (yes, I'm one of THOSE). Yet big or small, they still get the job done.

    It's really not size that counts. It what you do with it that makes a difference.

  • okay seriously, size does not matter, it is what you do with it that counts.

  • A guy just wants to be sure of a couple things. One, he's not going to get laughed at when she see's it and two, that he can give her an orgasm during intercourse. It's not exactly a fully selfish question being that it would appear to a man penis size is important for arousing a woman.

  • funny222 - I can honestly tell you that women do not care. Most times, unless they actually, physically see it, they can't even tell with any accuracy how big you are. They can guesstimate, but it really is more about the "motion of the ocean". One girl I was with was actually pleased - she said the guy before me would hit her cervix and it was uncomfortable, making sex unenjoyable.

    If a woman is telling you she doesn't care, take her at her word.

  • Good, now we can ban those questions and clean up the site!

  • Never had any complaints about myself, but I would think that a guy who worries over the length/size has a serious lack of self confidence.

    Breast enlargement, reduction, I've never seen the point of it myself (apart from medical reasons) some girls have a confidence problem and compare themselves to what the media says that they should look like.

    Girls worry about boob size, guys worry about d*** size. Just be confident in yourself and stop comparing yourself to others and be happy.

  • Yeah purdy much. Basically accept whatcha got because that's all you got. There really is no totally safe or proven penis augmentation out there, so why bother worrying about it? Just chill the hell out and learn to use it well. Never hurts to have a flexible tongue either.

  • Thanks for a well written and referenced article. I don't know why people ask those questions so much about penis size over and over again. Guys grow up!

  • Guys seem obsessed with trying to prove they're better then the next guy, and somehow their penis size has something to do with that. It's ego nonsense, and very silly.

  • I think women who say they don't care about penis size...well, I think they're lying and they're just trying to sound like "good girls". For if they said yes it matters, then they'll be self-conscious of themselves for if a guy is big, well then surely he expects a woman to have an exceptionately beautiful body, which not all women do, and so women don't want to feel this kind of pressure.

  • Oh please. Women like to *pretend* it doesn't matter.

    And it probably doesn't matter *as much* as men tend to think. But a guy with a micro penis has no freaking chance on keeping a woman

  • I honestly think it has to do with female sex drive. If she has a low sex drive to none, she won't care about penis size at all, since it won't matter. If a girl has an average to high sex drive, there has to be a minimum requirement for penis size. Granted that what she thinks is acceptable will be smaller than what guys find acceptable.

    If a girl says she doesn't care if her next boyfriend has a micro-penis even, that just might not be such good news.

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