The Reason Why I'm Insecure about My Penis Size

The Reason Why I'm Insecure about My Penis Size

I know these things get asked a lot or there are a lot of takes on penis size and it can be tedious and annoying but i just want people to understand why i'm insecure about it. I'm 4 inches and i know it's small and it sucks when life gives you an unfortunate hand to deal with. This picture represents how i feel inside because of my size. Ya you may think it's ridiculous but read the rest to understand better.

I know a lot of girls say that guys with small sizes shouldn't be insecure. Okay but how am i and other guys not supposed to be insecure when most girls on this site say that size matters and small penises are a turn-off? It's a confidence crusher and it messes with self-esteem. I know i sound bitter, buy it's more self-hatred for myself. I literally criticize myself and hate myself for my size a lot. It's coming to a point where i feel no girl will ever give me a chance because of my size, almost as if i'm not worthy of sex from a potential partner because of it. I have this belief that most girls would dump and leave a guy for having a small penis and go out with another for having a bigger size.

It's gotten worse to the point where i feel no desire for sex even masturbating. I don't masturbate anymore and i feel my sex drive is going down because i don't desire sex anymore because of my size. I'm envious of guys who have a better sex life because of their size, they seriously have nothing to worry about when they're average or above average, hell it gives them confidence while it makes me feel like shit. I'm coming to conclusion that i should just try and love myself again because if nobody will love me because of a body part, then at least i am my own person that needs to learn to love myself when nobody else will.

It's frustrating, why did i have to be given shitty genetics, while others are blessed and have nothing to fear? 4 inches 10 cm is a curse, i seriously am not even thinking about dating anymore because of it. I'm sure a lot of other guys feel the way i do and are calling it quits because of it. It's not girls faults, i know it's human nature to be attracted to certain things. I also it's human nature to be disgusted by abnormal things and it's fine, nobody's fault but my own. I will try my best to focus on other things in life instead of focusing on sex since i will never experience it because of my size. I know that life is not all about sex and i knows there's more to life.

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Most Helpful Guy

  • Listen dude, you still have your manhood of 4 inches and 10 CM, that's a good length. All a guy needs is 3 inches to satisfy women and your not alone in your thinking. I'm under 5 inches of length so I know what you mean, it does suck when you compare yourself to a guy like Frank Sinatra. But you shouldn't let it get to you.
    There are women out there who like guys with a smaller penis. If you think about it, having a five inch penis going in someone has to hurt in a way. With 4 inches, yours will be more pleasurable.

Most Helpful Girl

  • Most girls do not care. The ones who do are insecure themselves about something or are just stuck up snobs. But grown, mature women truly do not care. 4 inches is only like 1 inch smaller than the average size anyway. And you said you're 4 inches and 10 cm. Last I checked, that is actually almost the national average in the US anyways.

    I don't get why guys think girls can look at a penis and tell how big it is. We aren't programmed with a ruler in our brains lol.

    • @Elarra Not sure why you got so many downvotes for that.

    • @RegularTK421 Probably for the fact that I disagreed with what he said. You know most people on this site can't handle someone having a different opinion lol

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  • you do realize that you only need 3 inches to satisfy a woman, right?

    sure, some women like big dicks. but not everyone's a size queen, and anything past 3-4 inches is just for show/doesn't actually add pleasure.

    we women are often told that only thin girls are deserving of love. i'm no supermodel, but my husband loves me anyway, and i've come to like myself as well; in time, you will too.

  • Literally most of my female buds that are close to me are with guys around your size. Yes, on this site you will see a lot of women say big is ideal, tall is ideal, fit is ideal: but ideals > reality are two different things.

    Most men would love to date a woman who looks like a celebrity, does that mean he wouldn't date a woman that didn't live up to that? No. It's the same with dick size: sure it isn't ideal for a lot of women but it isn't exactly like we're 100% ideal ourselves. We sometimes have acne, lop sided boobs, tummy pudginess and so on. Doesn't mean we're unlovable. It's the same for smaller guys. If you treat it like it cripples you, it will.

    I'm not saying you won't possibly get rejected, I'm not saying every girl won't be a size queen. But most average girls won't totally write you off unless you allow it to totally cripple you.

    • The average girl still wouldn't accept my size for what it is. And you say they wouldn't totally write me off which implies that they'll still reject me damn size.

  • Hi Guy... Can I ask? how long have you been worrying about all of this? And also how long do you think you are going to be worrying about it? years? Will you beleave me when I tell you that you can infact grow your penis to as big as you want it? Because, a year from now, your penis will be 10 inches long. www.okaydick.com: check out this site, download information and videos, put an hour every two days to one side, and start growing. Not only will you penis grow but also your confidence in yourself. You will see... Don't worry too much because things change all the time and it is time for you to change what you don't like about yourself. True...

  • It would be average in Philppines, Cambodia and Myanmar, cheer up ;)

  • HEY MAN. I'M 4.5 INCHES LONG AND 5 INCHES THICK. I HAVE HAD SEX WITH 30 DIFFERENT WOMEN OVER THE PAST 4 YEARS. TRUST ME. YOUR SIZE doesn't MATTER. BE CONFIDENT IN YOURSELF AND NEVER DOUBT YOURSELF WHEN IN BED (CAUSE YOU LOOSE YOUR ERECTION DURING STRESS). ALSO FUCK ALL THOSE OTHER PEOPLE WHO SAYS OTHERWISE. TAKE IT FROM ME AND GO FOR IT AND FUCK THOSE GALS.

  • I have been with a guy who was 4 inches... the sex was awesome. Now.. he was also 15 years younger than me.

  • Look I understand and feel you.. The internet is a great place that can be used to encourage you.. But it can also be the most discouraging place, taking you to the most insecure spot.. But, you also need to understand that a girl who loves you gon work with you on yo size.. It's not really that bad.. Some girls may even prefer smaller, or not care at all.. Girls or people on G@G don't count for even 1/4 of the population.. LOL.. All you gotta do is find the girl for you.. 4 inches may not be the ideal.. But it's not terrible.. Have some confidence in yoself..

  • Bro, listen to me:

    First of all, some women are shallower than others and for some girls, a five inch penis is verging on painful. Instead of being SO ashamed and SO horrified, try being totally honest and upfront with women about your size, you may find that some girls think your size is just fine, and if a girl says anything different, or gives you a dirty look, blow her off! Go to the next one.

    Secondly, God gave you more than one tool to please a woman and if one tool is too small, you have bigger ones at your disposal:

    brobible.files.wordpress.com/.../...-09-23-pm2.png

    Thirdly, if nothing else, there is surgery:
    https://www.drelist.com/penile-enlargement-surgery/

    www.associatesinplasticsurgery.com/male-enhancement-surgery

    https://www.socalphalloplasty.com/

    https://www.loriamedical.com/

    If you gotta, you gotta. There's no shame in it, brother. If you had a deformed face, nobody would blame you for getting plastic surgery. Maybe you feel like you are deformed, maybe you can't just "get over it." Well, you still have options. Look into it.

  • Dude, no matter how nice a lot of these women seem, with all the wonderful things they have to say, the percentage of them who will be up for a 4" cock is probably about 5-10%, max. IF a guy has 7", he can score about 25-60% of women (some want smaller). IF a guy is 8" or more, his odds increase - he'll score 20-85% of women. I'm at 6", so my odds are around 50/50.

  • How old are you?

    You seem like a young buck so let me spit some elderly truth your way. Penis size DOES matter, but only to a certain extent.

    Obviously, the bigger you are, the better you'll be able to pleasure a girl (and not to mention the confidence boost you'll get at the sight of seeing her jaw drop when you pull it out).

    However, that's not the be-all and end-all. The truth is: If you can get a girl to cum, then your penis size does not matter one single bit.

    Think about it, what's the point of sex other than for procreation? It's to provide the ultimate pleasure. But the only reason girls prefer a bigger penis is because they believe a bigger penis will be more pleasurable. Makes sense, right?

    So what this means to you is that as a smaller endowed gentleman, you need to hone your skills. Since you won't be able to supply the size, supply something else. Learn how to eat a girl out. Learn how to last longer in bed (kegels). Learn how to hit just the right angle so she moans and screams "Don't stop!!". Learn how to touch her and play with all her sensitive parts.

    If you can do all that, then your penis size does not matter. Yeah, she might laugh at you at first or have a face of disappointment when you pull it out, but when you fuck her real good and get her to cum multiple times in one session, she'll look at you like you're a GOD.

    Of course, there are definitely size queens out there who only care about having a huge dick rammed up their orifices, but let's be real, do you really wanna be getting in bed with a girl like that? Probably not.

    And besides, if you're really worried about penis size... then get rich. Money is the great equalizer. I kid you not. If you have money, then you can get even the stingiest size queens to suck your knob like it's a cocaine laced lollipop.

    (Besides, most girls have been with so many terrible guys, just by knowing how to pleasure a girl, you'll be way ahead of most dudes -- even the dudes that are packing 8+ inches.)

  • I blame all women. Not just for insecurity, but for everything. It's all their fault.

    • Most women don't care about the penis size and many cares much more about a guy's height than his dick.

    • @curiousnorway yeah, the height of his dick not the girth.

  • When you think that it's so important, remember--everyone knows height is so important too. Short guys are gross and will never go far in life. Well, aside from examples like Elijah Wood, who was the star of a blockbuster trilogy... Daniel Radcliffe, who basically earned enough for a house made of solid gold... Johnny Galecki, who makes more per tv episode than most of us make in five years... Martin Freeman, Jonah HIll, Tom Cruise...

  • Stay away from pornography, stop worrying so much about what women think (or, rather, what you think that they think), and just be thankful that everything works as it should.

  • You can choose to either be a person who rates or a person who's rated. in other words, you can determine for yourself whats a beautiful woman and let women decide for themselves whats an attractive man. there's a lot of factors that go into that and size is only one.

    using something else as an example, i'm 6'2 but i see a lot of guys shorter than me with even hotter girlfriends. I'm not mad at it and i actually respect it because i know for a lot of guys they have to overcome the insecuritiy of girls saying they only like tall guys. We guys say we only want big tits and ass and of course that makes our heads turn but honestly that has very little to do with love. i recetnly had sex with a girl that had a perfect body as i see it and it was great sex and we did it like four times in a row but after that i was done with her and never thought about calling her again. don't aim to be the fantasy aim to be the real thing

  • Buy a penis extender. Sizegenetics has some good ones. Wear it nine hours a day for six months. After that, you won't have any problems whatsoever.

  • It only matters if you think it matters. I think there's a study about insecurities linking to penis size

  • Age?

    • 23 years old

  • Hold on, how did you know girls won't accept you for your size? Did you walk up to every single girl and ask is a 4 inches dick ok? The problem I see here is primarily from your head. You worry this, you think this, feel that, but you have no solid proof that your dick size is a cause. I think what you need to do actually is "know how to use it" because from my experience, making a woman orgasm doesn't require deep penetration aka need a big long dick.

  • Ok then...

  • I'm the same size and of course size matters. Women and girls are size queens. I'd give up red meat to gain the extra 4-5''.

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